Don't Settle For Less Than What You Owe Yourself

Don't Settle For Less Than What You Owe Yourself

Settling down is one of the worst things you could do in your twenties

I'm sorry that you feel this way, truly I am. I don't think anyone in their 20's or late teens should feel a need to settle. It's possibly the worst thing you can do.

And by settle, I don't mean just in a relationship: I mean for your life as well. Career-wise, friend-wise, experience-wise. If you're surrounded by people who don't want to take a road trip even though that's what you've been wanting or saving up for—just do it. You'll meet people along the way that will want to experience this.

You should never settle for less than what you feel you deserve. You should always be working toward your goals and keep them in mind when you make decisions.

Settling for less just seems way too silly. The reason that I hear so many people convince themselves of is that it's just easier. It's the path with less friction, fewer unknowns, and more convenience. They don't have to work on anyone, themselves, or anything. They just have to endure it, whether it's being with a girl you don't really love, a job you don't really like, or a living situation you used to wish you could get out of. People would rather endure because it's easier than to make changes for themselves—partly out of laziness, partly out of fear.

I would hate to be one of these people, personally. I think the thing I fear the least is change, but I embrace it instead, so it makes it harder for me to understand these people. Although there are people who have made big changes in their lives and overcome their fears or got out of their comfort zone, these are huge strides and, in the end, result in a lot more happiness.

I hate seeing people giving up on their goals or what they always dreamed of doing.

Sure, life gets in the way sometimes and you have to put dreams to the side for a bit, but always go back to what you love doing or what you want to do.

People who are just settling for a relationship, on the other hand: please don't. You literally hurt everyone involved. And it sucks if you love someone so much and they just love you half-ass. Like I'll always say, honesty is the best policy.

So keep your head held high and focus on the prize ahead. It might be a long ride and a bumpy one at that, but once you get there, it'll just be that much sweeter. Don't let your dreams go; keep them in mind, always.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Dear College Kids, Contact Your Legislators

Finding your political voice can seem daunting but it's important to realize that our legislators are just normal people who happen to work for us in government.


As we come to the end of another legislative session, it's important to reflect on all of the good that has happened but also the things that need work on. After entering college, my political voice and passion have only increased.

I definitely cared about politics in high school but after entering college and finding a group that helped me find a community gave me more courage to speak up about the things that I care about.

There is such power in a community. And that is something that I never realized that I was missing until I had it. I completely understand how daunting it can seem to start getting politically vocal.

Especially if you have unpopular or controversial opinions. As someone who grew up in an extremely conservative region, it took me a long time to feel comfortable and confident standing in my beliefs which largely align with the left. But the only thing that I can tell you is that your minor discomfort and fear is so worth it.

I remember being nervous to display that first planned parenthood pin, not to mention that first nerve-wracking call to a legislator. But I can tell you from first-hand experience that it is not nearly as scary as it appears. It is easy to see our legislators as people standing on pedestals that are so far detached from our reality.

But the reality is that our legislators are normal people. They are mothers, fathers, carpenters, activists, and from a million other walks of life. And it truly helps to change your perspective when you contact your representatives. It helps you to feel more comfortable around them and it helps to prove that our legislators are everyday people.

They are everyday people with power only granted to them by us. Our legislators work directly for their constituents. And so even if your legislators have polar opposite opinions to yours, it is still imperative that we voice our opinions.

How are our legislators supposed to know that their constituents care about reproductive healthcare, comprehensive sex education, LGBTQ+ protections, and so many other issues that directly affect our daily lives?

I cannot stress enough just how important these seemingly small steps of action are. Call your legislator. Email them about an issue you care about. If you have the chance, attend a lobby day about an issue that you feel passionately about.

In our society, it's easy to view people in power as distant and out of reach but we cannot forget that the United States was founded on the rule of the people by the people. So people, call your legislators.

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