Ladies, You Are Enough

Ladies, You Are Enough

Too many women and young girls feel unworthy because of what society says. We are all unique and beautiful in our own way.


You look in the mirror and criticize everything you see. Every time you take a picture you overanalyze it and end up saying you hate it. You work out a lot because you're never satisfied with the way you look. You hate going shopping because you hate the way clothes make you feel. You see that girl that everyone loves and you ask why can't I be more like her? You're constantly trying to do so many things so people will like you. You want to be fun and smart and pretty and kind and everything that everyone else wants you to be. You need people to tell you that you are pretty or skinny and all kinds of things.

But no matter how many compliments or reassurance you get you never believe it.

I've been there. I get it. But let me tell you, you are beautiful. Rest your aching heart honey, because you are special. You are you and that is all you have to be. You are loved. You are enough.

Romans 8:39 "Neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Different people believe these lies about themselves for different reasons. It can be from childhood bullying, a traumatic event or even just societal pressure. But that's what they are.. lies.

Speaking from experience, the saying about how people just tear others down because they are actually insecure is true. When my confidence was at its lowest, I was not nice. I wanted attention because I needed people to tell me good things about myself, but I also tried to push attention on others because I didn't want people to see my imperfections. It was a constant cycle of feeling good and bad until I eventually crashed.

The key to loving others is loving yourself first. If you are genuinely happy, you won't have to fake it.

Psalms 139:14 I" praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."

Taking care of myself and learning to really embrace my imperfections was such a big step for me. I stopped listening to lies and unrealistic standards set for women my age and started listening to myself. I learned to appreciate myself more.

One of the most important things to do if you struggle with confidence is stopping negative talk. You don't have to become cocky and rude, but when you feel down learn how to lift yourself up. Write down things you are proud of or you like about yourself. Know you are special in your own way. You are valuable and worthy.

Proverbs 3:15 "she is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare to her."

Being skinnier or having blonde hair won't make you happier. Eventually, a new trend will come around that you will feel the need to conform to. True joy comes from accepting your imperfections and loving yourself in whatever stage you're in. It is perfectly okay to be realistic and say things like "I should be eating healthier," or "I really need a haircut" but the harmful behavior comes when you're doing those things because you feel you aren't worthy unless you change. You are already amazing.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 "He has made everything beautiful in its time. "

People always say, "I will be enough for the right person" which is true but also carries a negative influence on women. As girls, we shouldn't be going around looking for someone to make us feel like we are "enough." Be enough for yourself. Fall in love with yourself before you fall in love with someone else. Don't think you have to look or act a certain way for others to like you. Be content with your own company. It is nice to have other people in your life but don't let the need for acceptance cause you to negatively view yourself.

Song of Solomon 4:7 "you are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you."

Even the "it girl" who seems to have it all and be perfect has insecurities. "Skinny" or "pretty" people still have insecurities. No one is perfect. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. No two people are the same and that's what makes this world so beautiful. You don't have to try to be someone else.

God put you on this earth for a reason. Everyone has imperfections and insecurities. It's natural. Don't let that bring you down. I pray that you will be able to view yourself the way God does. We are his daughters whom he loves.

1 Samuel 16:7 "…The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."

At the end of the day, physical features fade. What matters is inner beauty. Be kind to others. Don't tear each other down. Especially if you have struggled with confidence. If you spent days crying because you never felt enough, don't go making someone else feel that way. As a society, we should be encouraging other women and lifting each other up. We all know how hard it is to live in this world and accept yourself for who you are. Love each other.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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You May Be In College, But Positive Reinforcement Is Still Essential For A Better Life

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence.


Being a freshman in college is tough, and I'm absolutely positive that I'm not the first person to say that. For me, the biggest adjustments came with being far from home, having to make brand new friends, and actually figuring out what I want to do with my life. Now, those first two items were not that difficult to find solutions to, but that last one? That is a completely different story.

In the span of six-seven months, I have gone back and forth, again and again with just about every combination of majors and minors that you could think of. At this moment, I think I've finally found a combination that will truly push me to succeed in my goals. By the end of next semester, I'm hopeful that I will be able to declare my major and minors.

But, the point of this article is to share the point in this current semester, where I really believed that my goals can become a reality. Right now, I am enrolled in a course called "introduction to critical intelligence studies." After much debate with the class, our professor decided to put our midterm online, making it a take-home exam. It consisted of a few multiple choice questions and three essays of our choosing. With the idea that this exam was take-home, I knew that my professor would be expecting us to put our best foot forward and all of our time and effort into making sure we did well.

And I did. This was the first midterm result that I got back and it was a 100. How did I find this out? For one day, instead of class, my professor met with each of us individually for at least ten minutes to discuss what we were hoping to get out of this class. It was during this meeting that she told me my grades and more.

My professor had explained to me that based on my writing, she did not think that I was just a mere freshman. She continued to say that I have a knack for analysis, as well as the fact that it was truly evident that I took in all the information from her lectures and the assigned readings. With my grades in mind and what I hoped to do in the future, my professor assured me that I should have no problem accomplishing my goals. My professor made sure that I had confidence in myself and my abilities, providing me with even more steps that would lead to success.

It's truly amazing to see how positive reinforcement, especially from a professor or someone who works in your chosen field, can boost your confidence. This reinforcement has provided me with the means and opportunity to further push myself. Since this meeting, I have been in constant contact with my professor to learn about different opportunities that can build up my resume. With her help, as well as the director of the program, I've been able to learn more about anything and everything that has to do with intelligence.

I'm proud to say that I want to go into such a field. And I'm also proud to say that I'm thankful for everyone who has decided to push me and not only celebrate my successes — but also to help me learn from my mistakes.

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