It's Perfectly Fine Being The Only Nerd In The Family

It's Perfectly Fine Being The Only Nerd In The Family

If you feel like the only person with an affinity for nerd culture in your family, it's best to just embrace it.

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Everyone in your family has different interests and opinions, but there are also things that everyone has in common.

However, when you identify as a hardcore fan, it can be difficult and sometimes feel isolating.

Yes, you may have family members and friends that engage with you in the same interests, such as Harry Potter and Star Wars. The thing that makes things different is that they don't consume it the way that you do.

If you're like me, you enjoy being apart of fandoms, going to fan conventions, and engaging online with fellow fans.

The difference between you and them is that they're not completely connected to their inner nerd. Even among your friends, it can make you feel out of place.

Family and friends constantly teasing you about your intense love mean no harm, but sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

There are times when you feel like ending your fandom days and enjoy things like everyone else. It may make you better briefly, but over time you realize it's only a small source of your joy. A large part of your happiness comes from being a nerd and it's because that's your true self. You can't change who you are, and you never should.

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To our family and friends who don't understand, we just need you to accept us as we are.

It's not a phase and it's not something you can change about us. You may never understand, but you can take the time to engage with our nerdy tendencies.

Take the time to know and understand our interests. It's the key to connecting to us as well as getting to know us better. If you learn what we like, it's bound to create a stronger connection that you've wanted.

It may also score you some bonus points if you find the perfect gift on birthdays, holidays, etc.

A large part of our love comes from our connection to characters that feel relatable to us. It's finding the representation of ourselves that makes us feel comfortable in our bodies. In addition, it's the thing that provides us with support and inspiration toward our own goals and life.

We're not expecting you to relate to our interests, but we are expecting you to respect them. Our fandoms and all-thing nerd related are passions and things we enjoy. It's the same as your love for fishing, sports, gardening or whatever you do for enjoyment.

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For many of us, it's a release from stress or our everyday life. It's the same as a hobby of yours and is far from being weird. If it is weird, then I accept it and it's perfectly fine to be weird.

If anything, it makes us unique and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

Our geeky families are not here to replace you. We feel as if our fellow nerds are apart of our family just like you are. They're just the people were able to share all our common interests with and have fun.

At the end of the day, being a nerd is a part of our personality. As a family member or friend, the thing you want most for the people you love is for them to happy.

Our happiness comes from being nerdy, so just let us be nerdy.

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Others may not fully understand nerds, but eventually, you learn to embrace and accept your inner nerd.

You're never going to please everyone and that includes your family. They may never come around and understand your love and need for all things geeky. Just remain true to yourself and keep going.

Many of my friends have complimented me on being myself without caring about what others may think.

The embracing of being true to nerdiness is not something that came overnight. It still takes work for me to remember not to shy away from being a fangirl and just show the world my passions.

Once you began to fully accept your identity as a nerd, you learn that it comes with a lot of benefits.

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As a full-time fandom member, you have the privilege of having first access to information about your favorite TV show, book, or movie series. Due to your fangirl behaviors, you're constantly aware of spoilers, release dates, and sneak peeks. It's the reason you're the first source for information on these things for your family and friends. It's a reminder to those people that think you're weird, that your knowledge is useful. They may not realize it now, but they may soon realize your advantage in the future.

In additions, our love for these interest as fans has led to us finding our passions in life. I discovered my love for writing through reading and writing fanfiction over the years. My time in fandoms has allowed me to realize that many more stories need to be told especially for those lacking representation. Fandoms are things that have led us to our careers or being able to create brand new ones.

The best benefit of identifying as a nerd is the happiness that it brings to our lives. Continue to enjoy fan conventions, even if you can't attend. Watch your favorite shows and movies series on repeat. Take the time to read and write the fanfiction. Most importantly, enjoy fandoms.

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It may feel lonely to be the only nerd among your family and friends, but always remain confident in who you are and never change. When you feel lost, just know your geeky family will always be there for you.

Never forget there's nothing wrong with being a nerd and it's the thing that made you who you are today.

Always embrace the nerd you were meant to be. You never know where it might take you.

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6 Huge Ways Your Life Changes After Escaping A Small Town

"Don't let small-town life make your life small."

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I've read a few articles on small towns and some statistics show that 20-30% of Americans live in small towns and 80% of the nation's population lived in one of the 350 combined metropolitan statistical areas.

After growing up in a small town myself, I think it can sometimes be difficult to be the person you want to be while trying to please all of your small-town fans. This is the first time in my life I've moved away from my small town with the intention to stay away for a very long time.

Why would I do something so silly?

Over the past two years, I realized how my hometown was stopping me from growing and accomplishing my dreams. Hanging out with friends generally became a gossip session because we were together so often and had nothing more to talk about. Neighbors knew where I was or who I was with. There was always some type of pressure to please everyone. There has always been someone to compare my life to or to be like.

Finally, I realized how detrimental this mentality was to my success.

After a series of events this year, I finally gathered the courage to pick up my life and move somewhere where I was a “no one." Somewhere where I could start fresh and never have to worry about pleasing someone down the street. I can vouch that this has been the biggest change in my life and the best possible move I could have made.

So what things actually change?

1. You find out who your true friends are.

This one will shock you. Remember that person you used to go to dinner with or spent countless nights finding a party or get together to go to with? That person magically fades away. The convenience of you being down the road is no longer an option and that person has now found a new acquaintance who has replaced you. Your genuine friends will continue to invite you to be a part of whatever and most will plan to spend time with you or come see you.

2. You no longer have a close-minded perception of everything.

I remember going to a grocery store and hearing the small town gossip from aisle to aisle. I remember how one-sided most issues were and if you weren't on board, your opinion was irrelevant. Now I can go to the store and not know a single person and have an opinion about anything I want and not have to worry about being shunned.

3. You suddenly turn into a mystery.

This one is great. People will start wondering where you went or what you've been up to. When I call my parents, I always get a good laugh from the conversations they've had with others who wonder what I'm up to. My favorite quote that relates to this is, “The less you reveal, the more people can wonder."

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4.You are suddenly a nobody in your new community, and it's great.

I have a bad habit of trying to avoid people I know, so when I go into stores or do anything in public, I love being a nobody. I love being able to do all of my grocery shopping without being interrupted or asked about school.

5. You appreciate the small hometown things more.

I'm not going to lie, I cringe thinking about making a trip home, but that pizza place I had four times a week and those margaritas that my friends and I would gulp down when celebrating everything from a birthday to making it through a rough day at work suddenly become luxury items. You enjoy those country cruises and those salty fries so much more when you're away.

6. You start to find yourself.

I left this one for last because it's by far the most important thing that's happened to me. I got stuck thinking I needed to be married by 22 and have a family by the time I was 27. I no longer think this. I finally have a bucket list that involves so much more than beating my best friend in a keg stand at the annual town bonfire. I have found who I am through solely relying on me and the things that make me happy.

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Don't get me wrong, I love my hometown. It's made me who I am today, but even if it's only for six months, escape your small town. Get away and experience the world. Don't wait until it's too late. It's great out here!

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A College Student's Guide To Self-Care 101

A trend on the rise, self-care is becoming more and more prevalent.

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My social media sites have been exploding with mentions of self-care. Tweets about the concept are ever on the rise and I think it is important to explore the concept. Self-care practices have become increasingly common because people are ever interested in tending to their emotional and physical wellbeing.

Unfortunately, with the popularization of the concept comes misconceptions. Self-care is not strictly about "treating yourself" and face masks. Additionally, it encompasses growth, reflection, and change. So, without further adieu, here are my top ten self-care tips!

1. Learn to be by yourself

This one is harder than people would think at first. Everyone's personality is different and, therefore, their affinity to being alone will differ as well. However, as I mentioned before, self-care is not only about physical practices. It is about eliminating toxicity from your life. This means eliminating bad habits, which is achieved through reflection and acknowledgment of the problematic habituation. Being by yourself allows you to set your own goals for yourself without any influence from outside factors. Additionally, the ability to be by yourself aids in establishing good self-esteem and ensures that the relationships you allow in your life are true and special rather than just to pass time.

2. Accept compliments

I don't know how this became normalized or why, but I despise the fact that girls have been taught to downplay their confidence. If someone offers a compliment, smile and accept it. Positive feelings towards yourself should be integral parts of your thought processes. Additionally, pay yourself compliments. They don't have to be said out loud but appreciate the beauty that is your body. It does so much for you, the least you could do is appreciate it every now and then.

3. Hold yourself accountable

Like I said earlier, part of self-care is eliminating bad habits. The tendency to attribute one's own failures and shortcomings to external forces is self-serving bias and those with good self-esteem are guilty of it. It may be difficult to balance attribution and self-esteem but in order to achieve growth, you have to acknowledge your own faults. This will allow for clarity and for you to work towards achieving better habits.

4. Don't bottle up your feelings

I am especially guilty of not following this tip. Keeping to yourself may seem like the easier thing to do and, if you are like anything like me, you may hate being seen as an inconvenience. However, I know that if I bottle up for too long, I tend to shut down and then I won't be able to achieve anything. Expressing your feelings is okay. Crying is okay. Anger is okay. Emotion is okay.

5. Try new things

Take a yoga class. Volunteer. Go to a new restaurant. Anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone incubates growth. You don't even have to enjoy everything you do, you just have to try. However, you may also find a new passion because of it.

6. Get some sleep

Don't spend all your time sleeping and lose all motivation to do anything, but make a conscious effort to get sufficient sleep so that all of your days can be as efficient as possible. You will be more energized and your immune system, as well as your physical appearance, will thank you.

7. Don't force yourself to do things you don't like

I know I said to try new things. However, if your best friend loves running and you go with her one day and find out you HATE it, don't force yourself. Find what works for you through trial and error. You will be much happier with your own flow and it keeps you from developing resentment.

8. Learn to say no

All the women in my life are especially guilty of this. We spread ourselves too thin because we can't say no. This goes hand in hand with not forcing yourself to do things that you don't want to do. Saying no doesn't make you a bitch, it makes you strong and lets people know that you know what you want.

9. Say what you mean

Don't sugarcoat things. It will leave you feeling unfulfilled and, quite frankly, it's exhausting trying to tiptoe around what you really mean. Don't be rude or aggressive, rather assertive and straight forward. It will make you a better communicator and will take pressure off of you as well.

10. Finally, treat yourself

I said self care wasn't entirely about that. I didn't say it wasn't necessary.

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