18 Ways To Deal With Stress When It Feels Unavoidable

18 Ways To Deal With Stress When It Feels Like Everything Is Wrong

It's so hard to just know what to do when nothing's working out.


I'm gonna be honest, it can be hard to accept the things that we want to change. Yes, I'm aware of how cheesy that this sounds like, but whether it's stress or frustration, feeling burnt out, or just some sort of block- there are ways to handle LIFE. Whoever said Karma's a bitch, meant that about LIFE. Because let's be honest, life can be a bitch.

1. Change your study space

Whether it's:

- cleaning your room

- doing some dishes

- walk to a coffee shop

- moving to a different room

- rearranging your desk

or however you want a change of space, but changing space will open your mind and allow you to hopefully see the space you're in differently.

2. Re-focus

It can be difficult to take ourselves out of the stress we're in but once done it'll make seeing things differently easier.

3. Drink some water

"Hydrate or die-drate"

4. Listen to music

Or even have your own dance party by yourself. Not sure what to listen to? Check out this list of songs that'll make you smile.

5. Exercise

Nothing's better than letting off some steam. Or even just taking a walk outside works too, the fresh air can help clear your mind.

6. Cry

I, for one, am probably not one to talk because I just don't like crying. But I do understand that it helps to just let it happen once in a while and let the emotions and tears spill over the edge.

7. Write a "to-do" list

Sometimes, it helps to just know what you need to get done and go down the list. I used to hate to do lists when they were given to me, but I've learned that they're actually beneficial.

8. Color something

My sister loves coloring books because they relieve stress. Weirdly, they stress me out because I want it to be perfect. Ironic isn't it? Because coloring is actually supposed to relax you and relieve stress.

9. Call a family member or a friend

Sometimes it's nice to just call someone and catch up or even just talk about life. Try not to rant, but talking to someone who isn't with you almost every day can be relieving.

10. Scroll through social media

Or even watch some of a favorite TV show. I love watching vines and vine compilations when I get bored or want a small break from studying and being super busy. Either way, try to limit yourself so you don't procrastinate and run out of time and stress yourself out.

11. Eat and/or drink something

I know I can be guilty of not getting food when I actually need it, but sometimes a snack can be beneficial even if we don't think that we need it. Try to avoid caffeine as much as possible because sometimes it makes stress worse.

12. Take a nap

I can't nap unless I'm almost exhausted. (trust me I hate it too) Although, It is nice to just sleep and recharge sometimes too.

13. Journal

For a while, I tried to write in a journal, but I was never very good at it. If there is such a thing. Anyway, journaling is for writing out everything you're feeling and just letting it out without having to worry about judgment from a person.

14. Light a candle

Candles go well with baths or even just sitting around taking it in and enjoying the scent.

15. Take a shower

Sometimes it's nice to just stand under the hot water and be enveloped in that moment. Baths work too if that's more your style.

16. Learn to say no to procrastination

Biggest. Problem. Right. Here.

It's hard to just see your own procrastination and say no. It can be difficult to keep doing work or whatever you're doing even when your head gets tired. Personally, this is something that I struggle with and it never seems to get any easier.

17. Do some deep breathing or try some yoga

18. Look at your pictures

I have a wall of pictures above my desk dedicated to pictures that bring me happy memories so I can look up at them and remember some laughs or other memories that I treasure. I'm a memories person. I know that sounds weird, but I really love just looking back on good memories and times because it makes me smile and I can remember times where I was happy amidst the stress.

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Working With People Who Are Dying Teaches You So Much About How To Live

Spending time with hospice patients taught me about the art of dying.


Death is a difficult subject.

It is addressed differently across cultures, lifestyles, and religions, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say when in the company of someone who is dying. I have spent a lot of time working with hospice patients, and I bore witness to the varying degrees of memory loss and cognitive decline that accompany aging and disease.

The patients I worked with had diverse stories and interests, and although we might have had some trouble understanding each other, we found ways to communicate that transcended any typical conversation.

I especially learned a lot from patients severely affected by dementia.

They spoke in riddles, but their emotions were clearly communicated through their facial expressions and general demeanor, which told a story all on their own.

We would connect through smiles and short phrases, yes or no questions, but more often than not, their minds were in another place. Some patients would repeat the details of the same event, over and over, with varying levels of detail each time.

Others would revert to a child-like state, wondering about their parents, about school, and about family and friends they hadn't seen in a long time.

I often wondered why their minds chose to wander to a certain event or time period and leave them stranded there before the end of their life. Was an emotionally salient event reinforcing itself in their memories?

Was their subconscious trying to reconnect with people from their past? All I could do was agree and follow their lead because the last thing I wanted to do was break their pleasant memory.

I felt honored to be able to spend time with them, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was intruding on their final moments, moments that might be better spent with family and loved ones. I didn't know them in their life, so I wondered how they benefited from my presence in their death.

However, after learning that several of the patients I visited didn't have anyone to come to see them, I began to cherish every moment spent, whether it was in laughter or in tears. Several of the patients never remembered me. Each week, I was a new person, and each week they had a different variation of the same story that they needed to tell me.

In a way, it might have made it easier to start fresh every week rather than to grow attached to a person they would soon leave.

Usually, the stories were light-hearted.

They were reliving a memory or experiencing life again as if it were the first time, but as the end draws nearer, a drastic shift in mood and demeanor is evident.

A patient who was once friendly and jolly can quickly become quiet, reflective, and despondent. I've seen patients break down and cry, not because of their current situation, but because they were mourning old ones. These times taught me a lot about how to be just what that person needs towards the end of their life.

I didn't need to understand why they were upset or what they wanted to say.

The somber tone and tired eyes let me know that what they had to say was important and worth hearing. What mattered most is that someone who cared was there to hear it.

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My First College Gal Pal Road Trip Was Amazing

Every girl should have one good girls trip.


In some way or another, everybody has a list of things they want to do in their lives before it's all over. After all, we're human. There's adventure to be had in every life. One thing I have always wanted to do before I grew too old and grey was go on a road trip with my gal pals to the beach. A couple weeks ago, I achieved this memorable milestone, and it allowed me to open up to new surroundings and experiences.

On this trip, I went with two of my friends from college, Kait and Lindsey, to visit my roommate Elizabeth in Virginia Beach. This was pretty big for Lindsey and I because neither of us had been to Virginia Beach before. Thankfully Elizabeth and Kait knew their way around the city, so we never got lost on our way to and fro.

Like most vacations, my favorite parts probably took place at the beach. I'm always at utter peace stomping through mushy sand or leaning down to splash the salty water that tries to knock my short self over. We took pictures and did something us college girls rarely have time to do especially in school: Relax.

The four of us did not live up to the crazed stereotype of girl trips in movies. Although I finally got a chance to sing along to Taylor Swift in a car ride with my friends, so that's always a plus. We played "Top Golf" one day, and by some miracle, I actually won the second game by a fair amount after much humiliation in the first one. We visited some of Elizabeth's family, and I finally got to meet her giant dog Apollo (I call him 'Wolf Dog'). Everyday was another chance to ask with enthusiasm: "So what are we doing today?"

Our trip wasn't like the movies where we all cried or confessed our deepest darkest secrets. Everything the four of us shared was laughter and this calm feeling of being at home, in the chaotic peace of each other's company. We understand each other a little better due to finally seeing what we're like outside of Longwood University. After this, all I can say is that we're most definitely planning the next one!

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