I am a lady, or I try my hardest to be so. I still cuss, I burp, and sometimes I laugh at inappropriate things. I'm human. On a Saturday morning you'll find me in my PJs, hair a mess, probably scrolling through my facebook news feed. I dream of a fairy tale love story, and in the moment... you fit into that.

I will do anything for you eventually. Once you've dazzled me into that stage where love is truly blind. You will have me fooled with sweet text messages and written notes you slip to me in passing. But behind my back, you're talking about the next girl, about the side girl, about any other girl. You will leave me and our fairy tale behind and I will sit broken-hearted as I watch the dust you kicked up on the way out plume around my soul and my heart. Oh, my fragile little heart.

Dear Guy,

To the next one, the current one, the old one. Whoever you may be, please listen and know that we do not understand and to take advantage of that is a cruel and repulsive act. The girls that you are breaking piece by piece are sisters, friends, mothers, and daughters. Have you ever thought about the reason your sister comes home crying at night could be because of a boy, just like yourself, has done the same thing to her that you have done to countless others? Did you bat an eyelash at the fact that one day some guy will come to the door to pick up your daughter and he may be just like you?

With all of that being said, you will not come first, second, or even third. You will take a backseat to my dreams and goals. I have given my all to the wrong people throughout my life and I am just now beginning to get back the pieces and realize my worth, so you will not be taking them anytime soon.

You will be important, but I will not pick between you and any of my friends. They have been there far longer than you have and they will continue to be there long after you. How dare you have the audacity to decide who I can and can not talk to. Shame on myself for allowing you that power over my life.

I will not allow you to talk to me like I mean nothing. I am a human. If you can not respect me and my wishes then why would you expect me to do the same? A relationship is a two-way street. The minute you turn down a one way I will be taking the nearest exit.

My education will come before you. I will not skip class, change my major, change my schools, or any variant of that for you. I made this decision for myself, not for you. If you are afraid of a woman being well educated then you have come to the wrong person. Accept the fact that I will be able to argue with you using logic and cited sources.

Mr. Right if you're reading this just know this is not about you, this is about the ones we have/ will encounter. But you should also know that you will have to experience the aftermath. You will have to deal with how apprehensive we are to move forward, how slow we will take things, and how cautious we are. This eventually will fade as you start to break down the walls, one by one.

Guys, please don't be the one who ruins the L word for us.

Sincerely,

The broken-hearted club.