It’s unfortunate when you come across a boy that doesn’t fit any preconceived molds you have in mind. The Frat Boy, Athletic Star, The F***boy. An article from medium.com details who the Softboy is. For further information, check out a followup article by Galore Mag. If you don’t read either of these, let me give you the lowdown.
The Softboy is the boy that corners you. He gets under your skin and makes you feel as though you’re on his mind as much as he is on your mind. The Softboy wants to get to know you. He wants to know what makes you tick, your dreams and your aspirations. Everything. The Softboy makes you feel beautiful, like you have a fighting chance in the dating world. “He is emotionally intelligent but does nothing with this knowledge. He is artistic. He is aware. He is still a dick.”
The Softboy doesn’t care about you.
One day, you’re exchanging paragraphs of texts about your deepest darkest secrets, then the next day he’s not replying to the funny Snapchat you sent. Two days later, he asks why the two of you haven’t been talking. He makes you feel secure with everything. You feel like you’re in a tunnel and you can’t find the way out.
You feel like he knows you. He understands the pain you’ve both been through. He causes more.
Softboys know all the trends but they aren’t f***boys. How could he be? He wants to talk all night and all day. He wants to go on dates. He wants to hold your hand. He’s sensitive and cares about you.
He stops replying. You don't understand why. "We just talked yesterday!" turns into "He still hasn't replied" turns into "What did I do?"
The Softboy contacts you months later to apologize for everything. You’ve moved on.
