I Love People, But Love My Alone Time More

I May Be An Extrovert, But I Love And Need My Alone Time

I love socializing and meeting new people, but don't get me wrong, I love my alone time just as much.


My days are busy. I get up early and out of the house as soon as I can, getting a productive start to my day. I usually am heading to class or to a local coffee shop to get some work done. Sometimes to the gym. No matter what it is, I'm surrounded by people. I need to be surrounded by people, even if I'm not directly interacting with them, to feel productive.

During my day, I'll usually meet up with a friend to grab some coffee or lunch. Sometimes to work on a project or go over some information for my meetings. In the afternoon, I usually have class, meetings, or work, socializing with people constantly, either for personal or academic reasons. My day ends usually walking home with a group of my classmates, talking the entire way home.

When I step foot into my house and shut my front door, "me time" commences. No social interactions, no talking. Just me and some silence.

So, out of my entire day, what patterns do I notice? Well, I wake up to silence and end my day with silence. As soon as I leave my house, I'm all about socializing and being around people. It's the only way I'll get stuff done and be productive. But, as soon as I get home and shut the door behind me, it's me time again.

I'm a major extrovert. I love being around people and meeting new people. I truly believe that making connections and relationships with people is one of the most important parts of our days. Would we really be human without all of the emotions that come with relationships?

Although I thrive off of those hours surrounded by others, I need my alone time. I need a few hours to myself every day, even if it's just before bed to decompress and let myself think. I honestly think I would be stressed even more than I already am if I didn't have some "me time" every day.

Being outgoing or a "people person" doesn't have to mean that you need to be around people 24/7. We absolutely can be around people all the time, but even the most intense extroverts need their alone time.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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