First, he isn’t the one. No matter how much you think he’s perfect, and you two fit together perfectly… let's not forget that there are thousands just like him roaming around campus, and even billions more roaming the globe. So whatever you do, do not sell yourself short, make sure you get the best of the best, and exactly what you want but most importantly do not be afraid to say goodbye. Just because he invited you to the Frat party, has nice hair, and seems smart, doesn't make him your prince charming, just charming.
Make sure both of you think it’s a relationship, if he thinks it’s just for fun, that’s merely all it will ever be. So what if he spends the night, welcome to a college hookup. Many times that is just the case, part of the college experience dating world. If he doesn’t post pictures of you on his social media, you are not his girl. Don’t try to act like just because he seems sweet now, that he isn’t still part of the male species. In college, it’s a constant emotional roller coaster, and your way stressed than your norm, so no need to be naive and risk adding heartbreak to your already chaotic wave of emotion. Make the relationship FBO, or enjoy him going ghost in the next couple weeks and don’t be upset when you see him out with another girl. Do your self a favor and do not create an illusion of what you think is going on, avoid talking about a future and never include him in future plans... it will scare him and chances are he won't be in the picture come time for your spring break cruise.
Time, time, and time. In college, its either we have no time at all or too much time that we spend doing absolutely nothing… but no one ever has time to deal with relationship drama, so solve that problem fast by just not creating it. The ugly truth is, there are a million other things that are occupying his time, and although you may be his girlfriend, that’s merely all you are and as a college guy, his needs are vastly different from yours. If he is in a fraternity, this will always come first for him, so prepare to be ignored… there is nothing wrong with that, just know he will take what his brothers say way more important than your opinion. In sports? Same type of deal, there is just this weird bond between dudes and dudes that no girlfriend will ever be able to break, no matter how long the relationship has been going on for or how serious the two of seem. The last thing any college guy want to feel is tied down, again keep in mind he is riding the same emotional college roller coaster as you. There will be days he will spend the whole day sleeping, respect that. Don’t expect him to spend all his free time with you, he doesn’t want that and it’s not healthy. Don’t spend all your free time with him, make sure you add alone time and time to spend with your girls. Do not fool yourself, and do not put up with his drama, you will only regret dealing with pettiness later. If he doesnt make time for you, or you think he is seeing someone else, just go on to the next guy, who trust me is 100% identical to him.
Whether you want to hear it or not, the relationship does have an expiration date, and your girlfriends are the only ones going to be there for you when another girl walks by and he decides you aren’t what he wants anymore. Do not push them away. Prepare yourself, it will happen, guys have this weird idea about a “college experience” and despite him being in a relationship, he most likely still wants to hookup with his lab partner and thinks he should be able to since its “college” and to college guys, they firmly believe flirting is not considered cheating. Guys are very indecisive especially at this point in their lives. They do not know what they want so just don’t ask them, because you will not like the answer.
Don’t ruin yourself after the breakup; college is much more than that. Focus on school. College is merely about preparing yourself for the future, not to find “Mr. Right”. You should find out who you really are first, evolve into the next version of yourself before you get wrapped up into “love”. And when things go wrong, don’t blame him for being a guy, he is trying to find out who he is also. So basically just don’t think it's going to last forever and enjoy yourself, you’re only in college once, don’t ruin it with a relationship.
