The Dreaded Second Text

The Dreaded Second Text


We have all been here, you meet someone fantastic and they give you their number, only to not respond when you contact them.

Personally, my rule of thumb is to give a 24 to 36 hours period after the initial text has been sent to send another. But what happens when there is still no response? The worst thing that we can think of, sending ANOTHER text!

Today's ladies have come to realize that chivalry is dead and not every boy you meet will be prince charming, but what if we are the ones who have to do the chasing. What if we have to send another message that says something to the effect of, "Hey (insert name here), just wanted to see how you're doing, I had a great time with you last weekend." This is when these thoughts begin flooding our minds.

  1. "Oh my gosh, what if he thinks I'm super into him and I just want to give this a shot"
  2. ~Wait~ "Never mind he couldn't think that, he got to know me really well and he thinks I'm cute!"
  3. "Oh, but what if he was just saying that and he doesn't actually think I'm that cute."
  4. "Here, I'll text (insert BFF) and she'll tell me the truth"
  5. "Now she's not texting me back"
  7. "Maybe I should go to the gym more and not eat these brownies"
  8. "Nah, if he really likes he, he won't care if I'm fat"
  9. "Well, still no text, it's fine though, I've got Netflix and my brownies. They'll never let me down."

30 minutes later


As independent as we claim to be today, self image is a key player in our self confidence. Unfortunately, we have come to believe that if we have to multi-text (as I like to call it) we are automatically seen in a bad light. As if we are clingy and in love or just a chatterbox. So, remember this, even if you send 500 texts, if he wants to talk to you he will, and if he doesn't, you should probably put down your phone and go have fun with your girls, because the more fun you have, the more fun life will be.

Second texts are only a big deal if we make them out to be, so ladies, second text away because at the end of the day, what do you really have to lose?!

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Why Girls Love The Dad Bod

If your man can rock the dad bod, he's a keeper.


In case you haven't noticed lately, girls are all about that dad bod.

Girls have been dealing with body image issues since the beginning of time until recent (for those of you who consider yourselves to be "Thick thin") I hadn't heard about this body type until my roommate mentioned it. She used to be crazy over guys she claimed had the dad bod.

After observing the guys she found attractive, I came to understand this body type well and was able to identify it. The dad bod is a nice balance between a beer gut and working out. The dad bod says, "I go to the gym occasionally, but I also drink heavily on the weekends and enjoy eating eight slices of pizza at a time." It's not an overweight guy, but it isn't one with washboard abs, either.

The dad bod is a new trend and fraternity boys everywhere seem to be rejoicing. Turns out skipping the gym for a few brews last Thursday after class turned out to be in their favor. While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive. Here are a few reasons that girls are crazy about the dad bod.

It doesn't intimidate us.
Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don't want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

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We like being the pretty one.
We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.

Better cuddling.
No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.

Good eats.
The dad bod says he doesn't meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down. He's not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything.

You know what you're getting.
Girls tend to picture their future together with their guys early on. Therefore, if he already has the dad bod going on, we can get used to it before we date him, marry him, have three kids. We know what we are getting into when he's got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he's going to have at 45.

So there you go. A simple break down of why girls everywhere are going nuts over this body type on males. We like it. We love it. We want some more of it. So here's to you dad bods, keep it up. Men, confidently strut that gut on the beach because while you stare at us in our bikinis we will be staring just as hard.

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To The Boy I Took For Granted From The Girl Who Ghosted You

I wish I could tell you all of this in person...


Dear Boy I took for granted,

I am sorry. Not because it didn't work out the first time, but because I told you I wanted to give it another chance when I wasn't entirely sure. I let peer pressure get the best of me and let my friend who wanted to play matchmaker the power to say things I was too scared to say, and allow her to press send. We were in a good place until I irresponsibly messed with your emotions. It is one of my biggest regrets in life.

I was apprehensive. I had only ever dated one guy in high school who had broken my heart, so I had my guard up. But despite that, you continually proved to me how great you were and how a person should be treated. I always looked forward to the next time we would hang out, what we would cook next, or what adventure you would take me on.

Everything changed when my friend told me a rumor when my friends and I were a little tipsy. It planted the seed of doubt in my mind that you only wanted to spend time with me so you could get the one thing that every guy in high school wanted. I was a nervous bundle of conflicting emotions and I didn't know what to do. I eventually drew back and ghosted you.

Things were weird for a few months, as I expected, but I soon started to question whether I trusted the right person. I decided to extend the olive branch and wished you a happy birthday. Things between us started to feel normal again. At least I knew we were in a good place.

By this time, it was second semester of my senior year. I was over at my friend's house late one night when she asked me why we never worked out. After explaining things to her, she was set on seeing us together again. She thought we were meant to be, and part of me wanted to believe her. She took my phone and told me she would text you as me, saying that I wanted to start things over. I passively let it happen.

When I got home, I started to process what I had done. I was consumed by that dreadful anxiety one gets after sending a risky text and I panicked. I, then, texted you saying that I had changed my mind. Again, I am sorry. In retrospect, I should have never let my friend send that first one. But now I have to deal with the embarrassment of leaving things awkward between us.

I wish I could tell you all of this in person, but realistically I know that things like this just needs time. I know things can't work between us since I messed everything up but just know that I never intended any of this to happen. I hope you are doing well and that this letter reaches you.


The girl who ghosted

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