In The 21st Century, You Shouldn’t Have To Change Yourself To Find Love

In The 21st Century, You Shouldn’t Have To Change Yourself To Find Love

This should have been a trend that was kicked out the door years ago.

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Movies and books have made it seem like finding love will solve all of the world's problems. And, I know I am not the first to tell you this but... it doesn't. Love is absolutely spectacular, but it isn't something to be forced. If you find someone who loves everything about you except for one thing... or maybe two... or, you know, maybe if you just fixed your hair or changed your perfume… then they are not the right one for you!

I am sick and tired of people feeling intimidated by their significant other, or feeling like they could lose them if they don't comply with their every wish. Love shouldn't come with a catch. Your girlfriend or boyfriend should be content with everything that is you, and not make requests for you to change things about yourself that you truly don't have to.

Now, change can be (and almost always is) a beautiful, beneficial thing. However, it isn't always necessary.

If your significant other says that they will break up with you if you do not lose weight or if you don't start eating healthier, they could potentially have your best interest in mind, but that's not a healthy way for them to portray that. Instead, you need to show them the door. If others cannot love you for you, then it is not worth your time to be in a relationship with them, whether it be romantic or platonic. Toxic friends can be just as detrimental as an unsupportive significant other.

However, you don't have to deal with this. There is no need to keep those around that make fun of your outfits or judge you for the type of food that you eat. If you want to spice up your own wardrobe, if you want to lose weight to get healthier, or even if you want to become a vegetarian, then make those changes for yourself. Take control of your own life and do what is right for you. Don't feel obligated to hate a part of your body or alter yourself just because someone else suggested it.

If your boyfriend, girlfriend, or best friend doesn't like the way you dress, quite frankly it is none of their business. You should be able to express yourself however you feel comfortable. By doing so, the people that are attracted to you and that relate to you, who happen to cross your path in the future, will click with you immediately. There is no need to try to force a relationship with someone who doesn't appreciate all that you are, without having to change anything.

Find someone who loves everything about you, someone who says you are enough.

I promise you, they do exist.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.
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It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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4 Simple Things You Can Do For Your Health Starting Today

It doesn't have to be complicated.

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In college, it can be pretty difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Students are on odd schedules between classes, homework, extracurriculars, social activities, and potentially sporting events as well. Plus, college students are on a tight budget, so it can be hard to justify buying a nutritious salad that's $5 more than a much less healthy meal. We know we should eat healthier... but it's tough.

Still, there are easy ways for you to live a little bit healthier. Healthcare services are not cheap and the best way to keep these costs down (now and in the future) is prevention. This means taking steps to prevent health issues from coming up later down the line. Ideally, we'd all eat perfectly nutritious diets, never drink anything bad, work out every week, and sleep as much as needed. Realistically, this is probably not going to happen, but here are four steps you can take today to help yourself be healthier.

1. Go for a walk around the block each night after dinner.

Exercise doesn't have to be super intensive or super long -- the most important thing is that you're doing something. This can be as simple as a short walk each day. So why not bake that into your routine? Take 10 minutes each night -- that's all -- and walk around your block after dinner (or whatever time of day works for you). The after-meal stroll may help your body digest the food more easily after all.

2. Start pre-packing snacks for yourself.

Sometimes you just need to grab a snack on campus because you can't run home, but sadly this leaves few healthy or inexpensive options. Typically it's unhealthy and expensive. To avoid situations like this, and to give yourself more healthful snacks, try pre-packing some over the weekend. This could be pretzels, an apple or orange, rice crackers, carrot sticks, or whatever else you enjoy. Your body and your wallet will thank you.

3. Choose at least one night each week where you’ll commit to getting a full 8 hours of sleep.

College students are known to be sleep deprived, and sadly it's a case where we generally can't help it. There's just a lot going on. However, one small step you can take to make sure you at least get some sleep is to choose one day each week where you'll commit to getting a full night's sleep. This might not be possible every single night, which would be ideal, but give yourself one day where you promise yourself you'll get a full 8 hours (or more!).

4. Carry a reusable water bottle and remind yourself to drink it throughout the day.

It seems like every event for students hands out t-shirts and water bottles, so chances are, you have quite a few reusable bottles laying around. Put whichever is your favorite to good use by carrying it around every day. This will remind you to drink water regularly, which is an important component of health. Plus, you might find yourself spending less on a soda here and an iced tea there.

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