Most of the people that know me know about Sassy, she is a girl that lives down the street from me and it pretty much my little sister. We have a bond that is unexplainable. So Sassy, here is my open letter to you.
Dear Sassy,
You have been my girl for quite sometime now. We have sister nights, sleep overs, shopping trips, you are one of my work out partners, and most importantly you are one of my best friends. Something you do not know is that I have so much that I wish for you and want for you. It all starts with me simply just praying for you, praying you have guidance and wisdom to help you make the right choices. I always try and find the right advice to give to you, and sometimes I know I fail at what to say and that is okay because you understand that I still tried.
I hope that you never have to experience true heart break. I know you have had "break ups" but you are also only 14, and love gets so much more complicated and sticky. I have seen you cry too much for my liking, but I like that you came to me to cry. I know that sounds weird to think about, but like any sister I am glad you decided not to fight this sadness by yourself and you let me stand by your side. I always have to remind you that whoever you date now is not the person you marry. You might not realize that when you are hurting, I am too because I can not take the pain away, and all I want is for you to be okay.
You are enough. I want this statement to stick with you for as long as you live. I say this because for some reason your generation has a mind set that you are so centered around your friends, whoever you are dating or materialistic things. I always want you to remember that you can be beautiful on the outside but truly you should be beautiful on the inside. Having an ugly inside shows that your self worth is not very much, and let me tell you, you are worth so much than you give your self credit for. I never want you to sell yourself short, never let some guy determine who you are.
Choose your friends wisely little one. The people you surround yourself with are the people that help label you who you are. I know I tell you this often but it is only because I want what is best for you. I know sometimes you get frustrated with me because I do not think you should be friends with someone and normally you do not let me explain why. Here is why. I have been you before, I know what it is like to be 14 and be mesmerized by "cool" friends. My reasoning may not make sense now, but when you have a younger girl look up to you, you will understand why I want you to hang out with the people that will make you a better person. I want you to flourish from the inside, and be humble and to show the world the real you. I understand that we make bad choices at times and we have to live with the circumstances, but I have been you and know how you feel.
Syd, you will always be my girl and I will always love you. I am always here for you and will always be here for you. You may be a pain in my butt at times, but then again I am so very glad that you are my pain. I am so proud of everything that you have accomplished and everything that you will. You have such a bright future ahead of you, and I can not wait to see you spread your wings and fly.
Love Always,
Your Big Sister
