An Open Letter To My Best Friend

An Open Letter To My Best Friend

A huge "thank you" for everything that you do.
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Dear best friend,

We all know that narrative — the tale of kindred spirits and soulmates. It's what we see in movies about two people who grow up as best friends or who meet and instantly know they're bonded for eternity. But I can say with complete confidence that that is not the case for us.

Most of the years we've known each other we didn't even speak to another. In fact, if you travelled back in time even just a year and told me that we were going to be the best of friends today, I probably would have shaken my head in disbelief. But now, I can barely imagine getting through a day without one of the greatest blessings I've ever received — your friendship.

But let me begin with our bad moments. We are both awkward people who are a bit arrogant yet unsure of how to conduct ourselves in large groups of people. We have different views on social issues and we don't even like the same music. We often get into arguments and clash over small things. To be honest, there were even times I'm pretty sure we didn't even like each other all that much.

But friendship isn't about a pristine, perfect relationship that always exists between the two of us. For us, friendship is a conscious choice. It's a choice to pick each other up when we feel down. It's your choice to give me endless patience and help me sort through bad thoughts, and it's mine to stay up with you far into the AM hours to cry with you. It's our choice to not give up on each other.

And because our friendship is our choice and not some bond forged from fate and chance encounters, I know that our friendship means just as much to you as it does to me. You send a tidal wave of happiness and love to me every single day and for that, I am endlessly thankful. So although I am confident that we aren't movie-material soulmates, I'm also pretty damn confident that we're going to best friends for a long time.

Sincerely,

The most grateful friend in the world

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Whenever you hear about roommate stories, they're almost never good, and they usually scare you into never wanting a roommate. "Did you hear her roommate steals her clothes?" "Her roommate doesn't shower!" "Wow, her roommate doesn't talk at all, and doesn't do laundry." From what I hear, there are more bad stories than good. That is why I consider myself lucky, because my roommate is nothing like one of those bad stories. When life hands you a good roommate after talking to about 40 girls through Facebook, a few things happen.

1. You always have someone to talk to.

2. You know each other's schedules, and whenever you both have a break is an exciting time.

3. You'll never have to dance alone.


4. You always have someone to do something with, even if it's just walking down the hall.

5. You both look out for each other, because this is your first time without your parents.

6. You always have a shoulder to lean on when things get tough.

7. Borrowing each other's things is a daily thing.

8. You TRY to help with each other's homework and assignments.

9. They're encouraging when it comes to boys. (Unless they're a f*ckboy.)

10. They're your biggest support system and your personal cheerleader.

11. They never forget to wish you luck on a big exam.

12. They accept how gross you are in the morning and not so pleasant sometimes.

13. You both know each other's favorite and least favorite things.

14. Leaving each other notes saying goodbye before class if you don't see them is normal.

15. Saying goodbye for breaks is upsetting.

16. Not seeing them all day is upsetting.

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18. You found a best friend for life.

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10 Thoughtful Things You Can Do In A Long Distance Friendship That Your Friend Will Sure Appreciate

Here's some advice for how to make the college split a little easier on the friendships that mean the most.

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Everyone always talks about long-distance relationships and how challenging they are but no one ever mentions how tough it can be to leave your lifelong best friends for school. Much like long-distance relationships, long-distance friendships take a ton of work. While it may seem like staying close to your bestie is impossible, with the right level of intent, your relationship will grow in more ways than you thought possible. Here are 10 ways you can keep your friendship strong, even hundreds of miles apart.

1. Be intentional about FaceTime.  

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School gets extremely busy. Make the time to FaceTime or HouseParty on a regular schedule. Being able to see your friend (or friends) face-to-face will make everything easier.

2. Make it a point to check in over text, even if it's just one message every few days. 

One "Hey, I love you" text message can make the difference in your friend's day. It takes three seconds to send a sweet text to a far away friend.

3. Keep notes of important life events that need to be shared so that you're prepared when you DO have time to talk. 

When you're only talking once a week it can be really easy to forget the highlights (or lowlights for that matter) since the last time you talked. There is nothing worse than sitting on the phone with nothing to say. Take short notes about your week so you can properly fill in your friend.

4. Send a care package. 

Even if it's something small, sending a meaningful gift is a great way to show a friend that you're thinking about them. Send a stressed out friend some tea or essential oils. Send your friend some snacks during exam week, these small gifts can go a long way.

5. Write an actual real life paper note. 

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When did people stop writing notes? Who doesn't LOVE getting mail? These are all super relevant questions. Sit down and write a friend a letter, it'll mean more to them than you realize.

6. Do something weekly to make them laugh or smile. 

This could literally be as small as sending jokes every once in a while. Making the effort to get a smile out of a best friend is the literal core of good friendship. You know your best friend more than anyone else. You know what they'll love.

7. Start an active group message. 

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If you are hoping to stay in touch with more than just one person, make an active group message. While some group messages can be annoying, they can also be a super fun way to quickly share something great with more than one person.

8. Look for small meaningful gifts. 

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Stockpile some small presents for when you see your friend again. There are few things sweeter than getting small mementoes from the time you missed with your friend. Even something as small as a postcard from a weekend away will speak volumes.

9. Introduce them to new friends and keep them updated by name. 

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The hardest part about keeping track of old friends is the fact that you're actively making new ones. Introducing your old friends to your new friends by name will make your old friends feel included in your life. Also, it will allow for way better phone conversations.

10. Coordinate with a roommate and plan a surprise visit. 

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Making the trip to see a friend is the best surprise ever. Become friends with a roommate or school friend and plan a time for the ultimate surprise.

Good friendships take work. Long-distance friendships may take even more work but the payoff is that much greater. Take the time and do something special for your friends near and far. You need them and they need you. A little distance never hurt anybody. There is no such thing has "goodbye," just a whole lot of "see you later." Be intentional with your long-distance friends and before you know it, you'll be reunited.

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