Breakups are tough. No matter how long or short the relationship was, there will always be heart ache that comes along. Love or lust -- no matter the feelings, there really is no pain like a breakup. You may have wanted it with all your heart but sometimes, things just don't work out and as sucky as it is there is nothing you can do. So what do you do when your heart is shattered but you need to continue as though nothing has happened?
1. Cry
Crying is okay. This transitional period is hard, it sucks and its just not something you can get out of without feeling emotions. This person was a part of your life and has had a lasting impact on you. No matter what they will forever have a special place in your heart.
2. Forgive
No matter what happened in the past, you can never fully move on without forgiving the other for whatever past mistakes were made. Growing up together is part of the journey and learning together is part of it as well. Mistakes were made on both parts so as you begin to cope try to understand them.
3. Eat Junk Food
Okay, this is the most important, I love food and lately I have had no appetite so I just have been eating crap. Pure garbage packed with sugar and my life feels a little more balanced again.
4. Smile
This is hard -- forcing a smile when it seems as though your world is falling apart around you. Nothing is harder but when you start to smile, it becomes contagious and then becomes an attitude. When you start to think positive the negative begins to fade and your days will start to feel shorter and brighter.
5. Surround Yourself With Good People
Friends will be so important throughout this period of time. Trying to bottle up emotions and trying to act like nothing is going on will make this period of your life so much harder. Surround yourself with people who want the best for you who will let your cry but also tell you to pick yourself up and keep moving.
6. Pray
Pray for strength and pray for peace. Pray that God gives you the strength to move on and not dwell on the past and pray that God gives you peace for the future.
7. Sleep
I have had the hardest time sleeping because I can't stop replaying what is happening in my mind. I can't stop feeling what I am and I wake up more tired and more emotionally and physically drained. Sleep is important in the healing process. Plus who doesn't want an excuse to nap?
8. Talk About Your Feelings
It's okay to talk about why you are sad, and what you're going through. Talking can help you think through these emotions and through your pain. It can help you try to understand what happened and reminisce on the good and the bad. Talk it out, trust me.
9. Stay Off Social Media
Don't look to see if they deleted your pictures, they probably did and your heart will be torn into a million pieces. They probably blocked you and unfollowed you. They may even tweet about you. It sucks. That's it. It sucks. It hurts but there's nothing you can do about it, so do yourself a favor and just stay off of it.
10. Give Yourself Time
Give yourself time to heal and to feel your pain. Pain is real. Heartache is real. Sadness is real. Feel the emotions. There will good good days and bad days. I will be laughing one second and start bawling the next because I remember laughing with my ex. Emotions are crazy, they are really a trip. They take you for a ride but ride it out. Let them run their course so that you can truly heal and give yourself time to cope with this sudden loss. It's not easy.
11. Remember
Remember you have a life full of happiness waiting to surround you. This person may be the wrong person for you in the long run and the heartache you feel is nothing compared to what could have come later on. The happiness you felt will not compare to what God has in store for you next. God has a plan far better than what we can see. We just have to be patient and trust he knows what He is doing.
