I Am A Girl Who Loves To Go On Dates, But I Do Not Let The Guy Pay All Of The Time

I Am A Girl Who Loves To Go On Dates, But I Do Not Let The Guy Pay All Of The Time

Yes, I believe in chivalry but that does not mean that the guy should have to pay for my date all of the time.


Now, I love going on dates as much as the next girl.

I love feeling giddy whenever I am getting ready for my date, finding the right outfit, I even FaceTime my best friend while I am getting ready because she is the only one that can talk me out of not canceling on my date. First dates are the best and I strongly believe that the guy should pay for the first date; that is just the gentlemen thing to do and ladies if he does not pay for the first date or if he pays for half then you should consider not going on that second date.

I am a pretty independent person and I still believe in chivalry as much as the girl who is a hopeless romantic but, I just don't see why the guy has to pay for me every single date.

I have a system to where if the guy initiates the date then he should pay but let's say that I was the one who hit him up saying "Hey, let's go grab tacos!" then, of course, I am going to feel like I should pay because he didn't initiate the plans. Yes, it is nice whenever the guy always offers to pay but it is the 21st century and if I have the funds to pay for the date; you bet I will be paying for it. I am very stubborn so we will probably be fighting to pay for the check and the guy will probably be the one giving up simply because I am relentless.

I have always thought about what guys are thinking in the back of their heads whenever they are constantly paying for dates. Thankfully I remember a conversation I had with one of my guy friends a while ago about that. He had said that yes, it is the right thing to do and always pay for the date but knowing that the girl wants to pay makes them more attractive. Yes, the guy should always pay for the first date, yes it is nice when the guy always pays, but there is nothing in the dating guideline that says the guy should be paying for every single date.

It is a sweet gesture gents but it is the 21st century and ladies are no longer damsels in distress. We should be able to pay for the date every once in a while or at least pay for candy or popcorn on a movie date or even pay for coffee. I love that chivalry has not died yet but ladies; it is perfectly okay to want to pay for the date every once in a while. There is nothing wrong with that.

So ladies; the next time you are on a date think about grabbing the check because I promise you that you will feel not only empowered but the guys will be surprised and appreciative that you did.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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It's Time For Romance Movies To Start Portraying Love And Relationships More Accurately

It's 2019, get with the times.


Currently, on TV and in the movies, many romance movies have the same storyline. If it's on Hallmark, two people fall in love and complete some kind of mission. If it's in the movies two people date/fall in love, something causes them to break up, then they get back together and everyone lives happily ever after.

The problem is that all of these plots are seriously unrealistic.

All of these movies and TV shows just inaccurately portray how a relationship works in real life. A real relationship takes a lot of work, time, and effort. Not everything is candy canes, unicorns, and comes so easily. There are so many other factors that people have to think about.

I really got into watching these romantic type movies when I started watching PG-13 movies. I would watch them and picture all my relationships going this way. But these movies painted the wrong picture of relationships. I'm not saying my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend at all, he is wonderful! But we both have learned it takes a lot of work, time, effort, and communication. These are things very few romance movies teach us.

Also, everyone expects things from their significant others from what they see in these movies. I was one of those people, but then real life hit. There are bills, jobs, and time management that you have to consider. This doesn't mean that my boyfriend and I don't go out, but we have to choose wisely for what we do and when we do it! We have also found fun things to do at home in place of going out in order to save money.

I understand that many people like to watch these programs and enjoy them. But there needs to be a change to accurately portray a relationship. Personally, I think this is why many young people's relationships don't last - they have watched this easy relationship develop and stay in a movie and they haven't seen what it is like in real life.

So, to those who produce these types of movies and shows, it's time that you start making things more realistic.

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