The college experience has inspired countless films, television series, books and more. But what is it truly? And how does the introverted spirit go about “making the most of it?” As a 20-year-old transfer student, I had the chance to experience both the local community college setting and now a college over 1000 miles away from home. Here are my thoughts to all my fellow more reserved human beings out there. (Although this truly applies to everyone!)
The college experience truly is what You want it to be, and there is no wrong way to go about it. If you want to join all the clubs and do all the things available then hey, go for it! If you would rather spend your free time exploring the surrounding area, bingeing on Netflix or playing video games that’s cool too! No matter how you choose to experience this stage in your life you’re doing right.
Note: This excludes alcohol and drugs kiddos that is not a good path to go down and would not be considered a “right way.” You’re paying good money for this education so don’t mess it up and be sure to take it rather seriously.
I have a horrible time talking to new people, especially in large group events such as those dreaded ice breakers. There are few things more shudder worthy. It is, however, a good time to try bursting out of that bubble and meeting some people. If it doesn’t work out you are guaranteed to meet people in classes, the dorms, meal areas and by simply being around campus. There is no pressure to make friends the first day. You will eventually find people who you can enjoy hanging out with and are your speed.
Also, and this is important, you do not have to be best friends with your roommate(s)!
As long as you are able to get along reasonably well and are respectful of each other and any boundaries agreed upon the year will pass just fine. If you truly have major issues with your roommate, or anyone for that matter, that’s what the RAs and Residence Life offices are for.
Never be afraid to get yourself out of any uncomfortable situation ever, no matter what it is. If you have the tools to do so then do it.
To the introverts specifically, this is an amazing time in your life. You, possibly more than anyone, have the most room to grow and learn a great deal about yourself during this time. This is your chance to challenge your normal quiet ways and become an incredible individual. The social aspect can be riddled with anxiety and be exceedingly draining at first I admit. However, the more you force yourself out there the more you grow accustomed to it all. Remember though, never change you to “fit in” because the best people are the odd ones! There are some pretty awesome people to meet and you can always escape to recover and recharge later on. (Not to mention you will have to learn to work with and be around lots of different kinds of people in almost any career out there).
Little ole you have a lot to bring to this world that is constantly rushing around. Your unique passions, ideas, knowledge, opinions, experiences and more are things that only you can share. In order to do this though you must take it forth into the world to share it. Never underestimate the influence of your voice or your actions. They carry the power to leave an imprint on every person you cross paths with. The ability to step back and see the world clearly, and understand, is a beautiful gift with great power. With great power comes great responsibility. Wink wink. So share that gift in whichever way you find is best for you.
Take advantage of these years and everything they offer as they will pass by quickly! I encourage and challenge you to join a club, make friends, talk to people you normally wouldn’t and volunteer in the local community because there is no better time. Make your own path and be sure to have fun, work hard and never stop challenging yourself to grow!
