To The Women Who Trash Feminists, Stop Following The Crowd, We Are Not As Crazy As You Think

To The Women Who Trash Feminists, Stop Following The Crowd, We Are Not As Crazy As You Think

Because of "crazy" women in the past, we have the rights we deserve within this society.


I am so tired of hearing people, specifically, other women, classify feminists as crazy, man-hating, and emotional individuals trying to shove ideas down everyone's throats. First of all, we are not man-hating. It's 2018, but we still live in such a patriarchal society that women stepping up to a man's "level" is seen as threatening and women calling out what's wrong with this patriarchal society is seen as man-hating.

Secondly, we are not crazy. I wasn't aware that wanting to be socially and economically equal to men was such a "crazy" idea, anyway. Yes, we protest in vagina costumes and call out the sexist bullshit happening within society, but I wouldn't classify that as crazy. I prefer the term persistent.

Also, to all you ladies claiming to have feminist ideas shoved down your throat, if ideas weren't shoved down throats in the past, women wouldn't have voting rights. Women wouldn't be able to work. Women wouldn't be able to get abortions. Because of "crazy" women in the past, we have the rights we deserve within this society. If you think about it, the same women now who refuse to accept modern feminism and call modern feminists unreasonable, crazy, annoying...feminists in the past who fought for basic rights were called the SAME THING.

I understand that some so-called feminists may stray from the true idea of feminism. They may make it about the superiority of women and bash women who don't match their ideals. The main idea of this movement is CHOICE. The choice to work, the choice to be a housewife, the choice to wear the hijab, choice to marry, the choice to have children. If a woman truly wants to make whatever decision for herself and her life, no man nor woman has the right to stop her.

However, women cannot keep bashing women who want to keep fighting for that right to choose. We are each other's greatest support. We need to stop trying to stop progression. Men and women still do not have equal pay. It is 2018. Women still have to work thrice as hard as men to make even close to their salary. In some states, it is still extremely difficult to get an abortion. Why though?

As I mentioned before, one of the main aspects of feminism is the right to choose. Men have the right to choose in most aspects of their life. So should women. Whether you're pro-life or pro-choice, you do not have any right to force a woman to carry for nine months and take away her choice to abort. That is her body — her CHOICE.

Yes, feminists dress in vagina costumes to protest. That might seem crazy to some women, but to me, that's awesome. Do vagina costumes make you feel uncomfortable? That's how women feel when they are pressured to keep their baby. That's how women feel when men stalk them, abuse them, rape them. That's how most women feel on a regular basis. There are many other things about this world that should make you feel uncomfortable, stop getting hung up on feminists who are fighting for women as a WHOLE.

I know it may seem easy to say that women already have so many rights in America compared to Saudi Arabia and other countries where women have zero rights. But wait, just because women in other countries are treated like crap, American women should just stay in one place? Just because you as an American woman have supportive men in your life, grew up in a safe neighborhood, never had to deal with sexism in your career or social life does NOT mean other American women have the same privileges.

Feminism fights for ALL women.

Feminism fights for those who never had a day in their life where they weren't insulted or bashed for being a woman. Feminism fights for future generations so they grow up in a country where they don't have to be ashamed of their bodies, live up to social beauty standards, and where they have a CHOICE as a woman.

I know it seems hard to accept change. When women got voting rights in 1919, there were women who claimed those activists were crazy. The women who bashed the activists were fine the way they were. They were okay with only men having a say in the laws in a country they all lived in. Those "crazy" activists spent nights in jail because they knew they had to fight to receive the rights they deserve in this country.

So, to the women who continue to trash feminists, I think you need to take a step back and look at it from a different perspective. The decisions you make when you vote, your tweets about crazy feminists, your articles bashing protesters, you represent women as a WHOLE. Minority women, trans women, all types of women. We are one. Once you realize that, you will also realize how much feminism is truly needed in this country. The fight will always go on.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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We Most Certainly Still Need Feminism In 2019

It's not just for white women in America.


I've heard the arguments so many times it's become tiring: "We don't need feminism anymore in America." People claiming it's time for feminists to hang up their hats because we've made it. They say the age of equality is here, that there's no room for it in 2019. Think pieces and would-be spokespersons say women in America have reached a point where we can stop struggling against sexism.

And to a point, I do not disagree. Women in America do have more rights and respect than ever before. Scratch that: straight, white women in America have more rights and respect than ever before. There are still plenty of issues needing to be solved for the women of color living in our country, and for the American LGBT+ population.

In addition, who says that just because things in America are going well means that things are going well for all women? What about the rest of the world? What about the girls in one of the 117 countries where child marriage is legal? What about the women in the workplace who can't stick up for themselves because they'll be labeled as the 'angry black woman' by male peers? What about the LGBTQ+ men and women living in countries where it is illegal for them to simply be who they are?

You cannot claim feminism isn't necessary simply because it is no longer necessary for you. The United States has come an incredibly long way from the days of women being unable to own property, and many of the women in this country are in a uniquely powerful position. But we need to use this power to lift up the women who are not experiencing the same level of equality and freedom. The world cannot be done with feminism because sexism is not done with the world.

We can't stop now. We're not in a position to step back, sit on our laurels, and proudly look around at the world and its treatment of women. If we do, we are overlooking an entire generation of girls all across our globe being abused, mistreated, and disrespected. While women in America have been celebrating the right to vote for nearly 100 years, and the Violence Against Women Act has increased protections for minorities, there are still more women outside of America desiring that same freedom. Feminism is just as necessary in our modern world as it always has been.

Feminism is entering a new wave, and we need to welcome it in with open arms. While some may view this wave as the man-hating, free-the-nipple era, what it really is is the age of intersectional feminism, which advocates for the needs of people whose identities intersect multiple minority groups. If our feminism isn't intersectional, then who are we fighting for?

If your idea of equality doesn't include women in other countries, it isn't equality.

if it doesn't include women of color, it isn't equality.

If it doesn't include trans and queer women, it isn't equality.

If your idea of equality doesn't include everyone, it isn't equality.

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