Whenever you go through a break-up, you get lost in what it feels like to have an important part of your life missing. You focus on the way that things feel instead of how things actually are.
It feels like you’ll love him forever, but you probably won’t. If you do, it will exists, but in the past, and what exists in the present will transform into something different--something that will make it easier to talk to him like a friend.
It feels like the world is crumbling around you, but it’s not. You two are the only ones who are deeply saddened by all of this. Everyone else--even those who are closest to you--are continuing their lives as if nothing has happened.
While that is a sad reminder of your insignificance, it’s also a reminder that this isn’t the end of the world. No matter what you feel right now, I promise you’ll feel better the next day, and each following day will be better than the previous one. You’ll learn to love someone again and be happy with them loving you, despite feeling like that’s not possible.
Even though it feels like everything has changed, your friends are still your friends, your hobbies are still your hobbies, and you still are you. It feels like you are less of yourself, because you don’t have someone there to support you, but you have the chance to be more than what you have ever been.
By being alone, you’ll grow to depend on yourself instead of someone else for your happiness. You’ll fall along the way, and you’ll be frightened by the loneliness of being single again. You might have forgotten what being single feels like, but you’ll learn.
Even though it’s terrifying at times and difficult to imagine, you’ll learn to stop being afraid of loneliness and embrace solitude.
