Stop Comparing Yourself To Her, You're Exactly Who You're Supposed To Be

Stop Comparing Yourself To Her, You're Exactly Who You're Supposed To Be

Embrace yourself and love yourself.


What is so wrong with the way you look?

Is it because her nose is cuter? Slimmer and more like a button? Or maybe it's her lips. Maybe they're the perfect pout and yours isn't; you have to over line. Maybe she's thick and skinny in all the 'right places' and you think you're not.

Why do you sit there and think that about yourself?

We hear this all the time, but it's true: we live in an age where social media makes us criticizes ourselves and feel unsatisfied with the way we look. We stare at other girl's bodies and become envious and upset. We get frustrated and think, "Why can't I look like her? She's so much prettier than me".

FALSE. Stop comparing yourself to other girls, 'cause babe, you're so much more beautiful than you can see.

Stop being so infatuated with tearing yourself down. Stop being okay with saying "I'm so ugly!" Don't even say it as a joke, because you'd be lying to yourself. It doesn't matter if her eyes are green or blue and you think yours aren't special because they're brown. Not the hazel brown or the chocolate brown but dark brown. That's okay. Don't compare your frizzy hair to hers, because I promise you she doesn't wake up and look that way.

She doesn't wake up without morning breath, and before she goes to bed, her stomach is bloated. She has scars just like you do, her hair gets oily and she sweats too. She might be skinny but that doesn't mean she eats clean all the time. You don't have to either. You don't have to starve yourself or deprive yourself of sweet treats, indulge. You don't have to style your hair every day, just braid it or throw it in a bun.

Maybe you like her outfits. They're cute, but so are you. You look beautiful in your plain sweats and hoodies. You'd look equally as beautiful all dressed up, so don't feel like you're ugly when you're not all dressed up. Maybe she looks amazing in a bikini, and maybe you want to have a summer body too. Fun fact: every body is a summer body. I promise you she has stretch marks too. That and cellulite, birthmarks, maybe even wrinkles.

Let's consider something else: maybe there's a girl out there who's compared herself to you. Maybe she's jealous of your pretty hair, or your stunning smile. Maybe it's the way you do your makeup or your long eyelashes. The truth is, we've all compared ourselves to some other girl, at least once in our lives, if not just today. But we're hurting the way we feel about ourselves, and we aren't loving ourselves the way we deserve to.

You look at photos of other girls and think they're so gorgeous but what you don't know is that out of the 2 photos she posted, there's hundreds more she took and didn't like. We show off the best of ourselves because we love the way we look all dolled up, but we don't think the 'us' that is naked and bare is beautiful, and it's a shame.

Girls, you are just as beautiful when you're all 'fixed up' as when you think you look your 'bummiest.' I promise you. Stop comparing yourself to her. She is her and you are you and there is only one you and you are the best at being you.

Learn to love your flaws and love the way you look. That doesn't mean you can't change the way you look, if that makes you feel comfortable and confident.

But be 100%, confident, and unapologetically, you.

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Here's To Being Me And Not Changing For Anyone

I am not who everyone thinks I should be, and chances are, neither are you.


I live in a special kind of world. I see everything as confetti, cupcakes, unicorns, and rainbows. I am extremely naive. I never break the rules. I am a "goody-two-shoes" to the highest degree. I am the girl that has defied it all.

I drive my mother crazy because I am very trusting of others and I get extremely upset and let down when someone betrays me, but even then, I will give them chance after chance. I struggle with realizing that people will fail me. I feel as though since I am nice to everyone, they should be nice to me. Well, this is not reality.

I want to be everyone's friend and go-to gal, but I have had to learn that people will take advantage of me. People see me as a weak innocent young lady, and I am like a fat man to a cupcake when it comes to being taken over by someone else.

I know why this happens, but I do not know how to stop it. I love getting to know people and investing in others' lives, but how do I protect my heart in the process?

I know I cannot possibly be the only person that sees their glass as half-full or completely running over all of the time, so we must come together. The world is a horrible nasty place, but there is no reason that it has to be.

Why can the world not be confetti, cupcakes, unicorns, and rainbows? It is all about our mindset as a society. If we were all just a bit sweeter to our neighbor, classmate, coworker, child, sibling, or even the incarcerated, would it really be that hard of a change?

So, instead of changing myself to have a harder heart or a negative outlook on life, I think I will change the world. I do not have to be like everyone else, because there is unity in diversity. I simply want to see others succeed and make the world just a tiny bit better.

I encourage you today to not change for society.

Stay in your world and make it your reality.

Who knows? Maybe a good dose of some confetti wouldn't be so bad for everyone.

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You Don't Need A 'Bikini Body' To Fully Love Yourself This Summer

You don't need to be stick-thin to feel good about your body.


One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Want to know why? Because it's true.

I could look in the mirror one day and feel totally confident about myself. Then I'll see a post on Instagram of some beautiful girl, feel awful, and wonder why I don't look like that. But there's a reason I don't look like that — because I'm me, not them.

The fact of the matter is that we need to love ourselves for who we are. We need to stop comparing our beauty to that of others. We are all our own people and we should feel confident in our beauty.

Bikini season is a major source of struggle for me and many others. Everyone is lounging on the beach in bikinis and you feel like you just want to hide under your towel. Every other photo on your social media is a super skinny girl from high school showing off her body. You will NEVER see a photo of me in a bikini on social media because I'm simply not comfortable in my body enough to show it off like that. I have always wished that I was, but at the same time, that's not who I am.

You don't need to be stick thin to feel good about your body. Every body is beautiful, and we need to embrace that. If we constantly look to others as a source of comparison, we will literally never be happy in our own skin.

Bikini season is tough as it is, don't make it tougher on yourself by allowing your mind to take over. Enjoy your spring break, enjoy your summer, enjoy your life. You deserve it. You deserve happiness.

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