I Don't Like Drinking, And That's OK

I Don't Like Drinking, And That's OK

I don't drink often, but I don't judge those who do.

I’m just going to say it: I don’t really enjoy drinking.

I know you’re probably thinking, “What?!?” When I tell people I’ve only had a few glasses of wine since I turned 21 four months ago and that’s it, their jaws tend to drop, because who in college doesn’t drink? Isn’t that only what college students do?

And no, I don’t think I’m “better” than people who do drink or think that drinking is trashy. Trust me, if I could have a couple shots and feel relaxed and have fun, I would! I envy the people that can handle their alcohol well and relax with it. But it’s just not me.

I already get a little bit nervous about parties. I go them sometimes, but not every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday like a lot of people. I don’t like crowds, and I don’t enjoy walking from party house to party house as the police show up at each one. Honestly, I’d rather be snuggled up in bed than wandering the streets of South Bend and paying for cabs. I’ve been to a lot of parties, and while I know they’re fun for most people (and that’s great!), they’re not always fun for me.

And even if all parties went smoothly and were fun for me, drinking is a whole different story. I’m 4’11" and small-framed, and one drink hits me hard. I skip the fun and relaxed part and go straight to the dizzy and nauseous part. I don’t feel happy and excited, I have a headache and need to go to the bathroom.

I also just don’t like the feeling of being drunk. I like to be in control of my body. When I drink, I don’t feel relaxed, I feel tense. I know that’s not how most people feel, but it is how I feel. Drinking just makes me nervous, and that’s okay.

In general, I really prefer more sober ways of having fun. For me, a fun night involves going to the movies, the mall, Chipotle, watching a movie, playing games, and not going to a party. When you’re out with friends at a party, it’s loud and chaotic, with people are scattered all over the place. Some of my best memories with my friends are when we stayed in and talked to each other late into the night: and the best part is we can actually remember it!

I’m not opposed to all drinking; I love enjoying a nice glass of wine every now and then. I appreciate the taste of wine, and I’d be lying if I said ordering a glass of chardonnay didn’t make me feel refined. If a drink sounds super fun and has alcohol in it, I’ll definitely try it, just because who WOULDN’T want to try an Oreo milkshake with Bailey’s Irish cream, or a mango pineapple daiquiri? That sounds delicious and awesome.

If you enjoying going to parties and drinking with friends, great! Continue to do it, because you should do whatever makes you happy. And if you aren’t really the partying type, know you’re not alone! Even though in college it feels like everyone is doing it, there are those rare people who really just don’t care for it. Do whatever you prefer, and don’t worry about people judging you. Your happiness is all that really matters, not the opinion of others.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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8 Things To Do With Your Girl Friends When You DON'T Want To Drink On A Friday Night

Friday nights don't have to be all about drinking or just staying in your room.


While college may seem like the wildest time of everyone's life, not everyone drinks and not everyone wants to go out every weekend. With this in mind, there are so many other things to do with friends, even by yourself, that doesn't involve you sitting in your room at night.

1. Have a sleepover

Text your best friends, get plenty of snacks, and don't forget your robe or fuzzy socks! Order pizza and binge-watch your favorite TV show. Who doesn't love a good girl's night in?

2. Go to the movies

TBH, I'm the one percent of the population who still hasn't seen Endgame.

3. Go bowling/ice skating/escape room/something kinda active

With a group of friends, it can be a pretty cheap and fun Friday night.

4. Board game night

Board game marathons are the best. I'm pretty sure my friends only have Cards Against Humanity, but board games are definitely worth the investment.

5. Try that one place you've always wanted to go!

I cannot tell you the number of times I've said 'I want to go there' and still haven't been to said place. When you don't want to go out on a Friday night, hit up that one spot you've been DYING to go.

6. Have a dessert party with friends

Have your friends bring a dessert, or go out to a restaurant and split them! It's a great way to chat, catch up, and enjoy some sugar!

7. Make a fort

I haven't made a fort as a kid, but you can bet I'm gonna drag my roommates out of their rooms and do this next time I'm bored.

8. Cook or bake something new

Try out that new recipe (or a few) that you've just pinned on Pinterest.

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