I have been told numerous times that I have extremely unrealistic expectations when it comes to guys. I have even had a friend tell me in a joke that my ideal man can only be found sixty years in the past.She may have been right. I may have expectations that are just completely ridiculous and might be the reason that finding a compatible guy is extremely hard.
However, it might be that no one good enough has come along.
Apart from the usual standards women have for their ideal partner (good hygiene, friendly, good sense of humor, loving, etc.), I have some that may seem a bit out there. Why? I have no idea. All I know is this: these attributes that I am searching for so far have not been found.
I don't have a ridiculous list like some love sappy teen in a rom-com, but I do have a few that would mean I have found someone who will compliment me well, which is something I think we all strive to find. You don't exactly want to be with someone who complains about everything you do because they hate it. You want someone who will either do it with you or be happy to be with you while you do it.
I have found that finding my ideal man is a bit hard and it might because what I am looking for might not exist in large numbers. I have lowered my expectations to adapt to the 21stcentury dating scene, but even then, it can be hard.
Some may look at my expectations and see it as a sign of an ignorant sort of arrogance simply because who I am looking for is not out there. I understand that and do take their advice into consideration, but I can't help myself. The romantic culture that we see in our movies, books, and music feeds into my already very romantic soul.
I want to be with someone who is compassionate, loving, humorous, and witty. I want to be with someone who's interests are compatible with mine and who I can be with happily.
It may take me years of dating to find him. It might be that I never actually find him and as some put, have to settle. Personally, I don't like that phrase because being someone should never feel like settling which is why I don't want to lower my expectations. I believe we have them for a reason. We may not find the person who matches what we want perfectly, but we'll find someone who will make us completely forget about it. Someone who we simply want to be with, no matter what.
I simply believe that I just have standards, my standards and that I have them for a reason. I may not find Mr. Perfect, but I am still confident that one day, I will find the man who makes me feel perfect.
Surely, it can't be that hard can it?
