As someone who has always loved watching "Bridezillas," the fact that Netflix now has their own, British version, called "Diva Brides" gives me more pleasure than it probably should. The older I get, the closer I pay attention to bridal shows, hoping to learn some valuable lessons about planning for weddings, picking out the perfect dress, and treating my bridesmaids and family who help with the wedding like human beings.
If I EVER act like a bridezilla, you have permission to slap me. Anyone who catches me, seriously, just slap me back into my senses.
The people in your bridal party are some of your closest family and friends, and they do not deserve to be treated like dispensable slaves to a bride who only cares about herself because it's her day. Yes, it is your day... congrats! Is it worth losing your friends and family over everything being absolutely perfect? Weddings never go one hundred percent as planned, so trying to force the people around you to make sure your day is perfect is inconceivable.
I can be a bit of a perfectionist, I will admit it, but I would never treat my friends the way I've seen some brides treat theirs. Treat everyone with respect and they may actually enjoy helping you with your wedding, Susan! My friends will likely help me with wedding inspiration and will be there along with my closest family as I pick out my mermaid style dress. Friends keep you on-budget (most of the time anyway) with everything and that's the kind of support a bride needs by her side. I treasure each and every one of my friends and can't imagine starting my new life without them to support me.
Also, my future husband would probably divorce me if he saw me treat my best friends and family like shit. Any sensible man wouldn't stand to watch that type of behavior. If you can treat your closest peeps like they don't matter to you, imagine how your husband might worry that you could easily treat him like that. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated! You're not the Queen, you're just a regular person acting extra and pushing away everyone good in your life.
I plan on making sure that those involved with helping me plan my wedding are treated as they always are, with love and respect. They don't have to take time out of their lives to help me plan, but they still will because that's what friends do. If I ever act an outlandish, extra fool towards one of my friends, I expect them to call me out right then and there.
If you want the wedding of your dreams, you have to have your friends and family there, or else it's going to be the worst day of your life, instead of the best day.