Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again

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Today dating has become a little less romantic than it seems to have been in the '50s and '60s movies. It seems that those were the good days where people actually sent you letters and not one letter text messages with like 20 different meaningless emojis. The dreaded dating sites where you don't know if you are taking to that person in the pictures or being catfished did not exist.

Here are a some old fashion dating habits we need to bring back to the 21 st century.

1. Asking someone to go out and not calling it "hanging out."

I do not care if you do not follow any other adivice on here but you must follow this one. This is the most simple thing you can do when starting a relationship. There will be zero confusion of what you consider a friend or a girlfriend. Maybe then your date can actually be a date.

2. Get out of you car and go to the front door to pick up your date.

Don't just do it for prom, do it for every date. You will not die if you actually go the front door and knock instead of sending a text message that you're there. Plus, while you are out there, maybe you can open your car door for her...or not.

3. Make an effort to dress nicely for dates.

I am pretty sure you look pretty darn cute in your gym shorts and muscle tees but let's leave them for the gym. I am not saying to wear a full-on tux every time you go on date, but how about nice shirt that does not have a stain from your latest lunch. Dressing up on both the girl's and boy's side shows that you actually care about the fact that you are going on a date with that person.

4. How about a romantic gesture?

Lets not wait until that person is dead to give them flowers. Bring her flowers, chocolates, or even write her a letter to show her how much you care about her. If that's not your style, how about giving her a playlist or necklace that reminds you of her?

5. Turn off your cellphones or put them away while on a date

How annoying is it when you are trying to get a conversation going and the other person is on their phone not even texting but on Instagram? Let's put the phones away and actually talk to each other. Have a staring contest instead, but don't be looking through your phone.

6. The concept of asking for permission.

Ask the other person if it's okay to hold hands. This way you actually state that you are ready to move on to the next step instead of coming on as too pushy.

7. Take your date out to go dancing.

Run out of date ideas? How about going to a dance that does not involve grinding? Go out to a ballroom or salsa dance class. There's nothing more romantic than pretending you're in Ed Sheeran's "Thinking Out Loud" music video.


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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.
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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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How To Help Your Post Vacation Blues As Told By The Kardashians

They are real!

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When the end of an amazing trip comes some people may be left feeling sad or even depressed.

This can include loss of appetite, loss of interest, exhaustion, and nostalgia.

Post vacation blues are defiantly a real thing, so don't feel alone or 'crazy' if you feel that you are experiencing them.

And sadly we aren't all rich and famous like the Kardashains so we can't just take off on our private jet whenever we feel like it.

So how can you go on a super fun vacation, without having to come home feeling down? Here are 8 ways that you can try and help those post vacation blues.

1. Catch up on some sleep

Sleep

Kim trying to sleep

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While vacation is supposed to be relaxing, we all know that sometimes it doesn't always turn out that way and that early morning activities, time change, and jet lag can all cause you to be very tired.

To try and find the energy the next day to get back to your daily duties, make sure that you go to bed early and catch up on your sleep so that you aren't a zombie just going through the motions the next day.

Even uber famous people like Kim need to sleep!

2. Practice self care

Bath

Bath time

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Go to the gym, take a bath like Kim, or do a face mask.

Whatever makes you feel a little better and relaxed, go for it!

This is a great way to make you feel better and a little less stressed out about being back and having responsibilities.

3. Tell your friends about your trip

Friends

Unless you went on it with them, like Kylie does, excuse me I meant *did*

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Reliving your vacation by telling your friends about the great experience that you had is a great way to reminisce on it, but also get it out of your system.

Just make sure that it isn't all that you are talking about and that it doesn't come off as standoffish.

 4.   Write a travel blog or make a scrapbook

Blog

But instead of Tumblr, it'll be your blog

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This is yet another way to relive your vacation in a healthy way.

It can help you save the memories that you made on it, while helping you find closure.

If you make a blog, it could help other people out who are looking to travel there and a scrapbook is a good way to preserve the memory.

 5.  Catch up with people

Friends

Hang out with these kinds of people

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Spend your free time meeting up with friends and family members to talk about what you missed while you were away.

This is a good way to get you back into the rhythm of being back home and at staying engaged in your life that you put on pause for vacation.

6. Start planning your next trip

Planning

What you will be saying if you don't plan it early

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Sure you may be sad about your trip, but who said that you can't start planning a news one for the future?

Of course money and other obstacles can be boundaries against you being immediately able to go on another trip, but there is no harm in preparing for the future.

7. Keep yourself busy

Hobby

Hobby

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Finding a hobby that you enjoy or immersing yourself in your work is a great way to distract yourself from those blues.

So take Kris's advice and find a new hobby!

8. Think about what you have at home

Dogs

Kris clearly missed her dog, even though I think that is actually Kim or Khloe's

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Sure being on vacation can be fun and a great escape, but surely there are things at home that you missed.

Maybe it was your dogs (or cat if you are one of those people) or your friends.

Whatever it was, focus on that and realize how lucky you are to have them in your life!

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