If I Ever Go Full 'Bridezilla,' You Have My Full Permission To Slap Me

If I Ever Go Full 'Bridezilla,' You Have My Full Permission To Slap Me

Anyone who catches me, seriously, just slap me back into my senses.


As someone who has always loved watching "Bridezillas," the fact that Netflix now has their own, British version, called "Diva Brides" gives me more pleasure than it probably should. The older I get, the closer I pay attention to bridal shows, hoping to learn some valuable lessons about planning for weddings, picking out the perfect dress, and treating my bridesmaids and family who help with the wedding like human beings.

If I EVER act like a bridezilla, you have permission to slap me. Anyone who catches me, seriously, just slap me back into my senses.

The people in your bridal party are some of your closest family and friends, and they do not deserve to be treated like dispensable slaves to a bride who only cares about herself because it's her day. Yes, it is your day... congrats! Is it worth losing your friends and family over everything being absolutely perfect? Weddings never go one hundred percent as planned, so trying to force the people around you to make sure your day is perfect is inconceivable.

I can be a bit of a perfectionist, I will admit it, but I would never treat my friends the way I've seen some brides treat theirs. Treat everyone with respect and they may actually enjoy helping you with your wedding, Susan! My friends will likely help me with wedding inspiration and will be there along with my closest family as I pick out my mermaid style dress. Friends keep you on-budget (most of the time anyway) with everything and that's the kind of support a bride needs by her side. I treasure each and every one of my friends and can't imagine starting my new life without them to support me.

Also, my future husband would probably divorce me if he saw me treat my best friends and family like shit. Any sensible man wouldn't stand to watch that type of behavior. If you can treat your closest peeps like they don't matter to you, imagine how your husband might worry that you could easily treat him like that. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated! You're not the Queen, you're just a regular person acting extra and pushing away everyone good in your life.

I plan on making sure that those involved with helping me plan my wedding are treated as they always are, with love and respect. They don't have to take time out of their lives to help me plan, but they still will because that's what friends do. If I ever act an outlandish, extra fool towards one of my friends, I expect them to call me out right then and there.

If you want the wedding of your dreams, you have to have your friends and family there, or else it's going to be the worst day of your life, instead of the best day.

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A Thank You Letter to My Fiance

You've outdone yourself in every way, ever.

To the man who got down on one knee just a few days ago,

Thank you. I'm not thanking you for proposing to me. That would be silly. I'm thanking you for so, so much more. Since you've come into my life, you've brought so much goodness, fun and laughter along with you. It goes so much deeper than that though. You've helped me become the best version of me, and that's something I'll never be able to repay. There are so many little things you've done that I just can't go any longer without putting it down in writing. This is an ode to you, the man that took his rough hands and helped mold me into the best version of me.

Thank you for seeing past my façade. I know I was in a rough spot before we started dating. I had come out of a terrible relationship, and I never thought I would be happy again. I put up a wicked wall. I put up walls that were covered in dark lipstick and an attitude that I didn't need a single person other than myself. You saw right through that. You saw someone that was hurting, and desperately needed someone but didn't want to get hurt again. It took you months, but eventually brick by brick, the wall came down.

Thank you for your patience. I'm not an easy person to love sometimes, I can admit that. I'm anxious, and I'm stubborn when I have a point to prove. I can have days that I think the world is ending because work just isn't going right. There are other days that I feel like I'm invincible and nothing can touch me. Thank you for going through all of these ups and downs with me. You don't just go through them with me, but you talk me through it, or as you call it, "talking me off the ledge". It's a weekly occurrence. I can't believe I get to marry someone that not only understands my moods and my anxiousness but who wouldn't want me any other way.

Thank you for bringing out the best version of me. When we met, I was going through a rough spot. I had stopped really caring about doing my makeup or feeling pretty. I know a lot of girls would say that it shouldn't matter, but for me, it was something I so enjoyed. When we met, I was working a really male oriented job. I felt the need to fit that mold and be a tomboy in order to be respected and taken seriously at work. You gave (and still give me) the outlet to be my feminine self whenever I want to be. You don't make me feel guilty for taking forever to do my makeup, and you gladly come into Sephora with me. Even though you're probably annoyed with me by the time we leave because I've smeared half a dozen different shadows on your arm and two lip pigments, you swear to me that you wouldn't have it any other way or with anyone else.

Thank you for opening my eyes to new things. Before I met you, I had never been to a race track, never mind ridden in a race car. The day after you asked me to be your girlfriend, you took me to your first race of the season. I was so naïve to what I should dress like. I wore some cutesy outfit, not knowing that I would be able to get my hands dirty and use some of the skills I had learned elsewhere. I had such an amazing time that day, I kept taking days off so that I could go to races with you. I wouldn't trade that for the world, and I love being 'one of the drivers' girls'. The day you put my name on your car, my heart fluttered the entire day. You've made me feel so special, even in the smallest of ways.

Thank you for going above and beyond for me. You've always gone above and beyond for me. Every month on the seventh without fail, you've shown up at my door with white flowers. There isn't a day that goes by that you don't do something for me, even if it's as simple as wiping down my car or making sure I've had something to eat before class at night. The way you proposed just takes the cake. At 1,882 feet, you asked me to be your wife. You drove all the way up to Rangeley, Maine on a Friday night to get down on one knee. You spent countless hours at the jeweler making sure that you had gotten the ring of my dreams. You wrote me a whole speech, that you immediately forgot when you got down on one knee. You even went as far as to have a bottle of champagne and pink roses waiting in the car after. Above and beyond doesn't even begin to cover it most days.

Thank you, my love. Thank you for all that you do for me, and for us. All of the time you put in and the effort you've put into helping me become the very best version of me, even if it meant sacrificing sleep sometimes. You have truly outdone yourself in every way, and I couldn't ask for a better person to call my future husband.

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I Don’t Need A Fancy Wedding That Costs $50,000, All I Need Is A Man In Front Of Me That Loves Me

A wedding is party where people share the joy of you and your partner, so tell me why I need to spend all my life's saving on one day?


With shows like "Four Weddings" and "Say Yes To The Dress," it can be hard to imagine what your wedding will actually be in the future. Not everyone can afford to rent a multi-million dollar mansion or buy a $15,000 wedding dress.

When I was younger, I envisioned my wedding to be like those I saw on television, in a sense, my own fairytale. Flowers, fairy lights, a beautiful wedding dress…and while that can still be a possibility in the future, I do not need to spend $50,000 on a wedding. Especially being in college now, I realize how expensive things are and realize that I would rather spend my money on other things.

People may disagree, but I believe that a wedding is simply a party, sharing your joy and happiness with people that you know and love. And while the concept of a wedding is a couple becoming married, I feel as though on the day of your wedding, you will not feel completely different. It could be different if you start to now live with your spouse, or decide to save yourselves for each other until your wedding night. But, in this generation, you see a couple moving in together before they are even engaged!

And while years ago I would have found this strange, I now see that this makes complete sense! How do you know you are okay living with your spouse if you have never lived with them before? Will they place the toilet paper over versus under? Will they wash their dishes and clean up after themselves?

Both you and your significant other have a bond that you will keep for the rest of your lives. In reality, you could be basically "married" for years, the wedding simply being a party for others to celebrate your joy.

It's all about us, our love. While a fairytale wedding can be beautiful, it is just a waste of money. All the gifts that you receive from your friends and family are most likely compensating for the extreme amount of money you spent on the wedding.

And don't get me wrong, I would want my family and close friends at my wedding, but the most important person in attendance is my fiancé. A wedding is one day out of your whole life. Fewer people equals less stress. And let's be honest, have you ever seen a bride that was not stressed or all in shambles?

So no, I do not need a fancy wedding that costs $50,000, all I need is a man in front of me that loves me.

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