Everyone is different and everyone knows that. There are people who are spontaneous and fly by the seat of their pants. These people live for the moment and embrace the change as it comes their way. Scary, right?
Then, there are other people. People who plan out every moment of every day and don't do anything without a plan. Change scares those people. Change throws off a perfectly calculated plan and causes chaos. These people hate change and it can be hard to deal with. I am one of these people, I hate change.
The people who hate change love patterns and a routine. When a routine is thrown off, it is easy to struggle with the adjustment. So how do you deal with that? I am not be the best person to give advice on how to deal with change, but here is what I have learned. You can't always have a routine. Routines can help, but they can also hurt. Many times they lead to disappointment, because something is off and then you are left feeling lost.
People who hate change do love control, though. This is why we cannot be spontaneous. There is no control in spontaneity. Usually, when change happens, it is because of an outside force which causes the person the change is happening to to feel out of their element. The lack of control leads to anxiety and panic. So what is the best way to deal with control issues? Either gain control again or have faith in the universe that somehow this is how things are suppose to work.
People who hate change also want an easy fix. Advice doesn't always work and sitting and pondering the change is not going to help. The hardest thing for me to always learn is that I cannot fix everything. I can do my best and hope for the best, but this is does not mean I can fix it.
For people who hate change, you have to push out of your comfort zone. Far out, I mean really far out. You have to let life come at you and deal with it in the moment. You have to branch out and be in the moment no matter how much that eats at you and you want to write it down in your planner. You have to lose control every once in a while and trust in something that is bigger than yourself. You don't need to be a fixer all the time.
Coming from a person who has a deep hatred of change, I am learning... slowly. When change happens, you have to change. Changing yourself can be the first part in dealing with change. You can either resist it or deal with change. Change is staying, no matter what, you just have to decide if you want to change with it.
