The Dreaded Second Text

The Dreaded Second Text


We have all been here, you meet someone fantastic and they give you their number, only to not respond when you contact them.

Personally, my rule of thumb is to give a 24 to 36 hours period after the initial text has been sent to send another. But what happens when there is still no response? The worst thing that we can think of, sending ANOTHER text!

Today's ladies have come to realize that chivalry is dead and not every boy you meet will be prince charming, but what if we are the ones who have to do the chasing. What if we have to send another message that says something to the effect of, "Hey (insert name here), just wanted to see how you're doing, I had a great time with you last weekend." This is when these thoughts begin flooding our minds.

  1. "Oh my gosh, what if he thinks I'm super into him and I just want to give this a shot"
  2. ~Wait~ "Never mind he couldn't think that, he got to know me really well and he thinks I'm cute!"
  3. "Oh, but what if he was just saying that and he doesn't actually think I'm that cute."
  4. "Here, I'll text (insert BFF) and she'll tell me the truth"
  5. "Now she's not texting me back"
  7. "Maybe I should go to the gym more and not eat these brownies"
  8. "Nah, if he really likes he, he won't care if I'm fat"
  9. "Well, still no text, it's fine though, I've got Netflix and my brownies. They'll never let me down."

30 minutes later


As independent as we claim to be today, self image is a key player in our self confidence. Unfortunately, we have come to believe that if we have to multi-text (as I like to call it) we are automatically seen in a bad light. As if we are clingy and in love or just a chatterbox. So, remember this, even if you send 500 texts, if he wants to talk to you he will, and if he doesn't, you should probably put down your phone and go have fun with your girls, because the more fun you have, the more fun life will be.

Second texts are only a big deal if we make them out to be, so ladies, second text away because at the end of the day, what do you really have to lose?!

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1. You will have separation anxiety right off the bat.

2. You get irrationally jealous when they post a picture with someone else.

3. You literally text each other about everything, and I mean everything.

4. You know better than to call them if you have less than an hour to talk.

5. You stalk their Instagram so you still feel like a part of their life.

6. All your school friends know who they are because you're constantly telling stories about them.

7. When you come home for breaks they're usually the first person you see.

8. They're also usually the last person you see.

9. Your Snapchat streak is abnormally high.

10. You tell them you love them more than your significant other.

11. You send an average of 400 texts to each other in one day.

12. You miss having someone you don't have to explain anything to.

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12 Solid Date Ideas For The Indecisive Couple Who Can Never Make Up Their Minds

"Where do you want to eat?" "I don't know."


Are you and your boo/bae always trying to figure out what to do but can't seem to agree on something? Do you usually ask, "Where do you want to eat?" and they reply with, "I don't know," making you bang your head against the wall until your unconscious? If you said yes to any of these questions, you're reading the right article. Dates don't have to be so complex, so why do we always make them feel that way?

Here are 12 date ideas for all you indecisive couples out there who just can't seem to get it right:

1. Watch the Sunset 

Grab a blanket and some snacks and head on over to the beach or the park and watch the sunset. It's not only romantic, but it's also a great way to appreciate nature and the world around you.

2. Game Night

Like to get a little competitive? Have a game night and break out "Monopoly" or "Cards Against Humanity" or any other of your favorites.

3. Go to Ikea

Yes, Ikea dates are a thing. They have food there in case you get hungry, and you get to look at so many interesting pieces of furniture. You can spend hours there getting lost all while spending time with someone you enjoy.

4. Walk Around Your Favorite Book Store

If you have a local bookstore or a Barnes and Noble, walk around the isles and discover new books to read. Maybe pick out a book you can read together and grab some coffee.

5. Adult Treasure Hunt With the Geocaching App

There's this app called Geocaching, which is basically a treasure hunt for adults. You turn on your location and it will tell you where to find the geocache. Once you find it, have a pen handy so you can sign and date in the logbook and then you move on to the next one.

6. Check Out Your Local Food Trucks

There are always different types of foods to try at any food truck event. Maybe share a few different options so you won't fill up on food so fast.

7. Go To A Comedy Show

There are usually comedy shows that happen locally. It's a great way to just sit down, relax, and have a good laugh.

8. Brunch It Up

Who doesn't love brunch? It's an opportune time to enjoy breakfast/lunch food and maybe a mimosa.

9. Attend Trivia Night

There are many bars that will have weekly trivia nights, especially themed ones. Put your heads together. You can also get to know each other better by seeing what you both know.

10. Ice Skating

Strap on some skates and get on the ice. Doesn't matter if you look like a newborn baby deer just learning how to walk, you'll have fun in the process. Plus, you can hold each other's hand if you're scared you might fall.

11. Arcade Games and Photo Booths  


Go to an arcade, perhaps a Dave and Busters or a Boomers, and see who can win the most tickets. Whoever wins will get a cute prize to keep as a memory. If there's a photo booth, take some silly photos to commemorate your win/loss....

12. Attend A Sporting Event

You can find cheap tickets to a basketball or hockey game. Even if you're not super into sports, it's still fun to attend and eat some greasy food.

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