As a child, we grow up with what I call the "Princess Syndrome." As young girls, our heads are ingrained with thoughts of a Prince Charming, being saved, swept off our feet and living happily every after. With this constant notion being reiterated from childhood to adulthood, it becomes a part of us. I know as young girls, we are hopeless romantics, always hoping a man would come and do for us, save us, and provide for us. But as I grew older that perspective started to change, I started to realize that the stories were all wrong.
1. As a woman, you do not need a man.
There is nothing you cannot do that a man is only capable of doing. Not only are you capable, but you are made to do whatever to set your heart to do. There isn't a soul on this planet who should or can tell you otherwise.
2. Don't go searching for anyone to complete you or make you feel like you are enough.
You must first be satisfied and comfortable with yourself. As a woman, you will attract as you continue to excel because your work, efforts, and abilities will NOT go unnoticed.
3. You are not dependent.
You must be self-sufficient within and outside of a relationship. If you are not able to stand on your own two feet, then you will never be able to provide for yourself. Gain independence, and your own firm footing, for at any moment someone can and may leave you and when they do, you must know that you are fine.
4. The point of life is not to find your soulmate.
You have a divine plan that is set for you and that plan was not made with extras. The scene is set for you and you are the main character. No matter who walks in or out of your life, follow your dreams, be selfish and make plans for yourself.
5. Find your own happiness.
Your happiness should not come from another individual. You must find your own joy or you will never be able to fully appreciate the love of another individual. Find yourself, find your passions, find what you love and life, and the rest will fall into place.
A woman does not need a man in her life and that message is one that should be taught to young women everywhere. Demi Lovato said it best, " the best thing a woman can learn is to never need a man."
