Although I am not into the "Grey’s Anatomy" kick, it is not difficult for me to understand the concept of the statement, “You’re my person.” The premise of this statement is that one character is so invested in the other (on a best friend level) that she is referred to as “my person” by the other character. In today’s society, it is seen more often than not that we often look for our “person” in someone else.

The idea that we are incomplete without another person is far too prevalent. That idea has been so deeply engrained in our heads that we often feel shame in our own self-assurance. Regardless of what the media, people or even "Grey’s Anatomy" says, it is possible (and beneficial) to be your own person.

There is strength in singularity.

Personally, I was always someone who was afraid of being alone. Whether that be relationship-related or friendship-related, I always hated the idea of not having someone around me. I thought that if I wasn't surrounded by an entourage of people, that my validity as a person was somehow diminished. Why? I don't know, but somewhere along the way in my adolescent years, I equated having a gigantic group of friends with importance. So that's how I spent a lot of my time: worrying about how many friends I could truly claim. And you know what I learned? There is not always strength in numbers. You could be surrounded by 100 "friends" who hurt you, lie to you and don't support your dreams. Sometimes, the more people you allow into your space, the more detrimental they can be to you (that is, if you allow the wrong people in your life).

I got to a point where the more "friends" I tried to claim, the less connected I felt to people. I felt like I was constantly tiptoeing on everyone's feelings, carefully trying to avoid making anyone dislike me. I put so much effort into having a big group around me that I just felt like another number. A pawn in a game much bigger than myself. That's why I realized that there is much more strength in singularity. Not in a way that forces you to be antisocial or believe all people to be untrustworthy. Realizing the strength in singularity simply means that if the time comes, being alone won't break you. You alone have enough strength to hold your own head high, without the appraisal of others.

There is power in self-affirmation.

Affirm is defined as "to state or assert positively." In my opinion, there is something so powerful in recognizing your own value. An even more powerful act is asserting that value. Luckily for me, I've been surrounded by a number of people who never fail to tell me how much they love me. However, none of those words have any meaning unless I believe them. Someone could be told 1,000 times a day just how beautiful they are, but no one can make them see or feel anything that they constantly reject. You must know, without having to be told, that you are great. Stand firm in your greatness, and then it's undeniable.

There is happiness in being your own best friend.

Oftentimes, being your own best friend is mistaken for being "antisocial" or "stuck up." Of course, that's not what I mean when I say you should be your own friend. Think of everything we typically look for in a best friend: someone who's loyal, someone who defends us, someone who respects us, and most importantly, someone who is there for us. Think about those qualities for just a second. Why is it that we can't be all of those things for ourselves? Since when did those traits and "I" become mutually exclusive? We should aim to be a loyal, respectful and dependable friend to ourselves every day. That doesn't mean you aren't allowed to have other friends; it simply means that you can, and should, be a friend to yourself.

This message is not meant to completely sway you away from all of your friends. The most important message to take away from this is that it's OK—more than OK, actually—to love yourself.

Note to self: you're my person.