You Decide What It Means To Be A Man Or Woman, Not Society

You Decide What It Means To Be A Man Or Woman, Not Society

Two different genders, two different expectations.

According to a study conducted by the California Technical Institute, 25.9 percent of girls are matched with prospective adopting families while 34.4 percent of boys are matched with theirs. This issue demonstrates that gender profiling is a growing issue in our society concerning the increased preference of one gender over the other, based on their so-called superior masculine or feminine traits. Both women and men have faced the discriminating impacts of gender inequality within their daily lives, but nothing substantial has been done about it.

A common misconception is that males are better workers and more intellectual as compared to their female counterparts, when in reality, neither gender surpasses the other gender in their abilities. If it is possible to have women occupy professions, such as pilots, lawyers, and business CEOs, then it is safe to say that with ambition and hard work, women can be seen as strong candidates when competing for occupations against other males. Now in the workplace, bridging the wage gap has long been a goal for many feminists, but this issue still remains deeply rooted within various workplaces. Women are paid about 20 percent less than men for doing the exact same job, not to mention the burden of their moral obligation to do housework and raise children.

On the other hand, males also face inequity in regards to social behavior. Young girls are seen as easily submissive while boys are known for engaging in significantly rebellious behavior, then afterwards being blamed for their impulsiveness. A study conducted by the University of California tested whether a group of boys or girls would object to being made to drink lemonade with salt. The girls, in an effort to spare feelings, attempted to swallow the entire drink, but the boys were more assertive and voiced that the lemonade needed sugar. When young, boys are encouraged to speak out frequently and demonstrate their strength to portray dominance, while girls are strictly disciplined to avoid such open behavior. Therefore, as they grow older, men are seen as most likely to commit a crime as compared to women, and they often fall under the scrutiny of police officers and other authorities far more frequently. The University of Minnesota’s census states that approximately 80 percent of arrests for violent crime are of men.

Whether it’s in social situations or educational endeavors, women and men both have their advantages and disadvantages within societal norms, and that is not ethical. Every person should be free to be themselves, and a person's gender should not rule their decisions. Having an individual voice and expressing opinions should not be limited to only one gender. Individuality should not be repressed according to society’s norms; after all, each person has their own unique skills that they use to contribute to society in ways that others cannot. Those who see that our society is still somewhat unequal should be applauded.

There are already many barriers within our population, such as religion, age, sexuality and more. By embracing the distinctive traits that come with each gender and working together, one more barrier can be broken.

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.

It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

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A Florida House Committee Is Undermining Your Vote On Amendment 4

Before felons can regain their right to vote, they must pay court fines, fees, and take care of any other "financial obligations." Essentially, this is a poll tax.


Amendment 4, also known as the Voting Rights Restoration for Felons Initiative, was added to the Constitution of Florida after being passed this last midterm election on November 6, 2018.

Amendment 4 restored the voting rights of Floridians with prior felony convictions after all terms of their sentence have been met, including parole and probation. This amendment only applies to felons who have not been convicted of murder or sexual offenses.

On January 8, 2019, an estimated 1.4 million ex-felons regained their right to vote. This is monumental. Prior to this amendment, Florida was one of four states that used felony disenfranchisement. Amendment 4 gives voice, and rightfully so, to felons who have served their time. Amendment 4 is also putting to rest, finally, years and years of disenfranchisement and suppression.

Now, only two months after its passage, the House Criminal Justice Committee is trying to water down this piece of legislation. This is a direct violation of the will of the 64% of Floridians who voted for the legislation as is. This amendment was not to be "clarified," as Governor DeSantis put it, but rather to be self-implementing.

However, the House Criminal Justice Committee proposed a bill that would tack on some extra qualifiers in order for felons to be enfranchised. The bill will require court fines, fees, and other "financial obligations" (in addition to fees administered in a judge's sentence) to be paid in full before a felon's voting rights are restored. This seems awfully similar to a poll tax to me. Obviously, this is going to affect people without a lot of resources rather than white-collar criminals who can afford a $500,000 bond.

This new qualifier will prevent felons from voting based on the money that can be coughed up as if they don't have to worry about their finances long after they leave prison.

Some may argue that these felons shouldn't have committed a crime in the first place. However, I would argue that holding a felon's vote hostage on the basis of money is unconstitutional.

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