There’s always going to be those cheesy, inspirational sayings that make you feel better for about five seconds. Then, you’re right back in a frenzy of worry. The advice I’m going to share with you is truly what has changed my life for the most part. Now, following this advice is up to you. I know for me that was the hardest part. I always thought I knew best and that if I tried doing things a different way that I would just end up back where I was. Like every other teenage girl, I didn’t listen. After some time I finally let go and listened, and my life isn’t perfect by far; but, it’s so much better than it used to be.
1. Your mom really does know best.
The friends she doesn’t like are usually the ones that end up staying in your life for a short period of time. The boys she isn’t sure about are typically the bad ones. She’s just looking out for you when she sets a curfew for you on the weekends. Those three things were some of the most frustrating for me in high school. I thought I was an adult for most of my high school career and I wish I would have let her take care of me a little bit more than I did.
2. Let things happen how they’re supposed to happen. Don’t rush anything.
Things will always pan out how they’re supposed to, whether you try to make them or not. Also, the more you try to force something, the worse it is going to turn out. That is something I had to learn that one the extremely hard way. Sometimes, it’s still a work in progress. I always thought I was ready for something that I wasn’t actually ready for. There are things in life that can’t be forced: jobs, boyfriends, other opportunities, etc. All of those things will happen right as they are meant to. This message isn’t meant to be misconceived as not being able to work for things. Girl (or boy), work your ass off for that degree, for that promotion, or for anything that requires hard work. Be sure not to push things that aren’t for the right reasons.
3. Things will always get better.
They have to eventually, right? (This is what I keep telling myself about my math grade usually) No matter how bad things get, they will always get better. If things are going absolutely terrible and you’ve hit rock bottom, you have nowhere to go but up. Personally, I’ve hit rock bottom several times and gotten back up each time. There will always be something to look forward to. In high school, I looked forward to college when things got hard. When you’re going through a bad breakup, look forward to when you finally find that person that’s perfect for you. Don’t forget to celebrate and cherish the good things when they do happen. Don't always rush through your life, waiting for the "better" experiences to happen. Look for the light at the end of the tunnel as well as finding the good in the bad.
The world comes with ups and downs, that is inevitable. It’s how you handle those ups and downs that really matters. Let your family be there for you and support you, learn to relax and trust that there is more to life than the little things that go wrong, and always look forward to the future and realize the good times when they’re happening rather than wishing you could go back because you didn’t realize it was so good.
