It's Perfectly Fine Being The Only Nerd In The Family

It's Perfectly Fine Being The Only Nerd In The Family

If you feel like the only person with an affinity for nerd culture in your family, it's best to just embrace it.

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Everyone in your family has different interests and opinions, but there are also things that everyone has in common.

However, when you identify as a hardcore fan, it can be difficult and sometimes feel isolating.

Yes, you may have family members and friends that engage with you in the same interests, such as Harry Potter and Star Wars. The thing that makes things different is that they don't consume it the way that you do.

If you're like me, you enjoy being apart of fandoms, going to fan conventions, and engaging online with fellow fans.

The difference between you and them is that they're not completely connected to their inner nerd. Even among your friends, it can make you feel out of place.

Family and friends constantly teasing you about your intense love mean no harm, but sometimes it doesn't feel that way.

There are times when you feel like ending your fandom days and enjoy things like everyone else. It may make you better briefly, but over time you realize it's only a small source of your joy. A large part of your happiness comes from being a nerd and it's because that's your true self. You can't change who you are, and you never should.

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To our family and friends who don't understand, we just need you to accept us as we are.

It's not a phase and it's not something you can change about us. You may never understand, but you can take the time to engage with our nerdy tendencies.

Take the time to know and understand our interests. It's the key to connecting to us as well as getting to know us better. If you learn what we like, it's bound to create a stronger connection that you've wanted.

It may also score you some bonus points if you find the perfect gift on birthdays, holidays, etc.

A large part of our love comes from our connection to characters that feel relatable to us. It's finding the representation of ourselves that makes us feel comfortable in our bodies. In addition, it's the thing that provides us with support and inspiration toward our own goals and life.

We're not expecting you to relate to our interests, but we are expecting you to respect them. Our fandoms and all-thing nerd related are passions and things we enjoy. It's the same as your love for fishing, sports, gardening or whatever you do for enjoyment.

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For many of us, it's a release from stress or our everyday life. It's the same as a hobby of yours and is far from being weird. If it is weird, then I accept it and it's perfectly fine to be weird.

If anything, it makes us unique and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

Our geeky families are not here to replace you. We feel as if our fellow nerds are apart of our family just like you are. They're just the people were able to share all our common interests with and have fun.

At the end of the day, being a nerd is a part of our personality. As a family member or friend, the thing you want most for the people you love is for them to happy.

Our happiness comes from being nerdy, so just let us be nerdy.

This is the feeling that we want. Thank you. YourTango

Others may not fully understand nerds, but eventually, you learn to embrace and accept your inner nerd.

You're never going to please everyone and that includes your family. They may never come around and understand your love and need for all things geeky. Just remain true to yourself and keep going.

Many of my friends have complimented me on being myself without caring about what others may think.

The embracing of being true to nerdiness is not something that came overnight. It still takes work for me to remember not to shy away from being a fangirl and just show the world my passions.

Once you began to fully accept your identity as a nerd, you learn that it comes with a lot of benefits.

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As a full-time fandom member, you have the privilege of having first access to information about your favorite TV show, book, or movie series. Due to your fangirl behaviors, you're constantly aware of spoilers, release dates, and sneak peeks. It's the reason you're the first source for information on these things for your family and friends. It's a reminder to those people that think you're weird, that your knowledge is useful. They may not realize it now, but they may soon realize your advantage in the future.

In additions, our love for these interest as fans has led to us finding our passions in life. I discovered my love for writing through reading and writing fanfiction over the years. My time in fandoms has allowed me to realize that many more stories need to be told especially for those lacking representation. Fandoms are things that have led us to our careers or being able to create brand new ones.

The best benefit of identifying as a nerd is the happiness that it brings to our lives. Continue to enjoy fan conventions, even if you can't attend. Watch your favorite shows and movies series on repeat. Take the time to read and write the fanfiction. Most importantly, enjoy fandoms.

The moment you reach this moment, you've embraced your full inner nerd. Giphy

It may feel lonely to be the only nerd among your family and friends, but always remain confident in who you are and never change. When you feel lost, just know your geeky family will always be there for you.

Never forget there's nothing wrong with being a nerd and it's the thing that made you who you are today.

Always embrace the nerd you were meant to be. You never know where it might take you.

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We ALL Have Some Kind Of Disability, Even If We Don't Acknowledge It

Sometimes we fail to recognize our disabilities simply because we have learned to live with them; yet, we criticize those who have visible disabilities even though they too have learned to live with them.
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Many of us have probably heard the famous saying: "If life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

What many of us probably don’t realize is how true this may be in our own lives.

Everyone has something that may disable them from doing things that others can do.

Disabilities can be physical or mental. Maybe you have asthma, a speech impediment or a phobia. While these things may disable individuals from doing certain tasks, these are all disabilities that one can learn to easily live with.

Other disabilities are more visibly noticeable, such as limb amputations, lung diseases that require one to use an oxygen concentrator or scoliosis.

Regardless of how visible our disabilities may be, we need to recognize that we all have things that may disable us.

Notice that I said, “may disable us.” This is where "turning lemons into lemonade" comes into play. Just because something has the potential to disable us doesn’t mean that we must let it do so.

Yes, there will be things that we may be physically unable to do regardless of how hard we try. However, that doesn’t mean that we cannot find ways to adapt. Humans can be stubborn and that’s not a bad thing.

Stubbornness may allow us to overcome our disabilities.

My grandmother had three amputation surgeries last summer, the last being a below-knee amputation. I have quickly learned where my stubbornness comes from as I have watched her recover.

She has quickly learned to adapt to the new methods she must use to do daily tasks such as moving around the house.

My grandmother has learned how to live her life as if nothing has changed; it is as if she does not even have a disability.

It is easy to see that my uncle, David, is physically different than the average person. His Down Syndrome causes him to be shorter, and he has distinct facial characteristics that differ from the average person.

What you may also notice, if you meet David, is that he doesn’t let these physical differences dictate his life. If you asked him, David wouldn’t know that anything is different with himself. It’s not that he has been sheltered from the fact that he is different.

He simply has learned how to live with his differences and has family members that are willing to support him.

One of my friends has Spina Bifida and, sadly, has faced unjust situations because of their disabilities. As a college student, it is very difficult for my friend to find transportation to classes.

One transportation company will only provide their services when an individual lives 500 feet from a bus stop; unfortunately, my friend does not.

Nevertheless, my friend is resilient and is taking online courses so that they may further their education.

I dare to say that everyone has something that may disable them. However, I also dare to say that many individuals do not recognize their disabilities simply because they have learned to adapt.

If everyone has something that may disable them, why do we criticize those whose disabilities are more visible?

I challenge you to reflect on your own life. Reflect on the things that may disable you. Reflect on how you have overcome the things that try to disable you. Reflect upon the judgment that you have unjustly given others due to their disabilities.

It is easy to laugh at someone else when they are struggling with something that we could easily do ourselves. But it is difficult when we are the ones being laughed at.

The next time you consider criticizing someone else because of their disabilities, remember that you, too, have things that may disable you.

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To The Girl Who Gives Until There’s Nothing Left, It’s Time To Focus On Yourself

Sometimes, you have to finally put yourself first.

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To the girl who gives until you can't, I know you. I know you because I am you. I have been in the same shoes you have, and I have given myself to others until I couldn't anymore, and it still wasn't enough for those around me. And you know what? That's ok.

You see, we give and give and give because we care. We put others needs and wants above our own, and we do this because we want the people we love and care about to be happy and to feel loved. In the process though, we can sometimes lose ourselves, and I'm no stranger to this. I've played the part, in my relationships and friendships, I've made excuses for people and seen their lack of reciprocation of care as a mistake, not an outright disrespect to myself. And I've done this until I can't anymore. I give myself to a person until who I am has been decimated to making them happy. But I've realized that we can only give for so long. We finally reach a certain point in our lives when we can't give anymore, and we have to rebuild ourselves on the idea that it is finally our time to be happy.

Your happiness is what's going to get you places in life. We have only one life to live here on Earth, so while we have this short time, make yourself happy while trying to make others happy. For those who truly love you and who care about you as much as you do them, they will want to see you just as happy. So girls, whether it be in your romantic relationships, or your friendships, or even your familial relationships, just know this: You will reach a point when you can't give any more. You will be broken, and you will have a sense that you have lost yourself. Just know, you can and will pick the pieces up and when that time comes, that is your signal that now is the time to focus on you and your happiness.

It will be ok, and you will be ok. You've given so much to make others happy, now it's your turn to make yourself happy. It's time to find the things that make your heart warm and your insides tingle. It's time to find the little things in life that bring you joy. It's time to make your life about you. So go get lost in the sound of the ocean waves. Go to that art show you've been dying to see. Take that class that you're interested in. Find the things that you feel make your life meaningful and happy.

Take care girl, because I speak from experience when you make your life about the things that bring you happiness, everything in your life becomes more worthwhile and has more meaning. Life becomes golden when you pursue your own happiness.

With loving sincerity,

A girl just like you

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