The Difference Between Beating And Spanking Your Kids

The Difference Between Beating And Spanking Your Kids

I was spanked as a kid, and NO I didn't grow up to have PTSD.

First off, I was spanked as a kid, and NO I didn't grow up to have PTSD or be aggressive or mean or emotionally unstable, or anything else y'all think happens when a kid is spanked or popped.

There is a difference between blatantly beating your child and giving them a spanking for misbehaving. I heard on the radio today that "studies have shown kids who were spanked have lower IQ's." My question is WHERE? SHOW ME THE DATA, BECAUSE I KNOW I TURNED OUT JUST FINE. Along with all my other friends that got popped as kids and are very successful adults now. If you don't know the difference between spanking and beating your kids, I encourage you to google it. In fact, I did and here is what I came up with.

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, spanking is striking especially on the buttocks with the open hand. Also according to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, beating is an act of striking with repeated blows so as to injure or damage; also: the injury or damage thus inflicted.

Now in case you still don't know the difference, spanking has been used since the beginning of time. My mother, grandmother and even great-grandmother have all been spanked and guess what; THEY TURNED OUT FINE. Spanking is a type of reprimand when your kids are bad, misbehaving, or not listening to their elder. Spanking your kids doesn't make your love for them any less, it doesn't make you a bad parent, and it certainly doesn't make you a child abuser.

Yes, you may leave a red mark on their bottom, or they may get a welt from your hand, but they will learn not to do that behavior again. I used to get so annoyed when my mother would say "this is going to hurt me a lot more than it hurts you." I would think, "yeah okay if that were the truth then you wouldn't do it." But hear me out, I do not have kids, BUT now that I'm older I realize that it really probably did hurt her more. Because who wants to see their kid cry? Yea, I cried for a little while, and more than likely had red marks on my bottom from being popped, but I turned out not to be a self-righteous, egotistical, "I'm better than everyone" attitude, spoiled little shit-head.

Beating your child, on the other hand, is illegal. The difference is that your kid has done nothing wrong, but you decided to hit them anyways with the intent to cause harm. You were having a bad day, so you took it out on your kids by leaving bruises on their skin. You didn't like the way they cleaned the house, or they put the dishes away in the wrong order, so you made them bleed.

You got mad and took your hand or any foreign object and beat your kid with it for NO reason. That is the difference. This is the kind of abuse that causes kids to have PTSD. This is the kind of abuse that causes kids to become emotionally unstable adults. This is the kind of abuse that turns a nice, quiet kid into a bully at school because they are just acting on what they see at home.


Some of y'all need to go work with DSS for a few hours and learn what real abuse looks like so you will stop making up stupid reasons for a little spanking to be called abuse. And your kids need to be spanked more often because they act like fools in public.

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Sweating: the basics

Sweating is one of the most common and prevalent problem that people face. There are many industries thriving on the issue of sweating.They sell deodorants, perfumes and antiperspirant to help you get rid of sweating altogether in case of antiperspirants and help you tackle your body odour with perfumes.

Two of our glands are responsible for all the sweating that we do. One gland is known as Eccrine gland and the other is Apocrine glands. The Eccrine gland is found all over our body. Whenever we do any exercise or any other form of physical activity, the brain releases a chemical known as acetylcholine. This chemical triggers our spinal cord to release the salt and water from our blood to the surface of our skin so that when the water evaporates our skin can be cooled down, and the body temperature is lowered altogether.

Our hair follicles have these Apocrine glands. These glands secrete oily liquid whenever we find ourselves in some form of stress or intensive physical activity. The body odour that we all find so annoying is due to the bacteria that is present on our skin. It combines with the oily sweat that is secreted and creates the odour. We lose around 3 litres of water in an hour on a hot day. Genetics and the climate in which live also have a role to play in our sweating.

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There are a lot of remedies that can be employed to reduce sweating, some of them are clinical and some of them are cosmetic. But they visibly help in reducing sweating and also help in minimizing the body odour . The cosmetic methods are:

Using an antiperspirant

There are a lot of different antiperspirant deodorants that can be used to get rid of sweating and reduce the bad smell of sweating. Majority of the antiperspirant just provide fragrance, they fail to sustain the fragrant state once the sweating starts. Using proper antiperspirant that has aluminium compound between the range of 10%-20% can help. The reason Old spice has maintained a stable position in the market of sweat controller is because they have Aluminum zirconium trichlorohydrex gly with 18% concentration. This compounds stops sweating and keeps your armpits fresh for a long time. Old Spice delivers what they promise. The negative claims that the aluminum compound causes harm has never been established to date. Hence, it is the best option when you are looking for antiperspirant deodorant.

Apply Antiperspirant at the right time

This might come as a surprise, but when you are applying antiperspirant deodorant to stay fresh all day, you need to apply it at night instead of the morning. The aluminum compound requires time to create a block for the sweat glands. You need to ensure that your armpits are free of any form residue from the sweat and deodorant that you had applied the day before. Applying the deodorant at night will help in reducing the sweat by 65%!

Eat strategically!

You need to cut down on oily foods to prevent excessive sweating.

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