Dear Past Self, You're Fine

I think it's time we learned a few very important things


Dear Past Self,

I think it's time we learned a few very important things.

It's time we learned that plans don't always follow the way you want them to.

It's time we learned that friendships end sometimes for no reason, and I think it's time we learn that better things are on the way for us both.

As of right now, you're thinking of attending a big Ivy League college for some reason, however that won't be the case for us in the future. You're going to attend a University that's going to be beautiful to you even after you've attended for three years.

I'm sure you still want to pursue a career in culinary just like your dad, but later on you're going to learn to love completely different things, and despite what others say, that's okay.

It's okay to drift away from what you once thought you wanted to do. It's okay to love different things and to want to study them instead, and despite what your family says, you're not a failure or a mess: you're a smart person who has a very bright future ahead.

You're okay.

Friendships unfortunately end in ways that aren't understandable, even to this day, and that's okay. It's okay to feel sad and heartbroken over a friendship that didn't last as long as you thought it would. Sometimes it's better that way.

However, it's because of those broken friendships that you learned new things about yourself that make all the pain worthwhile, and it's that new knowledge that gives you the wonderful chance to meet people who you now consider family.

You're okay.

Confusion, pain and anxiety are all things that you're going to go through in life, no matter what.

Confusion over what you want to study and what you want to achieve in life, pain over heartbreaks and hardships that you'll have and anxiety because things just never go according to plan despite our best intentions.

Regardless of all of that though, you'll be okay.

Even now, as an adult, I still struggle with a few of these things; however, it's important to understand that, as a child, the world doesn't rest on your shoulders. You're not supposed to know what you want to do ten years from now or what college you want to attend.

For the moment, focus on having fun and understand that being different isn't bad.

Above all, though, always stay humble and kind.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.

Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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