Dear Girlfriend who stole my Best Friend,

There are probably a lot of mean things I could start out saying to you in this letter, but that's not why I'm writing this. I am not a mean person, and I don't want to hurt you or treat you badly even though you have done those things to me.

As a girlfriend, your job is to protect, support, and love your boyfriend. You are also supposed to be his best friend. Interesting, I know. What you have done to my best friend, your boyfriend, is exactly the opposite of what you're supposed to do.

Making my best friend choose between his friends and you was one of the first mistakes you made. I never had a problem with you until my best friend came to me upset almost every day because you were treating him badly.

You ruined his birthday and didn't even get him a present? What the heck! I understand in college our budgets are tight, but you could have at least made him a card, a cake, dinner, something! You also told him a lot of terrible things that no girlfriend should. That's the point where my opinion of you went downhill, and rightfully so.

I am a very, very understanding person. I get that life can suck and relationships are hard. However, something I have never understood was how people say they love you and care for you, but they think it's OK to treat you like crap?

If you really loved my best friend, you would never purposely hurt him. Just because you have been in his life for a while doesn't mean you get to control him or own him!

My best friend is an amazing guy, and I miss him more than you will ever know. He is kind, strong, willing to help anyone by putting a smile on their face, hilarious, giving, and so much more. You took all of those qualities for granted with your negativity and cruelty.

Of course, it is not my place to get involved in your relationship, I never did, until that day he came to me and asked for advice and help. Which, of course, I gave him, and, of course, he ignored it because he loves you that much. That just shows you what type of person he is; a good one!

I want you to know that controlling every part of someone's life, like not allowing them to be with their friends, will come back to haunt you. One of these days, I hope you learn what it is like to be a good girlfriend, and I get my best friend back. Just know that hurting and controlling someone will never bring you happiness or love. If you were hurt or offended by me standing up for myself and my best friend, just wait until the day he decides to leave.

I wish I could count on you being a better girlfriend, the one he deserves. I also wish you were a good enough girlfriend to stop controlling him and allow me to hang out with my best friend again, but I know that will never happen.

I'm also sorry you never gave me the opportunity to get to know you better. I know there are always two sides of the story.

I just want my best friend back, and I hope one of these days either he grows up and realizes that he deserves better, or another girl walks into his life.

He deserves someone better. To an extent, I'm sorry that better person isn't you, because I'm sure you need him.

Sincerely,

The Girl who misses her Best Friend