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16 Pieces Of Love Advice I Wish I Could Tell Myself At 16

Dating is the WORST as a teenager.

Becca Fulford

Nov 05, 2018

Rhode Island College

16 Pieces Of Love Advice I Wish I Could Tell Myself At 16

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I remember my first boyfriend. We were in 7th grade. He was in a lot of my classes, shorter than I was and quiet. We really only texted/talked on the phone, and held hands on the way to class. We never hung out and we never kissed. So romantic!

Not.

Dating as a teenager is one of the most stressful things going on in a teen's life. We want to date because, romance and relationships are all around us. We see it on TV, movies, singers we like, it's everywhere! The pressure of dating is pushed so much on that age group that they jump right in with no expectations and no idea of what to do. As a 16-year-old, I was confused, my mom definitely steered me in the right direction (thanks mom!).

But here's 16 pieces of love advice I wish I could tell MYSELF at 16:

1. Just because that boy tells you you look better with makeup DOESN'T mean you need it.

Mom will tell you this too, listen to her!

2. It might hurt, but the pain of that break up will not last.

3. Don't text him after the break up, he doesn't deserve to know you're thinking about him.

4. You are your own person, don't force yourself to be something you're not to please a boy.

Another piece of mom advice you should listen to.

5. Don't be afraid to tell that boy to go screw off.

6. If he doesn't like your friends, dump him.

7. If he doesn't like your family, or refuses to go to family outings with you, dump him.

8. Don't date a guy just because he tells you you're pretty. Anyone can tell you're pretty, date the guy that says he likes your intelligence.

Brains over beauty any day!

9. School and family come first, boys come second.

10. Talk to mom about everything, she knows what to say and she's right.

11. If that boy spreads rumors around about you, ignore them. People who REALLY know you, won't believe them.

13. Do what makes YOU happy, not your boyfriend.

13. If mom doesn't like him, you shouldn't

Believe me, mom can sense a bad guy from a mile away. Trust her instinct, but also figure out how to detect them on your own

14. You are strong, don't let him make you feel weak.

15. If he yells at you, makes you feel unsafe, tell mom and break up with him.

16. NO BOY is EVER entitled to YOUR body. If you don't feel comfortable doing something, DO NOT DO IT.

Just because your boyfriend wants to have sex or drink or anything, DOES NOT mean that you have to. There is no "but that's what people do when they're in love" DO NOT DO IT UNTIL YOU ARE READY.

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16 Pieces Of Love Advice I Wish I Could Tell Myself At 16

Dating is the WORST as a teenager.

1. Just because that boy tells you you look better with makeup DOESN'T mean you need it.

2. It might hurt, but the pain of that break up will not last.

3. Don't text him after the break up, he doesn't deserve to know you're thinking about him.

4. You are your own person, don't force yourself to be something you're not to please a boy.

5. Don't be afraid to tell that boy to go screw off.

6. If he doesn't like your friends, dump him.

7. If he doesn't like your family, or refuses to go to family outings with you, dump him.

8. Don't date a guy just because he tells you you're pretty. Anyone can tell you're pretty, date the guy that says he likes your intelligence.

9. School and family come first, boys come second.

10. Talk to mom about everything, she knows what to say and she's right.

11. If that boy spreads rumors around about you, ignore them. People who REALLY know you, won't believe them.

13. Do what makes YOU happy, not your boyfriend.

13. If mom doesn't like him, you shouldn't

14. You are strong, don't let him make you feel weak.

15. If he yells at you, makes you feel unsafe, tell mom and break up with him.

16. NO BOY is EVER entitled to YOUR body. If you don't feel comfortable doing something, DO NOT DO IT.

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

It's mandatory to have these conversations.

1. What do you do for a living?

2. What's your favorite color?

3. Do you have any siblings?

4. What's your favorite television show?

5. When is your birthday?

6. What's your biggest goal in life?

7. If you had three wishes granted to you by a genie, what would they be?

8. What's your favorite childhood memory?

9. If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?

10. Are you a cat or a dog person?

11. Do you believe in a religion or any sort of spiritual power?

12. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be?

13. What is your ideal date night?

14. Who was/is your celebrity crush?

15. What's a good way to cheer you up if you're having a bad day?

16. Do you have any tattoos?

17. Can you describe yourself in three words?

18. What makes you the most nervous in life?

19. What's the best gift you have ever received?

20. What do you do to relax/have fun?

21. What are your priorities at this phase of your life?

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