I Don't Like Drinking, And That's OK

I Don't Like Drinking, And That's OK

I don't drink often, but I don't judge those who do.

I’m just going to say it: I don’t really enjoy drinking.

I know you’re probably thinking, “What?!?” When I tell people I’ve only had a few glasses of wine since I turned 21 four months ago and that’s it, their jaws tend to drop, because who in college doesn’t drink? Isn’t that only what college students do?

And no, I don’t think I’m “better” than people who do drink or think that drinking is trashy. Trust me, if I could have a couple shots and feel relaxed and have fun, I would! I envy the people that can handle their alcohol well and relax with it. But it’s just not me.

I already get a little bit nervous about parties. I go them sometimes, but not every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday like a lot of people. I don’t like crowds, and I don’t enjoy walking from party house to party house as the police show up at each one. Honestly, I’d rather be snuggled up in bed than wandering the streets of South Bend and paying for cabs. I’ve been to a lot of parties, and while I know they’re fun for most people (and that’s great!), they’re not always fun for me.

And even if all parties went smoothly and were fun for me, drinking is a whole different story. I’m 4’11" and small-framed, and one drink hits me hard. I skip the fun and relaxed part and go straight to the dizzy and nauseous part. I don’t feel happy and excited, I have a headache and need to go to the bathroom.

I also just don’t like the feeling of being drunk. I like to be in control of my body. When I drink, I don’t feel relaxed, I feel tense. I know that’s not how most people feel, but it is how I feel. Drinking just makes me nervous, and that’s okay.

In general, I really prefer more sober ways of having fun. For me, a fun night involves going to the movies, the mall, Chipotle, watching a movie, playing games, and not going to a party. When you’re out with friends at a party, it’s loud and chaotic, with people are scattered all over the place. Some of my best memories with my friends are when we stayed in and talked to each other late into the night: and the best part is we can actually remember it!

I’m not opposed to all drinking; I love enjoying a nice glass of wine every now and then. I appreciate the taste of wine, and I’d be lying if I said ordering a glass of chardonnay didn’t make me feel refined. If a drink sounds super fun and has alcohol in it, I’ll definitely try it, just because who WOULDN’T want to try an Oreo milkshake with Bailey’s Irish cream, or a mango pineapple daiquiri? That sounds delicious and awesome.

If you enjoying going to parties and drinking with friends, great! Continue to do it, because you should do whatever makes you happy. And if you aren’t really the partying type, know you’re not alone! Even though in college it feels like everyone is doing it, there are those rare people who really just don’t care for it. Do whatever you prefer, and don’t worry about people judging you. Your happiness is all that really matters, not the opinion of others.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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College Party 'Ratios' Are Sexist Discrimination Against Men, Change My Mind

For every guy who wants to go to a party, he needs four or five girls to accompany him.


I'm sure at least every college student has at least been to a party once — or they've tried to. I'm a first-year female, and I've been to a few parties. I don't necessarily like them, but free drinks and good music can rope anyone in. There's also the fact that females can get into these parties with NO hassle. You have a group of 10 girls? No problem. Three girls? Step right up. Even if you're all alone, you can get in anywhere as long as you're a female.

But if you're a male? Good luck, you're most likely not going to get in.

Before I came to college, I didn't understand what "ratios" were. I mean, of course, I know what an actual ratio is in mathematical terms, but a party ratio is a little different.

It's also very very sexist.

Most parties put out a ratio when the addresses come out. They'll usually be something like 1:4 or 1:5. This actually means, that for every guy who wants to go to a party, he needs four or five girls to accompany him. Simply preparing for that and gathering girls itself is hard. Especially because if you're a male and you want your male best friend to come with you, both of you need about eight or 10 girls COMBINED. Isn't that a little too much?

Last week, my roommate dragged me out of bed to go to a party because I'd been working all week. I agreed only because the weather was somewhat okay. We went with a couple from our residence hall, one other female, and two other guys. So a total of four girls, and three guys. Obviously not good for ratios at all. When we got to the party, we found out that not only was the ratio 1:5, but a dude had to pay $5 for EVERY MISSING GIRL. So we all split up to get in, and it was me and one of the guys as a "group." They let me in, but the guy with me had to pay $15 dollars out of pocket.

And the party was a**!

What really inspired me to write this article, was when he said, "I feel really bad about paying $15 for this. I work at a grocery store and I only make money doing that, so this is really painful."

To be honest, I was pretty mad. I would never put down that much money for a stupid party. But what do you do if you're a guy and don't have a ratio? You pay.

We're always talking about the feminist movement and how men have more than females, but is this really any better?

Parties just want females for clout. Males are overshadowed. Why should only guys have to pay to get in? When asked, the answer comes down to covering the costs assumed for throwing the party. The fraternities need to cover for their drinks and any decorations, so they use this money to do so. But not every male who pays to get in drinks. So why not just let people in and then make them pay for each drink they have? It's not sexist and it makes everyone responsible for THEIR actions.

A guy shouldn't have to pay $15 so a bunch of girls can drink free alcohol. Parties should make everyone pay to get in. Anywhere from $2-$5 per person is more than enough to cover costs. Ostracizing males from females in this matter isn't trying to achieve a more equal future for anyone. It's backward, sexist, extremely segregating, and it needs to stop.

Change my mind.

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