Often we spend time analyzing our past. Whether we made the right or wrong decision. Or, quite simply, recognizing our notable failures. As people, we have the ability to psychologically decipher previous actions to further mold how we will act in the future. But what if you get stuck?
I like to believe that, as people, we have to make mistakes in order to achieve growth. The most difficult moments are those that you wish you could go back to and act differently. Maybe I should have studied longer for that test. Maybe I should have allowed more people into my world. Maybe I should have fought for something that had a special place in my life. I should have, could have, would have. But, I didn’t.
I look back and see my own personal mistakes and wonder to myself, “would I do anything different?” and I can’t help but say that I wouldn’t. Let me tell you why. I was raised on the idea that you are the strongest when you allow yourself to be humble and fail. When you give yourself the opportunity to look at your flaws and imperfections and grow from them. Usually, I made it as far as recognizing what I did wrong, though I did not spend too much time thinking of what I could do better if the situation arises once more. I suppose that is why I made some of my mistakes time after time. But, eventually, I achieved the two-step process. I am not ashamed of my past because I can finally say I am allowing growth to occur.
Sometimes we lose the strength we need to fight the battle. And that is OK because what else will encourage us to keep pushing? I am lucky to have had the support system through difficult situations, but the one thing I cannot agree more with is the idea that if you want a happy life, then YOU must act to achieve that life. There are so many cases where people advise you what to do, what to decide, and what to think, but at the end of the day it will be you that pushes you through the situation. The mistakes that we make our caused directly by our own actions and thoughts. There may have been additional outside factors that could have aided the situation, but how you choose to feel as a result is in your hands.
Fall seven times, stand up eight. Make mistakes, get angry at yourself, cry if you have to but allow yourself to enact change. Many of us are scared of change or of making the same mistakes. Fear has a way of creeping into our decision-making process, but if we have truly analyzed what we did wrong, then who is to say that we will not succeed once we try again? Unfortunately, we are not able to predict future outcomes, but we can alter the present in which we live in. You have the strength to move forward. To fight for what you want. To let positive energy in. Though you may have failed in the past this does not mean that you will fail in the future. Allow yourself to be humble and accept the idea that in order to become a stronger person you must fail. Fail again and again until you gain the lesson you were meant to learn. Most importantly, do not let fear overwhelm you. Let it be the one reason why you have to stand up for the eighth time.
