This Is What Depression Is Like When You Have 'Nothing To Be Sad About'

This Is What Depression Is Like When You Have 'Nothing To Be Sad About'

I know I have all of these great things, but I can't get my spirits up enough to be happy about it


Being depressed has nothing to do with material possessions.

You can have the fancy car, all the money, and friends, and still feel depressed. You can have a million great things on your agenda and still feel that pit of sadness in your stomach at the end of the day. Or you can lay in bed with nothing to do all day and feel depressed.

You lose that motivation for something new a few days after, or you cancel plans that you were really excited about because you don't have that same excitement anymore.

I've already been told by someone that I have "nothing to be sad about" because I have things together. And they're right, I do have it somewhat together right now. I found a place to live with great roommates, I got a car, my dog is healthy, and I have an amazing boy by my side.

I've found in these past couple weeks that I'm still "sad."

I still can't seem to get myself up in the morning. I can't clean like I use to. I can't eat as I should. I don't have the motivation to get school work done or even get the positivity to go to work and see the dogs that I love very much.

Being told that I have everything makes me feel like nothing. I feel like a total failure when I can't even be happy about the things I have. I once had nothing, and I feel just as sad now as I did then.

I still get up in the morning's even if I don't want to, and I put that stupid smile on my face because that's what's expected of me. I hate it.

This article isn't meant to be some sort of sob story about how I have great things going in my life and that I'm never satisfied. I wouldn't change anything about what I have except my mental state through all of this.

I'm never good at expressing how I feel so this is my poor definition.

My happiness has always been short-lived my whole life. I was once told that I was "born into depression." The degradation that I went through as a child has torn me into a state where nothing can be enough for me. I can have a nice car, the great friends, roommates, and animals, but I'll never find joy. However, this doesn't mean that I don't love these things and appreciate all I have. It just means that I can't have that permanent happiness.

Having short term happiness means that I have motivation for 3 days, I'm excited for 3 days, but then I fall out of it.

I can't keep myself up and I won't let anyone in enough to help me or even attempt. I feel completely alone even though I know I'm not. I know I have all of these great things, but I can't get my spirits up enough to be happy about it. Something in me just wants to stay sad and that's what it feels like.

Those of us who have depression with nothing that leads to depression, it happens and we're doing our best so bear with us.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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How To Avoid Getting Sick Your  Freshman Year

It's going to take a little more than an apple a day.


College is the prime time and place to catch a cold... or worse. Although, somehow I managed to crack the code to health and not get sick my whole first year of college. This is surprising considering I was living in the close (and very unsanitary) quarters of a dorm room.

1. Keep your diet somewhat healthy

I know how hard it is to eat healthy in college, especially on a low budget. But with the dining hall foods, you can at least include some vegetables and fruits into your everyday consumption. The vitamins in these foods will help keep your immune system up and it will be worth the effort.

2. Try to exercise a few times per week

Even if you're just getting out of the dorm for a thirty minute walk, it will benefit your body. If you decide to up your routine from that, even better! The more endorphins, the more you will feel better inside and out.

3. Cut back on the drinking if you feel a cold coming on

Surprisingly, many college students don't seem to know that alcohol lowers your immune system. Of course, for some people theres no way of avoiding drinking. But if you can at least give your body rest days, it will be extremely beneficial.

4. Invest in a dehumidifier for your dorm room

I believe this was a very big player in helping me not get sick. The dehumidifier helps reduce dust and other particles in the air. This will help not agitate your allergies and you will feel more clear headed.

5. Try not to share personal products

Sharing things like towels, makeup, unwashed cups, etc. can all be causes of a sickness being passed around you and your friends. Of course sharing is caring, just make sure it's sanitary.

6. Be conscientious of who you kiss!

Make sure that your girlfriend, boyfriend, or "its complicated" person is not sick before you're getting cozy with them.

7. Drink lots of green tea!

Personally, I credit green tea and its anti-oxidants for keeping the flu away and even getting rid of bugs that might be forming in your system. So if you feel like you might be developing a cold, chug that tea!

I know how annoying these tips may be. But I promise, if you implement at least a few it could reduce your chances of feeling horrible during midterms in the winter, and sneezing all over your finals in the fall.

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