At some point in your life, you will meet someone who means everything to you. Everything they do and say is perfect in your eyes, even if they're wrong. Everything about them is sacred to you, down to the clothes they wear. They make you feel like everything is okay, even if it's not, and they are your home away from home. But when that one person betrays you and your trust, you feel like you're losing it. Nothing makes sense anymore, and your pillow is full of tears. Dealing with a heartbreak is not easy, but it's surely possible.
On some days, it's really hard to handle, because you heard that song that reminds you of them or you smell their scent on someone who just walked past you. However, being strong is the golden rule. At times, you will feel vulnerable and start to look back at all the pictures you have stashed away in a private folder in your computer. You might even stalk their friends to see how they're doing, but you have to be stronger than that. Don't text them and say "I miss you" or like one of their photos on Facebook, hoping they'd see your name and miss you too. Don't cave in, because ultimately, you are only hurting yourself.
There are going to be days where you just want to lay in bed with a bag of popcorn and watch that movie you both enjoyed on rainy days. There are going to be days where everything you do reminds you of them, or when you remember what it was like to go on spontaneous family outings with them whenever you see their family at the grocery store. But you have to remember that they betrayed you and that they don't deserve your awesomeness. You can never forget your worth either. You can't let someone continuously hurt you and let them think it's okay. Chances are, if the person does something wrong and you let it go, they will just do it again; testing you time and time again. If they really loved you, they wouldn't hurt you in the first place. So don't fall into that trap.
You will be at Thanksgiving dinner and your grandparents, not knowing the sorrow and hurt you feel, will ask about that person. You will try and hold in your tears and anger towards that person and refrain yourself from telling your grandparents that you have no idea how they are or what they are doing at that moment. Instead you'll hit them with the "they're doing great," even though you have no idea.
At times. you're going to want to pick up the phone and tell them that you just aced your Physics exam or that you got the Internship at GE. They were the ones that you wanted to share your good news with, and even the bad, because they knew how to cheer you up. Now, you're left to be your own source of happiness, and that kills you.
But we are all stronger than we think and, as long as you take it day by day and learn how to go on without them there by your side, you'll eventually be okay. It's like they say; time heals all wounds. If you need to cry every once in a while, then do it. Don't hold it in, because then you'll just grow bitter. It's okay to break down. You will find yourself doing it more often through the first few weeks or months after the breakup. As time goes on, you will learn how to deal with the grief. It may take longer for some, but we'll all get there eventually.
