There's A Difference Between Being Blunt And Being Rude

There's A Difference Between Being Blunt And Being Rude

Stop hiding your poor manners behind a word.
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If there’s one thing that makes my blood boil, it’s constant, unapologetic bitchiness.

It’s people who say mean or hurtful things and don’t care how it affects other people. They don’t care if other people take offense to what they say; they just want to be on top and make their power known.

What’s even more obnoxious than this kind of person is one who makes excuses for their behavior to establish more dominance. The most common one: “I’m just blunt.”

“Blunt” is a word people most commonly use to describe themselves if they speak their mind without hesitation. It’s how people explain their straightforwardness. They usually take great pride in this trait. What many of these people don’t realize – or even choose not to accept – is that it’s not an acceptable excuse for rudeness.

There is a huge difference between being blunt and mean. Bluntness is not being afraid to be straightforward about something, while still being considerate of the other person’s feelings. It’s not beating around the bush with what you want to say.

Being blunt does not mean being overtly inconsiderate. If you say something without considering how it will affect another person – or say it and not care – then you’re not being blunt; you're just mean. Even if it’s not sugarcoated, “bluntness” is not the way to excuse disrespect.

No matter who you talk to, it’s important to be respectful. This trait is pushed from a young age, but somewhere along the way, people seem to forget what it actually means. They believe they can stop being respectful simply because they’re around people they know. Some will stop being respectful because they don’t like a person or the way they’re being treated.

This lack of respect means not considering how one’s actions or words affect another person. It means using attitude and statements that can be seen as hurtful or degrading, and doing things that establish dominance over another person. People are under the impression that this behavior is perfectly acceptable when in all honesty it’s one of the worst behaviors a person can have.

Nobody should be allowed to manipulate the meaning of a word because they then exempt themselves from the consequences of having nasty manners. One cannot play around and use different words to label themselves simply because they want to get away with a false image. It’s not only misleading, but means they’re being held unaccountable for their actions.

Being blunt is usually a mixture of confidence and consideration. It’s being unafraid to say something while still being courteous of how the other person will feel.

Being rude but hiding it behind the word blunt is weak. It’s not owning up to the fact that what’s being said is harsh and not being a decent enough person to respect other people. Rude people are awful, but those who try to get away with it-- and demand respect-- are even worse.

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I am Jewish. It is something I have never been afraid of and something I value as much in life as I do with my family and friends. Throughout my life, though I have witnessed hate of the Jewish people and jokes made about Jewish people.

In high school, I had to listen to jokes about Jews and the gas chambers and was asked because I was Jewish if I could do someone else's math homework.

To say I had to deal with anti-Semitism in the South does not come close to describing what I had to go through. As time went by the jokes stopped and I thought I would not have to deal with instances of prejudice or bigotry but I was wrong. Growing up as one of the only Jewish people in my friend group and in high school it made me consider myself strong and ready for college but in my freshman year I had to go through other jokes about my religion and even in sophomore year had to witness someone I thought was my friend make a joke about my religion because "he thought it was funny."

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This is my home state and these students are not only disrespecting the Jewish and Black people in the state of Alabama but throughout the US and possibly even in the world. I am hurt by this instance but I am not ready to forgive these students just yet.

After the video was leaked online some of the students sent messages to the person who uploaded the video apologizing. That I took as a mature gesture until I read the apology from the girl in the video. The apology asked if the user could remove the video because it would ruin her life and reputation. It was later found out that the female student is the daughter of the manager of the Toyota dealership in Hoover after the manager posted an apology.

Any remorse I had going for these students was now gone.

They were not sorry. They were sorry that they got caught and were facing consequences. They gave the apology that your parents made you say when you did not want to apologize. They did not care about who they had harmed or what they had said, they cared because they had to face consequences and they know that this mistake would follow them for the rest of their life.

I'm at a loss for words.

I don't know how to feel. I know someone will tell me I am overreacting but how am I supposed to approach this? What they said was wrong and there is no proper way to express frustration for it. I know people get offended by certain things but some things are not meant to be a joke. So I hope what you said was worth it and was fun to say because it will follow you for the rest of your life. Some lessons are best-learned overtime and it looks like you will have a chance to reflect on these events.

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