Discover Yourself Even Through The Circumstances In Your Life

Life Is About Discovering Yourself, And The Discovery Is Within You

One part of this journey is getting to know yourself


"Dearly Beloved. We gather here to get through this thing called life." When Prince opened his song, "Let's Go Crazy" with this quote, it got a lot of people's attention. When we go through this thing called life, what do you want out of it? Money. Success. Fame. That's all temporary. But as long as you know who you are, that's permanent. It carries you through what your capable of, and how you approach the problem. It can be anything. Yet, it is your job to discover it. Do it through the impossible.

A lot of people say they want to travel to discover their selves. I find it fascinating, and some might find it crazy. My goal is to travel to New York, to see my adaptability to city life. Now, when I shared this, guess what everyone's reaction was? "You can't travel there by yourself!" Now I happen to agree with it, however, I realized when I say a goal that I want to reach, I do to the best of my ability to make it happen. Some people do travel to discover the unknown. I commend those people for doing so! Africa, China, Bora Bora. These are places that I would love to go! Some people do go to these places and have shared amazing experiences. Traveling is a true experience to discover your adventurous self.

Another way of discovering your strengths and weaknesses is reading. I love to read. It's the foundation of my love for writing. I remember I read "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man," by Steve Harvey. It was truly an eye-opener for my worth. When you are in the dating process I highly recommend to read it! It's a guide to see a man's perspective of things, and why they do it. And as women, we can be aware of it. Another book I read, which is the most important book to this day, is the Bible. From the story of Esther to giving me encouragement throughout the day, it has truly demonstrated the miraculous works of God. Now everyone thinks its a book that has sex, violence, and sacrifice. Yet people don't see beyond the reasons. God truly gave us one life to love, and with the Bible, it has shown me to live life to the fullest, yet remember who you are in Christ.

Shocking I know. You can discover yourself through your workflow. I work at my school, and I realized that I am a developer. A developer means that they work the situation out first before proceeding it permanently. When I found out, it made sense. I would list the different options of a project, ask questions, then proceed to complete it. Ask yourself this question when it comes to your workplace. What am I getting out of this job? If it's only a paycheck, it's not the right job for you (unless it's a small job such as retail). If you are truly getting morals and values out of it, it's worth getting up and working hard and smart.

I truly thank God for putting me on this Earth, to realize my full potential. It may not be easy, but it's truly worth fighting for. In any setback, God always gave me a comeback. Which means that I have a reason to get up every morning to dress up, show up, and never giving up.

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20 Rules Of A Southern Belle

It is more than just biscuits and grits.

These unwritten rules separate the people that move to the South and were born and raised in the South. If you were born and raised in a small southern town, you either are a southern belle or hope you get to marry one. Their southern charm is hard to dislike and impossible to be taught.

1. Adults are to be answered with "Yes ma’am" and "Yes sir."

Whether it’s your parents, grandparents, or the person that checks you out at the grocery store, always say yes ma’am.

2. Always write a thank you note.

For any and everything. No gesture is too small.

3. Expect a gentleman to hold the door open and pull out your chair.

Chivalry is not dead; you just need to find the right guy.

4. All tea is sweet.

Below the Mason-Dixon Line, tea is made no other way.

5. Don’t be afraid to cook with butter.

I’ve never met a good cook that didn’t giggle a little.

6. “Coke” refers to all sodas.

Here in the south, this means all types of sodas.

7. Pearls go with anything — literally anything

And every southern belle is bound to have at least one good set.

8. "If it’s not moving, monogram it."

9. Pastels are always in fashion.

And they look good on almost everyone.

10. And so is Lilly Pulitzer.

11. Curls, curls and more curls.

The bigger the hair, the closer to Jesus.

12. If you are wearing sandals, your toenails should be done.

13. Never ever ever wear white shoes, pants, dresses, or purses after Labor Day or before Easter.

Brides are the only exception. Yes we actually do follow this rule.

14. Never leave the house without lipstick.

A little mascara and lipstick can work miracles.

15. Always wear white when you walk down the aisle.

Weddings are taken very seriously here in the South, and they should be nothing but traditional.

16. Southern weddings should always be big.

The more bridesmaids the better.

17. Saturdays in the fall are reserved for college football.

Whether you spend it tailgating in that college town or watching the big game from your living room. You can guarantee that all southerner’s eyes will be glued to the game.

18. Sunday is for Jesus and resting.

19. Learn how to take compliments curiously.

20. Have class, always.

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It's 2019, And I Can Confirm One Size Does Not Fit All, At All

I'll take feeling good over meeting your standards. Thank you.


We live in a society where being yourself and expressing who you truly are is something that is becoming more and more accepted and is actually trendy. Left and right, people are coming forward and declaring who they are and want to be in life and there is a crowd of people there to cheer them on.

There is also always that small percent sitting in the corner, ready to throw derogatory comments and taint the self-love, respect, and acceptance that's flowing.

Every single time this happens, the internet breaks and feuds form in the comment sections. How many times does this fight have to be had before people just mind their own business? How someone looks is frankly none of your concern. Whether you think the person is too fat, too skinny, too girly, too rough, too whatever, it's none of your business.

I'm a firm believer that one should focus on their own life instead of living to tear others down. You should be more concerned with feeling good in your own body than wasting your energy trying to make people ashamed of theirs. It's not your place to comment on someone's appearance.

We should work on building up confidence and feeling good in our skin. Exercising, working on your mental health, and surrounding yourself with good energy will improve your life exponentially. DO NOT do this to achieve an aesthetic or try to look like an Instagram model. Only do it to feel good about yourself internally. What you look like on the outside should only matter to you.

I would be lying if I said I didn't fall victim to countless beautiful women who post their swimsuit photos looking like they stepped out of Vogue magazine. I would be lying if I said I didn't struggle with my own body image and have to remind myself daily that it's okay to not fit their mold. I won't lie to you. We live in a world that feels the need to comment on every inch of our skin rather than focus on more important issues. Shut off the noise and ignore the words that are given in hate. You have better things to do than focus on their negativity.

Make your own mold.

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