How many of you go home for Thanksgiving or Christmas and all of your family asks one of the following questions, "So where is your boyfriend/girlfriend?", "When are you ever going to get married?", or my favorite "Why are you not dating anyone?". Please tell me I am not the only person who has to go through this. I love my family and all, but they don't understand that I am seriously trying to finish college first. Guys, if someone does come into my life, I will let you all know.
Just the other day I watched a video of a health teacher who decided to teach his eighth-grade girls' health class about dating and boys. One of the major points that he made stuck out to me: we should be dating with a purpose.
Ask yourself, "Why am I dating?" Hopefully, if you are college-aged, your answer will be, "I am dating to find my potential husband/wife." A lot of people that know me know that I have not dated very much for this very reason. I am not one of those people who wants a huge list of exes that I feel like I wasted my time. Especially people who I knew were not going to be around for my life.
So with that being said, I hope that young girls and guys will see that there is more to dating than just being with someone because you like the way they look or because they are popular. You know you are really ready to date whenever you can look at someone and think, "I love their family;" "I love how they act around children and they would make a great parent to my future children;" "They are passionate about something;" or anything along those lines. Your decision should have nothing to do with the way the look or how many people like them. Also, before you date and plan on someone else loving you, you need to love yourself. You can not love someone the right way until you learn to do this because when you love yourself, you know your worth. I know too many girls that get walked all over by the guys they are dating even when the guys say that they "love" them. With everything being said, I hope that everyone takes into consideration that dating with a purpose can save you a lot of time and heartache.
