College is a time to explore and be free, right? You do not have time to worry about finding your future spouse so you might as well just go out and mingle with no expectations. It's totally OK to go out, get plastered, and then wake up in bed with a guy you don't remember meeting. For some people this mentality is OK, but I don't believe in it.
Call me old-fashioned, but I believe that you should at least be in a committed relationship with someone before you sleep with them. Sex is one of the most sacred and special things you can share with someone, so why would you want to waste that on the guy that looked "hot" at the bar the night before but refuses to call you the next day? Or the douche-y fraternity president who will not amount to anything? It's not worth your time.
I believe in holding myself to a higher standard and valuing my self-worth. Don't get me wrong, I've shared some really good kisses after a night out, but I never once jumped into bed with them. Unfortunately, this stereotypes me as being a "prude" or even a "stuck up bitch" because I refuse to spread my legs for a lousy college boy.
Well, here is what I have to say to you:
Call me a prude because it doesn't bother me one bit. I would rather be known as that then the slut who has slept with half of your house. If you ever get the chance to sleep with me (which you won't) then you should consider yourself lucky that I have saved this special moment for you. You think I am a stuck up bitch? Well, you might be right about that one because I do know that I am better than that. I'm not going to be another number in your sex count and if you are stupid enough to give me crap for it, then I will be a bitch. Why? Because bitches get stuff done.
If you want any chance to even remotely get close to me, then respect me and my decisions. You could be the long lost identical twin to Ryan Gosling, and I still wouldn't crawl into bed with you. I'd rather have someone who cares about me for my personality, my love for cats, my driven attitude, and my decisions I have made. If you can't value me for that, then I don't have room in my life for you.
To the other girls who choose to participate in the hookup culture: I'm not judging you. This is your college experience and if you like the no-strings-attached lifestyle, then good for you! Sometimes people are not the "relationship type" and would rather have these experiences before life gets real, and that is okay. Just never let some stupid college boy disrespect you because you aren't doing things the way he likes.
As for me, I will be waiting for the right guy to come into my life before I make moves and that is perfectly fine with me because I know that I respect myself and my goals.
