Something has really been sitting heavy on my mind lately. I don't want this to exclude boys either, due to me having a little brother that I would probably commit murder over if someone were to hurt him, I want to say firstly, I know girls suck. I swear to every male on this earth, I know girls are the meanest creatures that God has given the universe. But, some men are like cats. (Not to insult cats) You show them affection, and they run away. Ignore them, and they won't leave you alone.
Now, before I lose all of the guys, this is not my point. Actually, lately, I've been living in harmony with a guy for almost two months now. He seems to be able to speak "woman". He puts me first, no matter what the situation may be. He spoils me, he cares for me, and he makes me laugh. I really could not have asked for a better boyfriend. I have honestly never been treated this well before. Throughout my dating history, it's been a normal thing to chase boys. I've let them not text me for five days. I've let them put me second. I even had a habit of checking the Facebook chat to see how long they had been online and not texted me. Yeah... things have gotten that bad. That all changed when I learned how to let someone love me. I learned that someone WANTS to put me first. Someone actually stalks my social media accounts now.
The last week has been rough for one of my best friends and I have been outraged. I've seen a boy drag her through the dirt. It makes me think about how she watched me struggle through a relationship for almost a year. Even though, I loved this boy, it was wrong. I had to learn how to let go and put myself first. So, I have a message for every person reading my words....
You should not have to wonder if someone cares about you. You deserve someone who treats you like you're the sun! I know you're probably thinking she's just lucky or she got one of the few good guys. That's not true. There is a person out there that wants to put you first. There really is good people out there, that don't intend to screw you over. I'm thankful for every "bad" relationship I've had. They all taught me what I wanted from someone. But I have certainly learned that you aren't going to marry a man that doesn't make time for you and makes sure you feel cared for. Love isn't as hard as we make it out to be. If you have to chase someone, they probably aren't worth it. Pick the guy that makes sure you get home safely, not the guy that snapchats you when he's drunk. That guy is not the man of your dreams, even if he's hott and says you look nice. I don't care if he smells good and has sparkly blue eyes, don't give him anymore of your time. You deserve more. You deserve someone who buys you dinner, kisses your forehead, and is good to your family. He/she is out there. Keep waiting. Put yourself first and surround yourself with good people. You deserve more.
