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Stop Comparing Yourself To Her, You're Exactly Who You're Supposed To Be

Embrace yourself and love yourself.

Stop Comparing Yourself To Her, You're Exactly Who You're Supposed To Be

What is so wrong with the way you look?

Is it because her nose is cuter? Slimmer and more like a button? Or maybe it's her lips. Maybe they're the perfect pout and yours isn't; you have to over line. Maybe she's thick and skinny in all the 'right places' and you think you're not.

Why do you sit there and think that about yourself?

We hear this all the time, but it's true: we live in an age where social media makes us criticizes ourselves and feel unsatisfied with the way we look. We stare at other girl's bodies and become envious and upset. We get frustrated and think, "Why can't I look like her? She's so much prettier than me".

FALSE. Stop comparing yourself to other girls, 'cause babe, you're so much more beautiful than you can see.

Stop being so infatuated with tearing yourself down. Stop being okay with saying "I'm so ugly!" Don't even say it as a joke, because you'd be lying to yourself. It doesn't matter if her eyes are green or blue and you think yours aren't special because they're brown. Not the hazel brown or the chocolate brown but dark brown. That's okay. Don't compare your frizzy hair to hers, because I promise you she doesn't wake up and look that way.

She doesn't wake up without morning breath, and before she goes to bed, her stomach is bloated. She has scars just like you do, her hair gets oily and she sweats too. She might be skinny but that doesn't mean she eats clean all the time. You don't have to either. You don't have to starve yourself or deprive yourself of sweet treats, indulge. You don't have to style your hair every day, just braid it or throw it in a bun.

Maybe you like her outfits. They're cute, but so are you. You look beautiful in your plain sweats and hoodies. You'd look equally as beautiful all dressed up, so don't feel like you're ugly when you're not all dressed up. Maybe she looks amazing in a bikini, and maybe you want to have a summer body too. Fun fact: every body is a summer body. I promise you she has stretch marks too. That and cellulite, birthmarks, maybe even wrinkles.

Let's consider something else: maybe there's a girl out there who's compared herself to you. Maybe she's jealous of your pretty hair, or your stunning smile. Maybe it's the way you do your makeup or your long eyelashes. The truth is, we've all compared ourselves to some other girl, at least once in our lives, if not just today. But we're hurting the way we feel about ourselves, and we aren't loving ourselves the way we deserve to.

You look at photos of other girls and think they're so gorgeous but what you don't know is that out of the 2 photos she posted, there's hundreds more she took and didn't like. We show off the best of ourselves because we love the way we look all dolled up, but we don't think the 'us' that is naked and bare is beautiful, and it's a shame.

Girls, you are just as beautiful when you're all 'fixed up' as when you think you look your 'bummiest.' I promise you. Stop comparing yourself to her. She is her and you are you and there is only one you and you are the best at being you.

Learn to love your flaws and love the way you look. That doesn't mean you can't change the way you look, if that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

But be 100%, confident, and unapologetically, you.

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