They aren't their own person because they are too busy playing someone else. They love their co-star more than you. They are too broken to care about someone else. Actors are the worst.
Sure, you can think this if you want to. However, the actor who I'm dating and the actors and actresses who I know don't quite fit this mold.
When dating or just being around actors, actresses, or the theatre in general, you would be surprised by what you learn.
Dating an actor is just like dating anyone else.
They are normal people (well, whatever normal is) with normal struggles. They are people who love things, who hate things, and who get hurt. They are people who don't have friends, who have tons, who love being alone, and who hate it. They are people who are very secure and people who aren't. They do love you very much, but I'll get to that.
You learn things that you wouldn't expect to.
You learn that your boyfriend can dance in heels while wearing a longer dress than any that you own and he can put on eyeliner better than you can. Or, if you're dating an actress, you learn that your girlfriend can play a male character flawlessly and that she has the ability to cry on cue (a talent that most girls wish that they possessed).
Yeah, those aren't things that you expect, or, at least, I didn't.
Kissing can be a part of a job.
"How can you deal with him kissing someone else?" That's a loaded question. I would rather not sit in a dark theatre and watch my boyfriend kiss someone else, much like how I'm certain that the boyfriend of the girl my boyfriend is kissing would rather not be sitting there either, but it is what it is. Passion, kissing, and being in love with a co-star is part of their job and you have to realize that.
Theatre friendships are their own kind of friendship.
My boyfriend is a musical theatre major and the friendships that I have seen made through theatre are one of a kind. They seem stronger than other friendships, as they just care so much about each other. I believe that the special bond that forms happens because, once a show is cast, it's over in two or three months. In that small window of time, each person pours their heart into a show in order to make it the best that it can be.
You have to be ready for anything.
"Honey, I flew above the stage today." "Guess what? I have to wear tights in my next show." "They cancelled rehearsal, what do you want to do?"
You have no choice but to go with the flow. When there is an audition, they will find a way to get to it. When there is a job available, they will take it. Constantly having to be on your toes is an understatement.
It's worth it.
Dating people with a type of artistic talent, actors or otherwise, is worth it. They have a mind that is unlike any other's. They are very passionate about life as well as being thinkers, risk takers, and dreamers. Life with them is never boring, never stagnant, and you learn things about each other every single day.
They are not the stereotype that comes to mind when you hear the word "actor."
They are beautiful individuals who deserve as much love, friendship, and compassion as anyone else. Plus, most of them can sing.
