There's A New Definition To Dating
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There's A New Definition To Dating

And, I don't like it.

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Call me an old soul or call me what you will, but I am absolutely fed up with today's "dating" culture. It's not anything like I have ever though dating should be. In fact, it's not dating in the least. People are becoming fined tuned to a whole new "dating" culture. It seems to be merely a hook-up culture. Whether people claim they don't have the time to commit to an actual relationship or whether they admit they just don't want one, the scene seems to be the same through and through.

In today's world, we can't seem to break from what's becoming the fast-paced norm. Everything has to be "fast"-- i.e. food, driving routes, and even "relationships." I've seen friends or even just people around me jump from relationship to relationship just because they "can't" be single. I've seen others not even go through the relationships-- allowing themselves to be used while using others. They simply live out the hookup culture without even caring.

My opinion or observation may not be the popular one, but it's simply what I see and what I know. I watch my friends and people I don't know put themselves through this "dating" cycle while being completely oblivious to the consequences. They think they can live through such a life without harming themselves or others, but that's simply not possible. They're objecting themselves and others to a world of hurt they're not ready for.

If you're one of the people I'm speaking of or even think you are, I'm sorry that I'm not sorry. You're moving from person to person, relationship to relationship, and hookup to hookup without taking in the possible outcomes of what you're not only doing to yourself but to others. If you look at this culture from a different perspective, you'll see that it's completely insane.

Going through such a cycle prevents you from getting from dating what you actually should be getting--marriage. If that's not your ultimate goal, then may I ask, "Why are you dating?" If you're living the hookup culture side of this new definition of "dating," what's your purpose? What do you gain from putting yourself through a such a lifestyle?

I say all this to simply say what I said before: I'm fed up! There hardly seems to be anyone anymore that doesn't seem to think this sort of lifestyle is okay. I dream of what dating was. I dream of dating to meet the one I want to marry-- the one I'm supposed to marry. I dream of a dating culture that used to be-- one that was pure in pursuit and meaning.

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