To The Girls Who Cry Rape, Think About What You're Doing

To The Girls Who Cry Rape, Think About What You're Doing

As a woman, it is embarrassing to see other women using something as serious as rape to get revenge.


In the old fable, the more the boy lies about the wolves the less validity he has. Similarly, with every woman that is caught lying the less valid each woman becomes after that. Because of the women who lie about sexual assault, the women who have actually been assaulted might never get the justice they deserve.

The 2006 Duke Lacross team scandal, the UVA "gang rape" in 2012, or more recently the former Baylor football player Shawn Oakman; all these cases involve women lying about sexual abuse. These women get up on the stand under oath and lie about who sexually assaulted them and sometimes lie about being assaulted altogether. When these women lie about something as serious as rape it has ample consequences.

What they either don't realize or chose to ignore, is the fact that lying will significantly affect the way REAL sexual assault cases are handled.

Courts are going to want to see more and more evidence in order to convict people which could lead to actual offenders being let off solely because juries or judges are second-guessing themselves. On top of that, it is just flat out cruel to real victims. When they see these cases on TV that are so similar to their own, they relate to the "victim" and in turn believe everything they say; and when these cases come out as fake it can be devastating to the real victims.

Lying about sexual assault not only affects the victims but can ruin the accused person's life.

When a man is accused of sexual assault they are, without question, guilty to most people. People tend to jump to conclusions and more often than not they chose to believe the "victim" even when there is no evidence to support her claim.

"Oh, but look how upset she is he has to be guilty"

"You can't fake those tears"

Don't underestimate the lengths people will go to, to get what they want.

They were probably crying because they are committing a federal offense that they could be thrown in prison for. In my opinion, they should be thrown in prison. They are knowingly committing perjury (lying under oath) and possibly ruining someone's life. In some cases, the accused were in prison for years until the truth finally came out but at that point, it was too late. These men were already labeled rapists, they lost their jobs, they didn't get to finish school. These men, some of who had their whole career ahead of them, are now left with nothing but their "freedom" and the women who accused them are not only just as free but still have their lives intact.

The women who falsely accuse men of sexual assault should receive some of the same jail time and/or consequences that the men they accuse.

As a sister, the thought of some girl falsely accusing my brother of sexual assault is terrifying. Young men are living in a constant state of fear when it comes to interacting with women. I have heard some of them joke about how they are going to start carrying around contracts and cameras every time they talk to a girl, but the fact they even have to joke about that is ridiculous. Women these days are frustrated that men don't make the first move, but it's because literally anything they do could be considered assault and even if they don't do anything the girl could lie and say they did.

If a woman is caught lying about who assaulted her, the magnitude of the assault, or if she was assaulted at all; there should be serious consequences because the consequences that the person she accused received/could receive are life-altering.

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Everything You Need To Know About Psychic Attacks And How To Recover From Them

Vampirism is stealing another's energy, and it hurts.

I am an empath and luckily, there are many great things about being one. I also have the ability to see things, mostly in my dreams, and pick up on certain messages throughout the day in the form of clairvoyance.

I basically ended up feeling perpetually used by people. They sought out my advice or help and once they got it, they were gone.

There was no reciprocity, they just moved on like I'd done nothing for them. It hurt the most when I was the one who occasionally needed help, and they were nowhere to be found. That left me feeling incredibly drained and tired all the time.

In work situations, I usually got guilted into doing work for other people and once again, they'd take the credit, and I'd get left drained, as well as, unrecognized and taken for granted. This is especially true with romantic partners.

Every time I got involved with a man, I'd do everything I could to help him fix his weak spots or bring him up. Many guys transformed into better people thanks to me and then, once they found someone who suddenly liked them because they were better, they ditched me.

It's a horrible feeling which I also contribute to having Pisces energy and that of self-sacrifice. The basis of this crux is simple: I helped a guy out or a friend, and they moved to a higher level once assisted and thought little of what I had done for them.

They did not realize that their turn for the better was, in part, from being close to me and my energy. Once they left, their luck went back down to mediocre, and I hardly felt sorry for them at that point.

These gifts are blessings and many people take them for granted or take advantage.

Then, they get steamed when that luck is gone. It's important for sensitive types to guard their energy as most will see it as a means to exploit and few will return the favor.

Perhaps, I helped someone with a problem in their wardrobe, popularity, or style. Perhaps, I filled them with a positive energy that made other women or people notice them who normally would not have.

This has happened almost universally with me and guys. Once I began dating a guy or liking a guy, women always seemed to find him more appealing because he was with me. That was fine, however, some of these men liked the new attention so much that they forgot about being loyal and appreciative or from where they got that newfound energy or zest.

I could sense that they were deliberating moving on which was frustrating because it happened all of the time, so often, that I got used to it. Therefore, I'd try and retain my energy as much as possible by refusing to get intimately involved or ceasing to give them help or assistance, especially if I had already done that.

All relationships should have a healthy give and take. Empaths usually end up giving way more because of their natures.

This is likely a form of vampirism or stealing another's energy and it hurts. I had to learn how to guard my own energy and only offer it to others, men especially, who weren't seeking to deplete me or to better themselves. I had to be careful with who I assisted so I wouldn't be left drained.

For starters, I had to drop my relatives, even though, it was hard and painful. The reason was that most of them, on some level, sucked my energy through guilt, intimidation or neglect. It was very difficult, but I withdrew. Even for those who weren't quite as toxic as the rest, I had to pull away if they were involved with outside influences that did drain me.

Maybe they didn't understand how hard that was for me; maybe, they didn't care. But the point is that I had to learn to put myself first because if I'm constantly going around giving and being depleted, I will be of no use to myself.

No relationship was greater a lesson in this than when I was abused for a year and a half. That man drained every ounce of energy I had and then some. He took and took and took, regardless of how I felt. He took things that mattered to me; he hurt me and things that I loved. He did so on purpose.

It was worse than just zapping my energy because he aimed to perpetually damage me. He aimed to torture. Perhaps, that gave him a sense of power by draining all that was good about me.

I was constantly stressed, scared, overwhelmed and on edge. I dwindled down in pounds, stopped exercising and looked like a bean pole. I had bags under my eyes and looked as psychically beat up as one could have ever imagined.

Even after I left, I still was not whole because he employed tactics to try and drain my energy from farther away.

Although it was not as bad as it had been when near him, it was bad in the form of cyberstalking, harassment, and subterfuge.

He devised ways to have other people do his dirty work. I'm not sure how, but I imagine it involved a gross misrepresentation, without my knowledge, somewhere in the dark, cyber world. And perhaps, he knew that if he set me up, that strangers, would seek me out and cause continual damage that tied back to his primary actions. Those being: the need to inflict pain and cause distress.

I'll give one example: a few days ago, I got a message from a person who claims to be a masseuse in another state. They sent me a message on Facebook. Now, there is nothing about my social life that suggests any interest in something like that. In reality, it triggers stress and trauma, distracts me from my goals and causes hardship.

I blocked this person. Then, the next day, someone else on Facebook sent me another message. I assume it was a male and he said that he had read my article on a particular topic, and then proceeded to ask me for my date of birth.

I was floored. The only other person I've ever met who so blatantly tried to steal my identity was the monster guy.

When I saw that, I thought it was related. Although I hate having to admit to having been conned once, it seems that over the years, I've been approached by so many others with similar agendas like they expect me to fall for a con again, because I fell victim once. It's like a perpetual burn, with others who will think you're an easy mark if you fall just once. It's really unfair and unending.

Once victimized always victimized? Well, no. I know better than to give my date of birth to a perfect stranger online. However, these weird and unsettling messages occur almost daily.

I have to patrol my social media accounts regularly to check who is following me or commenting on posts. At least once a week, there is some sketchy profile following me around or responding to my posts and every time, I report them and block them. But, they keep coming. They almost always center around something gross, inappropriate, uninvited, and undesired.

This is a psychic attack. Because the people who create phony accounts with disturbing messages do so in an effort to upset, annoy, harass, unsettle, and stress out people that they view as targets.

That is stalking, and it is a crime, as well, if it originates with the same person. You can attempt to get a restraining order against someone who is deliberately trying to bother you, even online. And if you aren't sure, the police can search computers and hard drives to prove that information is coming from a particular person or group as evidence through IP addresses.

If they have previously abused or committed a crime against you, which is my case, the law may consider that witness intimidation or tampering, and that is punishable by law. These days it is common for this to occur online in an effort to prevent testimony or incriminating evidence from being exposed.

It's definitely no fun, and no one is immune. The best course of action is to report it every time, and keep records of what is happening. You might be able to establish a pattern of behavior that can be traced back to a person or group.

Remember that knowledge is power. Don't react with emotion; react with the facts. Knowing your rights is critical too.

Cyberstalking, harassment, and bullying can be prosecuted. Although these people think that they are being cute and cannot be prosecuted, think again.

If the offensive behavior is unprovoked and a target has done all that they can to stay away from the offender, you may have a case. It demonstrates a pervasive, almost perverse obsession in those who seek out others and conduct themselves in a disrespectful, malicious way.

I've been dealing with this for nine years. Its just one extra thing to encounter, but the common thread is that these instances are meant to take my energy away.

After I met this monster creep, I lost everything and I had nowhere to live. I had a few options, but they all fell through. The last straw was when I moved in with a friend, and she constantly discounted my feelings and refused to support me. She went out drinking and faulted me for speaking to her boyfriend.

Amazingly enough, her boyfriend was trying to help me which is why we connected but, I made the choice to move out once she showed open hostility and resentment to my presence. That and the pressure to drink was enough. I couldn't deal with it as I didn't have any energy to spare.

I regretfully moved into a shelter, and it was there where I was poisoned with bath salts. That was not just a psychic attack; it was a physical attack too. I became trapped in the astral realm as a result.

What that means is that I wasn't existing on the physical plane where we have senses and can protect ourselves. I was trapped in a virtual dream world and completely open to having what remained of my physical self annihilated.

I was starving when I met my teacher. I was starving because I was not connected to my earthly body. I would have died without even realizing the need of hunger. My teacher performed an exorcism on me and yanked me back from the astral realm back into the physical plane. If I had remained in the astral realm, I would have eventually died.

The scary thing about the astral realm is that it is a place where all sorts of spirits and energies reside: good and bad, decent and evil.

The astral realm is the place that one can access by means of a Ouija Board and my teacher has stressed just how dangerous these are. They are not toys, they are extremely hazardous, and should never be used. The reason is that they directly access the astral realm, and you never know who is on the other side.

Once you are there, anything or anyone can take control of what is left of your physical life. When I met my teacher, something had me under its control. It was female, and she staked a claim to me. She possessed me and had put some kind of choke hold around my throat thus disabling my need for nourishment.

During the exorcism with Mr. Z, he demanded that the spirit leave. Then, he challenged it. I remember that I scoffed at him and laughed in his face when he said that. I emitted this awful, cackle laugh and replied to him, "You can't have her!"

I was stunned because it was my voice but it wasn't me speaking. Eventually, he gripped me back to reality and also gave me some incredibly valuable tools that I have used since then. I wanted to share what has helped me to survive vicious, multi-sourced, psychic attacks below.

1. Psalm 91

From the first day that I was rescued, I was instructed to read Psalm 91 every night. By some eerie twist, I happened to have bought a book at a store about a month before I met Mr. Z. I usually never bought books at this particular store, but one day I saw a book and knew that I needed to buy it. The book was "Psalms and Proverbs."

I still have that book today and since September 2011, I have read Psalm 91 every single night. I also added Psalm 71 a few months later. Every night I recite them both.

2. White Votives

I have lit white votives every night and said the Psalms since 2011, as well. I light my votives often as their purpose is to expel negative energy from me and my home. When I get home from work or even when I'm just chilling out, I light votives.

It's important that they are not scented as they need to be unadulterated candles, and scented candles are adulterated. I've noticed that during particularly stressful times, the more votives I have lit, the better I am. I also learned recently that even a computer image of a white candle burning is sufficient if you cannot find candles or afford them.

3. Salt & Vinegar Solution

I've been using this mixture for years mainly to handle nightmares. I have a paste made of vinegar and salt that I mix together and place in a high corner of my room.

Its function is to eliminate negativity and drive out psychic attacks. I didn't always check it every day and noticed that when I did not, my stress got worse. Therefore, I check it every day and makes sure it's stirred.

4. Meditation

I do hourly silent meditation once a day where I visualize unhooking negative energies from me. It is extremely helpful in freeing me from toxic energy.

5. Shoes, Clothing, and Hair

I do not let anyone cut my hair or change it outside of my teacher. That is because hair is protective of the body, and people can put negative energy or thoughts into your hair if they have bad intentions.

I always change my clothes when I get home too. In other words, I do not go to bed wearing anything I wore out in public because clothes pick up energy from the world around you. If and when you bring it home with you, the last place you want some strange person's energy is in your personal space or bedroom.

The same goes with shoes. I leave them at the door because they carry energy from the outside world, usually the lowest kind.

6. Crystals and Stones

I have a bag of personal crystals and stones that help me, and I carry them with me. My teacher tells me that when selecting a rock or stone, to pick the one that calls to you or is the most appealing. The reason for that is because you are in need of the energy or healing properties that it offers to you, and you can sense that by it calling out.

Even with all of these steps, I still have very visual dreams. I normally write them down and when I do that, they tend not to repeat themselves.

These things have helped me to combat vampirism and psychic attack. In addition to that, I drink only pure water, no tap. I try to eat as healthy as I can and use aromatherapy and essential oils. I exercise almost daily. I keep myself and my home clean. I don't mean obsessive-compulsive clean, just clean and functional.

I have been preparing and planning this resilience for years to where I'm much better off than I was before I almost died and I got extra help from the tools above. I really did not feel as affected by old ploys and tricks that might have previously upset me.

These are truly helpful for sensitive people, empaths, and clairvoyants who are largely at risk for psychic attacks. They also work really well for anybody who wishes to live a more productive and positive life.

I'm sure that you will see if you try some that you will notice a change in your life for the better. And count your blessings if you aren't an empath because you might have the luxury of doing this recreationally, whereas we sensitive souls must do them religiously in order to survive, thrive, and prosper.

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The Real Reasons Women Don't Report Sexual Assault

Content warning: Sexual assault.


These days in the United States, it is hard to get online and not see a headline of a woman coming forward telling her story of how she was sexually assaulted. You read the article and scroll through the comments underneath. Whether it happened last night, or 20 years ago, you'll probably see questions like these: "what was she wearing?" "was she drunk" "was she walking alone late at night?" If the rape didn't happen the night before, you'll probably see this question as well: "Well what took her so long to report?" Followed by an "I don't believe her, just another whore looking for attention." or.."He probably didn't call her back, so now she's looking for revenge." We can't forget my favorite, though "Was she drunk and just woke up regretting it?" Those are just a few reasons women don't report.

We see headlines about Brock Turner violently raping an unconscious girl, and getting sentenced only SIX MONTHS in jail. He only served three months. Brett Kavanaugh, who was accused of sexual assault by three women, was appointed as Supreme Court Justice. Donald Trump, the President of the United States, sexualizes his own daughter and says things like "grab her by the pussy." The leader of the free world speaks about women like that. Are you still questioning why we don't come forward?

If you find a woman willing to open up about her experience with sexual assault, her story will probably sound something like this. First comes the shock, what you just went through is unfathomable. You're not even completely sure if what you think just happened, happened. You blame yourself, you go through every second kicking yourself for not fighting back harder, not yelling, and maybe kicking yourself for not saying anything at all. Denial sets in shortly after. You tell yourself "no, that wasn't rape. That couldn't happen to me."

Eventually, the pain sets in and there are a lot of tears. It sucks, the dreams, the flashbacks, even certain sounds will take you back to that moment. Sometimes it causes panic attacks and severe anxiety. You dissociate, you don't want to socialize, you don't want to go out and have fun, because you're scared you'll break down. When the anger sets in, though, that's a different story. No man stands a chance, especially those who resemble him. You are repulsed by everything men do, and you think it will never go away. Honestly, you pity the next man you fall for, if that even happens because you don't know how you'll be intimate again, both emotionally and physically.

The last thing a sexual assault survivor wants is to see the person who did it again. So that plays a huge part in not reporting, along with the trauma that comes with getting a rape kit and being interrogated by the police, as if you've done something wrong. Once you've been completely violated, having a stranger poke and prod you to make sure you're not pregnant or don't have an STD feels like a violation all over again.

Don't ever ask a woman why she didn't report and do not ever ask why it took so long. You don't know what courage it took to accept it come forward in the first place.

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