Just Because You're Not In A Relationship Doesn't Mean You Can't Enjoy Fall

Just Because You're Not In A Relationship Doesn't Mean You Can't Enjoy Fall

Attention singles, hold on to your pumpkins, because it's time to get spooky.


It's that time of year again.

Pumpkins, Halloween Horror Nights, horror movies, candy, and—of course—annoying, but adorable couples flaunting their relationships. Pumpkin patches are filled with married couples and their babies doing ridiculously cute photoshoots. Clever college couple costumes parading Pinterest boards. Thanksgiving and Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa/other religious holiday conversations with your nosey family members are almost exclusively revolving around the impending question of your non-existent significant other.

My intention is not to sound bitter at all, but let's be real, the holidays are dominated by couples.

It's almost normalized to feel lonely when you are single during the holidays. People poke fun through tweets and memes and it's all fun and dandy to laugh about it. But to be honest, when you see your best friends looking hella cute while carving pumpkins with their significant others, it kind of sucks.

But I purpose a new form of thinking: get spooky all by yourself, boo. It's time to get creative.

Go to the pumpkin patch, ignore the cute couple with the insanely adorable baby, and get the weirdest looking pumpkin you can find. Instead of carving a normal jack-o'-lantern, create a funny original masterpiece. Maybe carve an intricate silhouette or make a pumpkin version of your best friend. Go wild.

Costumes are annoying because there are so many cute couple ideas. My suggestion? Be a tasteful but a satirical asshole. Do a couple costume idea with your bestie. Can you imagine anything better than two frat boys who are clearly in full swing of their Bromance being Baby and Johnny from "Dirty Dancing?" Or two girls being Bill and Ted from "Bill & Ted's Excellent Adventure?"

If you want to go solo, get specific with your Pinterest boards and find clever single costumes. Guys have limited options because they can't put on lingerie (or can you? *wink*) and call it day. Maybe be the "Hello, welcome to chili's" vine or a Teletubby. Girls, maybe you shouldn't put on lingerie and call it a day because the slutty animal costumes are a bit overdone. Put down the "Risky Business" button down and be the best, random, obscure 90s figure you can be.

The holidays with the fam is a bit tricky. They have a way of finding your weakness and cutting through it like a roasted turkey. Contain the urge to throw ornaments at your loved ones or smashing gingerbread houses when they ask "Are you still single, honey?" Instead, own up to it and be proud of it. Hell yeah, you are single and you are going to enjoy the hell out of fall.

Roast horror movies with your best friends while snacking on candy you illegally brought from home. Use your friends as a shield and scream at Halloween Horror Nights, it's better than trying to act tough to impress someone. Dress up for fall festivals and take cute pictures for the gram. The options are endless.

The fall season is amazing and it shouldn't be seen as a negative reminder. It should be seen as a positive reminder to enjoy being a hot, carefree single while you still can.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.

Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.

Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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This Is What Being Away From Home Taught Me About My Home

... It's ok to make plans with people besides your mom.


My home, for as long as I can remember, has been my safe haven. No matter how many arguments my family and I got into, I always knew my home to be a place where I could feel safe, at peace, grounded, and most importantly, comfortable.

This is why, when I decided to embark on a journey to Israel, 6,000 miles away felt like I was traveling into space. I felt as if I couldn't move forward without my mom by my side, reminding me everything is going to be okay. The relationship that my mom and I have is a special one, and knowing that I was not in close proximity to her created much-unwanted anxiety for us both. Knowing that while she may have only been a phone call away, that she wouldn't be able to come hold me if I needed her to, was something I really struggled with.

While I was away, I had hoped that my excitement for the trip and the adventures that were to come would keep me grounded and sane. Unfortunately, as the days went on, I became more and more homesick. However, I was able to learn some really important lessons in terms of the importance of my home, and sometimes the need to escape it.

The new friendships I made showed me that sometimes it's okay to make plans with people besides your mom (only partially joking).

The new foods I tried showed me that there are so many different types of foods that my chef of a mother hasn't even heard of.

The new experiences showed me just how important it is to step out of my comfort zone, even if doing so means I have to be 6,000 miles away from the comfort of my mom's arms.

There are hundreds of thousands of things that this trip has taught me, but it especially taught me that life exists away from your home as well. While it is natural to want to stay close to the things that bring you comfort, it is also essential that you allow yourself to grow.

I couldn't be luckier to have had such an incredible experience abroad, but I also couldn't be luckier to have been able to come home to a mom that was waiting with open arms and open ears.

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