You find yourself making excuses, one after another comforting your heart as to why he said what he said. You tell yourself, “He didn't mean it,” or, “It was the alcohol,” or, “He is under a lot of stress right now, and thats why he said that.” No. Love shouldn't hurt more than it comforts.

You, yes you, did everything possible for him, I’m sure. You bent over backwards to make sure he was happy while you found yourself losing your happiness. Eyes glued to your phone 24/7, you would wait for him to want you. He might want you tonight, but you were never sure if he would still want you tomorrow. Somehow you still found yourself desiring his attention. He had a funny way of making you find some sort of comfort in the instability and chaos of a relationship he created; it seemed like it was a war zone.

Your friends absolutely hated him and so did your family, but, as stated above, you would make excuses as to why he bailed on your family plans or whatever he did. He played a game you felt like you were never going to be able to win; it's like he threw away the rulebook. When it ended, you looked around after all the smoke had died down only to realize that you lost yourself while trying to find reasons to make him want to stay. He took a piece of you away, maybe your confidence or maybe your trust, but either way, he stole it and ran so far away with it.

But sometimes in the hardest battles you find yourself. The toughest heartbreak might not be the worst thing ever because maybe it will teach you that love isn't supposed to hurt. He took advantage of you and your kind heart, and for that, I am so sorry. He couldn't handle the love you wanted to give him, and he definitely didn't deserve it.

You deserve a love that is movie-worthy and makes you never want to fall asleep because your reality is better than anything you could ever dream of. It takes time, as does everything, but one day you will see that everything happens for a reason, and God will intervene when He sees you're going down the wrong path. A good friend told me, while telling me how her ex-boyfriend hurt her so badly, that it was God’s way of telling her she needed to be stronger.

So maybe you won’t find comfort in this article, but I hope it'll touch someone out there so they can know that you're so much more than this heartbreak, and things get easier. If you're reading this and the guy you're with acts like the boy described above, trust your gut and leave. You deserve a boy who will do anything possible to be with you.