While flipping through TV channels one lazy morning during winter break, I happened upon a segment of the Today Show about how to remain joyful once Christmas and New Year’s Eve celebrations are over. The special guest explained that, although the two words are commonly used interchangeably, there is a definite difference between the emotions of happiness and joy.
Many people would say that their lifetime goal is to achieve happiness, but happiness is fleeting. Happiness is based on “happenings.” We can experience happiness for just ten seconds when we eat our favorite meal or for ten days while we’re on vacation. Happiness can be compared to bubbles. Bubbles are absolutely delightful in the moment, but eventually, they disappear. It’s comforting to know that even when the happiness bubbles pop, we can still have a foundation of joyfulness to brighten our days.
While happiness is like bubbles, joy is like air; it’s ever-present. Joy is within the essence of our being, the very fiber of our soul. Since our soul is immortal, we will never lose the ability to experience joy. Joy is pure contentment that stems from internal circumstances like faith and hope. What’s beautiful about joy is that it can still exist in the midst of other emotions. It’s possible to feel angry or disappointed but still possess joy. Whenever we experience pain, stress, or sadness we can take comfort in the pure joy of just being alive. Joy is based on inward factors, while happiness is based on outward experiences. Joy is expressed through inner peace and contentment, and happiness is expressed by outward elation, such as cheerfulness and laughter.
Sometimes we may have to search for joy, but it can be easier to find it if we make an effort. At the start of the new year I began each morning by listing three things that I am thankful for on that day and one happy moment that I have had in the last twenty-four hours. It’s a simple practice, but it’s made a difference in my mindset by helping me to start my day focusing on the blessings in my life, rather than all of the schoolwork and other responsibilities that I have.
Motivational speaker Danielle Laporte says that “Happiness is love when it comes. Joy is love that lasts no matter what.” In this fresh new year, let’s cherish the happy moments and focus on the ever-present joy in the midst of heartache or struggle.
