We Don't Need Social Media

We Don't Need Social Media

We shouldn't let numbers define who we are.
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Sometimes I wonder why social media is even a thing, all it does is make us not be able to have a face to face conversation and defines us by how many likes we get on a picture and how many followers we have on a social media platform. But we shouldn't let numbers define how popular we are or how cute we look. Social media is not that important to depend your life on it by posting a picture on Instagram every day and tweeting nonsense every minute.

We're so busy trying to get 200 likes on an Instagram picture that we can't even talk to people. I mean we can but that's over texting and snapchat but if we're face to face it's very awkward, especially if you haven't seen that person in a while. Social media became this thing that we lean on when nobody's listening.

We shouldn't feel like we need to post a picture today because we haven't posted one in a week. Things like that don't matter unless that's actually your job, but even then how long is that going to be your job. How long is social media going to be around? In a couple of years, there might be a new trend where nobody has an Instagram anymore or any other social media.

Only some of the followers you have actually like you and the other ones are just following you to see what you are doing and you have the followers that only follow you because you follow them. The numbers of followers you have don't make you better than anyone else.

We try to document everything that happens to us that we're too busy to enjoy that moment. The best moments of your life don't need to be on Facebook or Instagram, they need to be cherished between you and the others that are a part of that moment.

We get mad when someone looks through our phones because it's "private" but we post everything that happens to us on social media. It doesn't make sense. All social media is doing is having us compare our lives to others and hating everything we have because someone has better. Nobody is as perfect as they make themselves seem on social media. Just because it's not posted on social media doesn't mean it's not true. Social media doesn't make us happy if we want to be happy we have to be willing to live the life we have and not document a life we wish we had. We can't compare our lives to others because no one is the same, not everyone has the same dreams and same needs and wants.

Social media does nothing for us except give us low self-esteem because we don't get a certain amount of likes. We should be able to live without social media. We should let how we portray ourselves in public define who we are as a person.

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25 Things To Do After 1 a.m.

You never remember the nights you went to bed early.
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I'm a night owl, and at a clean, Christian university, it gets a bit rough trying to find things to do after one in the morning. If your adrenaline's pumping with or without friends, here are some things you can do for free or using that crumpled twenty dollar bill in your pocket.

1. Dick's.

If you're feeling frisky in the wee hours of the morning, head to Dick's with some friends.

Or if you're looking for something more adventurous...

2. Watch a movie.

Reserve a time slot at the movie lounge in your dorm, pop some popcorn, and watch your hall mates cry at your favorite tearjerker.

3. Go on a walk to nowhere.

Without using a map, just walk with no destination in mind. Try to find your way back without any assistance. Of course though, be safe.

4. Jam out.


Bust out someone's guitar or triangle and go to town. If you don't know anyone who plays an instrument, borrow a speaker and blast a good tune.

5. Cards Against Humanity.


People get weirdly inappropriate when they're tired, this makes it the optimal time to play Cards Against Humanity.

6. Gasworks Park.


I swear the park is more beautiful at night when no one's there. Plus, nothing beats the adrenaline rush than when geese surround you on all sides.

7. Late-night drive.


Go for a scenic drive like the one shown above.

8. Go somewhere that's usually full of people and see it empty.

It's hauntingly beautiful to see somewhere that's typically crowded and see it completely empty. It's a private moment that you'll get to remember every time you go back.

9. Watch something in your queue on Netflix.


Hey, you put it there for a reason.

10. Learn that one thing you've been meaning to.


Whether it's a new skill, language, or hobby you want to pick up, learn it now! There's no time like the present. Or, surf some Wikipedia articles and jump from one related article to the next.

11. Scooter races.


Find out which of your hall mates will do anything to win.

12. Table topics.

If you want to find out more about your friends, but the only question you can think of is, "How do you feel about Dick Cheney?" Table Topics are perfect.

13. Retail therapy.

Or, you can do what I do and add everything to my basket and then cry when I see the total.

14. Watch the airplanes fly in.


Knowing that each airplane holds dozens of people who have their own lives and are off on adventures or returning home is so humbling. Also, airplanes look like shooting stars if you squint.

15. City wide Fugitive.


Basically Cops and Robbers, there are two groups of people. Group A tries to make it from Point One to Point Two (we had everyone meet at a park and try to make their way back to campus) without being caught by Group B. Group B is usually dispersed into cars and they flash their headlights at someone from Group A if they're seen.

16. Beth's


Who isn't down for breakfast food at two A.M.? Any 24 hour diner will do, but Beth's is the best.

17. Pinterest baking party.


Even if you don't succeed, it'll make for a good photo (and hopefully still taste good).

18. Salsa dancing.


Or swing dancing. Or learning how to do the latest dance. Dancing is the perfect way to bond by making fools of yourselves. Plus, it might lead to a vicious dance battle between R.A.'s.

19. Picnic on a roof.

Preferably a flat roof that you're not trespassing on, but make do with what you can.

20. Stargazing.

Stargazing is my absolute favorite way to pass the time using the Planets app on my phone. If you're having some trouble identifying the stars, Star Chart app is super easy.

21. Watch the sunrise.


Just pull an all nighter to see the sunrise. It's way more rewarding compared to seeing a sunset.

22. Get a tattoo.

If you just want something simple and know someone who has experience, get a stick and poke tattoo. Even though stick and pokes tend to not last as long and don't look as clean as a professional tattoo(you have to go over it a couple times), it's still a tattoo! Make sure the needles are sterile and you're using the right ink.

23. Skinny dipping.

Maybe not during this time of year in the Pacific Northwest, but spring has to come around sooner or later.

24. Karaoke.


Hit up a karaoke bar with some friends and sing your troubles away. Boxcar Ale House, Ozzie's in Seattle, Crescent Lounge, and Hula Hula are open until 2 a.m. while Seattle's Best Karaoke is open until 3 a.m.

25. Sleep.

As my roommate always says, "Nothing good ever happens past 2 a.m."

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Matthew, I Wish You Were Still Here

"Grief is like the ocean - it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." -Vicki Harrison

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"It'll get easier"

That's what I heard over and over after the death of my best friend, Matthew.

I believed it, too.

It's been over two and a half years since his passing and my grieving process has actually...gotten worse. It feels like it has gone in the opposite order than it was "supposed to" which has made this fall extremely difficult. You see, Matthew was a kicker on our high school's football team, so every time I see "the boys of fall" it rips me to shreds. He was a great football player too; he was headed to college to play. Football games were hard to attend because all I could think about is how much I wished I was traveling to watch him play.

Memories from songs, jokes, and pictures flood back to me more intense than ever before. I feel myself sitting in a situation just thinking it would be better if he were there. I also have started asking all of the what-ifs.

Matthew was one of my greatest friends, but he was always so much more than that. He took me to my first prom, was along for all of the crazy boy stories I made him listen to, and made me laugh as no one else could. He was my confidant, rescuer, protector and adventure companion. He was such a light in my life and the happiest person I knew.

I have again been finding myself questioning why he was taken so soon and going in reverse of my so-called closure. So much has happened recently that makes me wish he were still here to go to for all of my battles. I look at his pictures with more pain and longing than ever before. And why? I thought I had made progress. How does a grieving process go in the wrong direction?

The loss of a loved one will never "make sense". And the grieving process doesn't have an "order" for everyone. I don't think it will ever go away for me. I will just have to take each day at a time. Matthew will always be a part of me and I will always have precious memories with him. Just know that if you are feeling this way you are not alone. There's no correct way to grieve.

It's just all about learning how to swim.

Matthew would have been twenty-one at the end of this month.

I hope you're partying hard up there MP, I love you.

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