“We accept the love we think we deserve.” Our generation has developed the nasty habit of thinking that a relationship is something to be ashamed of wanting. We have become lazy and learned to be okay with the idea of accepting mediocre gestures from boys who deep down aren’t mediocre at all, they just don’t know how to do anything but hookup.
I like you, you like me, it's 2016. What are we doing?
We see the Twitter posts, the pictures, and maybe even heard the stories from our parents and grandparents. They are all “goals” as we would say today. Love stories were so different years ago. When did the story line change?
They met their love in high school, the mall, or just walking down the street. We meet our love stories on the Internet. Guys slide into our twitter DM’s and they add us on SnapChat. They had real first dates at diners or the movies. We have our first dates in a dorm room and call it "Netflix and Chill." They had their first kiss. We have our first hook-up. They took things slow. We get drunk and kiss at bars. We consider him liking our pictures on Instagram or favoriting a tweet to be something substantial in terms of a guy having an interest in us. The saddest part of all is that this is what the hookup generation has come to accept as a “relationship”
This isn’t what I’m after. Personally speaking, I’ve never been in love. I've had crushes that never turned into much. I know I’m not the only one. You might SnapChat back and forth, but somewhere or somehow along the way, one of you gets bored and stops. You might text but again, somewhere and somehow one of you gives up. You might even hang out. But not every day, because you wouldn't want people to think you're a thing, right? We are stuck in the “talking” phase and we can’t find a way out.
Girls grieve over people who never even made their relationship exclusive or anywhere close to official. People will hang out for months at a time, then decide if they want to “define the relationship”. Isn’t this all backward? Each of us deserves to be in relationships that are strong and mutual. We fear deeper relationships. We are scared to really let our guards down. We are scared to admit that we want more than just a casual fling.
Know your worth and don’t settle for anyone or anything that doesn’t comply with that. We all deserve to be in relationships that mean more than any hook-up or text message ever could.
