It’s practically impossible to not compare yourself to friends, celebrities, social media stars, etc. Beautiful and interesting people are everywhere. When someone breaks your heart, or treats you less than acceptable, it’s easy to believe that it has something to do with you and your value. Nothing is farther from the truth.
Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. YOU DEFINE IT. You are in charge of being the person you want to be, and being proud of the person you are right now as you grow. 100% you.
What you think about is what you attract, and your perspective becomes your reality. That is such a powerful thing to waste or let others define for you. Don’t allow that.
You don’t have to be beautiful like someone else, you are so beautiful being you. And you are so much MORE than beautiful. Are you funny? Do you always try really hard to make people feel special? Do you have dope taste in music? Recognize your awesomeness, and own that shit. That’s what makes you, and there is literally NO ONE else exactly like you. Be so fucking proud of that.
Recognize your flaws too, they’re the first things your enemy wants to attack you with. Own those too. You’re fucking human. You are a beautiful, imperfect, amazing, one-of-a-kind individual, and don’t hate yourself for that because it is SUCH a gift in a world where everyone is trying to be like someone else. Don’t let social media, your peers, or your enemies define you. Confidence is not “they will like me”, it’s “I’ll be fine if they don’t.”
I know it’s much easier said than done, but make the effort to be in charge of defining yourself, to aspire to grow physically and mentally every day, and to love yourself unconditionally despite your flaws. Those are yours to deal with and understand, you don’t owe anything to anyone else. Define your value, define what you deserve, and don't accept anything less than that.
