Dating Culture In Our Society Sucks And Here's Why

Dating Culture In Our Society Sucks And Here's Why

Valentine's Day coming up, I have been thinking a lot about dating and hookup culture in our society today. Whether we realize it or not, there are a lot of expectations for college-aged students in regards to their relationship status and experience.

I don't know what it is about our society today, but I think that there is some sort of constant expectation or pressure for people in their late teens and early twenties to have a certain amount of experience when it comes to relationships. The media plays a huge role in this. We get this expectation from what we see and hear in the media about relationships and sex. Take the Bachelor, Colton, for example. This season they have made such a big deal about him being a virgin. So what? Why is it expected by society that he shouldn't be a virgin at his age? Everyone is different and has different reasons for their choices and experiences in life. Nothing should be expected from anyone, no matter who you are or how old you are. He is seen as unique, but I'm sure there are plenty of guys his age that are also virgins.

I think that our society has this standard or expectation that people should have a certain amount of experience when it comes to relationships and dating by a certain age. But I also think that a lot of people don't fit this expectation, and that should be seen as completely normal if you don't because it is normal. From conversations I have had with friends recently, I have found that a majority of us have not had a serious relationship yet in our lives. Others, like me, have only had one or two. I know people that didn't have their first kiss until their late teens or early twenties, or even some people that haven't yet. This is much more normal than our society makes it seem. There really is no reasons to expect that we should have dated or kissed or hooked up with a certain amount of people just because we are in college.

This can also go the other way for people who may have a lot of experience when it comes to relationships and dating. There really should be no standard for how many people you should have dated or hooked up with by a certain age. Just like in every other aspect of life, everyone is different, and that's okay! We need to stop worrying about feeling the need to date someone just because "everyone else" is, when in reality, not everyone is. There's also the fact that everyone treats dating and relationships differently. Some people want it to be more casual, while other people or waiting and looking for something serious. I hate that there's always people telling you "don't date in college" or asking if you have a boyfriend. Either is just fine. Dating casually is fine. Being single is fine. Just forget about the standards you think you need to meet because that is what society has made seem "normal". There really isn't a normal when it comes to dating, so who cares what everyone else thinks, just be you.

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