There's No Handbook On How To Fall In Love In College

There's No Handbook On How To Fall In Love In College

So do it how it fits you best.

I'm at that point in my life where I basically have three different sets of friends. My graduating class is basically split into three parts. There's the half that has a job, a kid or two, and married. Then there's the half that has no interest in a relationship, drinks every night of the week, and constantly complains about being broke and their excessive amount of homework. And then there is the very small portion that falls in between the two. Those maybe still in college, or just graduating, maybe in a relationship but not quite to the point of marriage, and those working an adult job, but maybe not fully transitioned into everything that means being an adult.

Most people seem to handle this phase with grace. I, however, am having a few struggles. You see, I fall in that category of those few in between. I am still in college and will be for six more years (vet school..), but I live with my boyfriend whom I have talked marriage with. I sometimes feel as if I should hold off on marriage, I mean what's the rush? I don't plan on having kids until I am done with school, so why rush to marry? But then again, I have the part of me that wishes the job, marriage, and kids part of life could come a little quicker.

I mean, how am I supposed to do both? I have to live away from my boyfriend during the school year, except on breaks, because I go to school in another city, an hour away. So if we get married right now, how is that supposed to work? Is it okay to be married and live apart? Or should we just wait?

It's an awkward phase for sure, being in between what I feel like is being a true adult, and still being a college kid.

I know I can't be the only one to feel this way.

There's just no handbook on how to do these things. I mean no one seems to wait and do things the old fashioned way, finish school, get married, get a job, have kids. So since the standard is changing, it's confusing to me.

I guess we just take it as we take everything now and interpret it the way it fits best. Go to college or get a job, fall in love and get married on your own timeline, if a kid pops in the picture, handle it the best way possible.

Love is complicated, so this isn't supposed to be easy. That's the true test of knowing if that relationship is gonna work, because you have to deal with life in between.

So, whatever phase you're at in your young adult life, do things how they fit you best and don't worry about the rest.

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31 Reasons Why Shrek Is Actually The Man Of Your Dreams. Try To Disagree.

Finding the perfect man is hard. Sadly, Shrek only exists in fairy-tales.

Here are 31 reasons why you fell in love with Shrek 17 years ago and still wish he would rescue you today.

1. He has the Scottish accent of a foreign God.

2. He does not believe in true love of fairy-tales, either.

3. He is very low maintenance and does not demand much... Look at his home.

4. He will not judge if you do not wash your hair every night.

5. He is smart enough to avoid human interaction. Introverted, not anti-social.

6. He is honest and up-front. If you are not his type, you will be the first to know.

7. He is definitely not afraid of confrontation.

8. He is a great chef if you enjoy weed rat stew and eyeballs in your slime martinis.

9. He is conventional. Dead girls are mostly preferred off the dining room table.

10. He is great at resisting eviction.

11. He is truly an influential leader and inspirational speaker.

12. He does not eat innocent men in amusement parks, no matter how big-head.

13. He would rather settle problems over a "pint" than resort to violence.

14. But, when fighting is needed, he wins every time.

15. There is a lot to ogres than meets the eye. Shrek has many layers like an onion... but not a cake.

16. He is a great negotiator. He gets his swamp back and the princess.

17. He gives emotional support like a professional.

18. He is a one-of-a-kind knight who does not kill dragons and still manages to rescue his love.

19. He is as sarcastic as you.

20. He has a dad-bod, but can still outrun fire.

21. He is never too serious. Locking women in tombs at night is only a prank.

22. He is a star gazer.

23. He knows what it feels like to be judged by impending stereotypes.

24. He lets the girl fight her own battles if she chooses.

25. He is a master at balloon animals.

26. He is a flower-picker.

27. He chooses what to eat for dinner without asking the female and creating an argument.

28. He cleans his swamp without asking for help when it gets destroyed.

29. He willingly crashes a wedding for his love.

30. He will be the first to say "I love you."

31. He will call you beautiful even when you look like an ogre.

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10 Ways To Show Your Love Without Saying "I Love You"

Because sometimes we forget love is more than just three little words.

Everyone speaks a different love language. Some show love by showering their partner with gifts, some display it with cuddling and physical affection, some say "I Love You" whenever possible to make sure their partner doesn't forget. Others show love to their friends on a daily basis, sometimes with a quick high-five as you pass in the hallways or a smile across the library. While we all show love in different ways, there are a few things we say that show love without realizing it.

1. Please put your seat belt on.

Aside from understanding that safety is important, when a friend or loved one tells you to put your seat belt on, they're telling you they care about your well being. They understand everyday risks and want to keep you safe from them.

2. Do you need a drink of water?

If you're on a sports team, or in a club with a lot of physical activity - your friends may say this a lot. They're taking into account your physical health in the moment and looking for a way to help you.

3. Have you eaten today?

Sometimes you forget to have breakfast, and all of a sudden it's 3pm and you're about to rip someone a new one for looking at you funny. The people who know and care about you probably understand your "hangry" state pretty well, and know to remind you to eat something.

4. Text me when you get home safe.

Whether you're just walking home from your late night class, or heading back after a late party, it's always nice to get a text like this. All they want to do is make sure you make it home in one piece, because they care about you. It's comforting to have friends who will watch out for you and make sure you get home safe.

5. Call me when you’re walking to your car.

Every good friend knows to watch out for her friends when they're walking at night alone. If you can't personally walk them to their car in a small pack, the second best thing is to call them and keep them on the line until they're safe in their car. Even if it's the middle of the day and you feel uncomfortable walking alone, having someone offer to call you and talk to you until you're safe is heart warming.

6. How was your day today?

There's a great way to unwind, and that's talking about your day with someone you love. If someone takes the time to talk about your day and genuinely wants to hear about how you're doing, they must care for you.

7. I hope you get a good night’s sleep.

As part of a goodnight message, wishing someone a restful night is so nice! Getting a good night of sleep is vital to your health and happiness, and can drastically change how you feel the next day. Those who love you just want you to be happy and healthy, and sometimes that starts with a good night's rest.

8. Do you want help studying?

Most people don't even like studying by themselves, so if they offer to study with you, that's pretty big. If I've just burnt myself out from reviewing for my own exams that week and I STILL want to help you, you must be pretty important in my book.

9. You can pick what movie we watch.

For those who like to stay in and watch Netflix, you know that the decision to watch something you both like can be difficult. If your partner or friend offers you full control over what movie you watch, that can feel pretty special!

10. I made you a cup of tea.

Or coffee, hot chocolate. Whatever you prefer. When I'm feeling down and out, it feels nice to have someone notice and care enough to make me tea. Or even in the morning when they notice you may be struggling to get going, and give you a caffeine boost to start the day - that's a good way to show you care about someone.

How do you show your love? Take the time to appreciate the people in your life that show they love you without saying it!

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